I’m sure it’s not in all cases, but in most cases it would seem that “wife material” means submissive and controllable – he can get her to give birth to children, raise the children pretty much by herself, cook for him every day, and keep the house clean. In return he will let her use some of his money and live in his house.
He will probably grow to get bored with her sexually after the kids come and he’ll probably cheat on her with women who are “not wife material”, aka they are hot and fun and he finds them very attractive, but he can’t control them.
Decent men don’t really seem to use this “wife material” expression, but those that do have a high tendency to be like the above. Am I wrong?
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if soemone wants to be depressed, look up the statistis about men cheating on their wifes during pregnancy
its sad
I’m glad someone else sees it that way!
I hate the phrase “wife material” — it just means a man gets all the benefits of having a wife (i.e. she does the cooking and cleaning, and maybe even pops out a few kids), without him needing to marry or commit to her.
EDIT 2: If a man genuinely wants to spend the rest of his life with a woman, he’ll bring up actually marrying her (or committing to a partnership/registered partnership). Simply calling her “wife material“, without bringing up any logical next steps, is useless.
What kind of behavior someone sees as “wife material” can be very different from person to person. Same goes for “husband material” or rather anything where personal preferences are involved.
So, I think you are wrong about generalizing this interpretation of it, but I think you are not wrong in that mature people do not need to vocalize their interest on that level.
I think that it can be an insult but it might not be, depending on his intent. If what he means is your interpretation then absolutely. But if what he means is that he feels like the relationship has prospects for lasting a lifetime then perhaps not.
Here I hear both men and women use the expression ‘relation material’, and it feels awkward to me. A human being is not ‘material’.
It’s basically like a dog owner going “good girl” when the dog pees outside.
Like, congratulations, you are the patriarchy’s princess, you are what ever man wants in a wife: submissive, obedient, servile, willing to do all the domestic work “because I just like cleaning”, willing to do all the childrearing because “you work too hard, you should relax after work”, willing to do all the cooking because “I love cooking”, not loving anything that will take your energy outside of the home.
It’s NOT a compliment. It’s a signifier of approval for your submission to the patriarchy.
This is because men are under the illusion that THEY, and they alone, decide who gets married and who does not, and as we all know, an unmarried woman who no man wanted to wife is the lowest of the low. especially when she has kids (whether she was “wifed” at the time of having kids or not makes no difference, why she had to leave the father makes no difference, whether he’s dead or alive, paying child support or not, coparenting or not, SHE is the only one held responsible for the children and how they turn out).