Like, one day everything’s fine, and the next poof they’ve removed you, blocked you, vanished like you never existed. No warning, no explanation. Just bam, a silent goodbye that feels more like a message: “this is the end.”
What even makes someone do that? Especially when there was no fight, no drama… just a weird, sudden disappearance. It’s so baffling.
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I usually just avoid those kinds of people.
This happens when I see some fucked up backstabbing without them noticing me
the only time i have ever done this has been for a reason. much rather it than having an argument or begging someone to explain why they’re doing a certain thing or acting a certain way. there’s probably a reason for what they did, whatever that reason is, i don’t know
That’s me, but it’s never for no reason it’s usually the result of a buildup of many things. And honestly I just don’t want to go through the whole goodbye thing. The other person doesn’t deserve that kind of clarity or closure
Yup, had someone do that when they were supposed to be in my wedding. No explanation. Just randomly said that we need to talk set a time for us to have a call, then didn’t actually call me and just ghosted me.
Yep. I had a bestie in uni that I did everything with. We loved each other so much and she honestly kept me going whenever it got rough.
On our last day on campus I saw her just to say goodbye. She texted me that evening telling me she has news for me. I asked her what’s up then she never replied. Literally. I texted her again a few days after that because had a flight so I wanted to ensure she travelled safely. Still silence. Apparently she did the same to our mutual friend.
Since then she still watches my stories on instagram. I dm’d her on instagram once but she still ignored me.
It hurt so much and for a whole year I kept replaying our last moments in my head. Always wondered if did or said anything wrong. What is it she was supposed to tell me.
Me and our mutual friend have a theory that she got married to her boyfriend whom we hated and he made her cut contact with us 😂
Also known as ghosting.
I’m sorry this happened to you.
I did it to someone that was an energy vampire, never listened to me.
I was rushed in for emergency surgery once and they couldn’t contact me…. Never even asked what happened and just complained how it made them so upset that I had ghosted them for a week.
I nearly died ffs… I blocked them and never said why, what is the point in trying to explain after that.
Ahh, You were just temporary for that person. A comfort zone. Move on.
yes, one too many times
There is a reason
Some people moreso online.
The only situation that comes to my mind is where, you feel slightly direspected over the span of the relationships, and don’t feel like you’re getting as much as you’re putting in there. There’s so many ppl out there that may be only available when it suits them and aren’t there in your time of need, even though you might be available in their’s, if that happens multiple times at some point youv’e been too charitable and understanding, that they aren’t there in your time of need and you just end it. Sometimes it’s unintentional sometimes the person who’s doing that isn’t even aware, and so it’s very important to become aware of these things that may be pushing people away. But other times it really has nothing to do with you, maybe they just drifted away, maybe they thought they didn’t have anything in common with you, anymore.
Sort of… my ex spent our relationship telling me to communicate instead of shutting him out when things hurt me … said he would be patient with me while I worked through past trauma as long as I talked to him …. Then one day I told him I didn’t appreciate being sworn at and called a name in anger (it was part of my trauma – long term verbal abuse), he argued with me about the relevance of my feelings for a couple of days (which I didn’t cope with as I was forcing myself to talk as he wanted) and then he just blocked me. Shut me out completely.
I have done this. Its mostly because I am tired of their shitty behavior. If they continue to act the way they do, even after I communicate with them, I just choose to remove them from my life without a notice.
Yes, this one bf doesn’t come to our planned date for the Women’s Day (it’s a huge holiday in my country). We’ve been dating for 4 months at this point, I’ve met his family and friends, and we were in daily contact. I texted him when I would finish my work, and he said he would meet me there, as usual. It was on the previous day. He didn’t text me good morning, and nothing at all during the day, and didn’t reply to my texts. I assumed he’s busy at work. Then I convinced myself that he’s preparing a holiday surprise for me. But. He wasn’t on our spot next to my work. I waited for an hour and called him a lot. He didn’t answer. I was devastated. I assumed something bad happened to him. I called all hospitals but he wasn’t there. Then I realized that I was dumped. He was older, rich, and attractive. He had a lot of girls before me. Imagine dressed to the 9s finance bro/salesman.
But I needed closure, so I texted him randomly 4 months later to talk. He agreed to meet me. Apologized. Said that from all his girls (including young naive me), he loved the most his high-school sweetheart woman, but she didn’t want to marry him, and they have complicated on and off relationship. Obviously, he congratulated her on the holiday, and then she said she wanted him back. So he just forgot about me (and the other 4 girls he dated along).
I am good with conversations, so i was able to get him confessed to me the truth. In the end, he said, they broke up again and asked if I wanted to go to his place and used his special voice and smile that always worked on me. Not this time. I was so proud of myself I was able to say no to him.
It was a nice lesson for 19yo me, i never dated rich, attractive, and outgoing men since.
Yes, she was my best friend in elementary school, but we went to different schools after that so the friendship slowly disappeared. However we did reunite at high school, but didn’t remain as close as we were. Nothing bad happened but i randomly discovered one day a while after we graduated that she removed me from all of social media, and i was like wtf. Still don’t have any contact with her. Idk what her reason was.
Yep. It’s like they ghosted so hard, you start questioning if any of it was even real.
And the worst part? You never get closure. You’re just stuck re-reading old messages, wondering what invisible line you crossed that they never even told you about.
Some people don’t have the guts to communicate — they just disappear and call it “protecting their peace.” Meanwhile, you’re left holding the silence like it’s your fault.
If you’re going through this: you’re not crazy, and you deserve better than a vanishing act.