Don’t get me wrong, I think I’d love having sex I’m just so so scared, not really of the physical but the emotional aspect.
I’m 19 now, I’ve had long relationships (1 for 2yrs, 1 for 7months) but the guy I dated for 2yrs just probably wasn’t attracted to me enough bc all the other flings I’ve had always wanted to yk.
I’ve never done anything sexual, not even foreplay with someone else, only kissing. But I am so scared to get in a relationship and have to face that situation. I just feel that bc I am relatively old to be a virgin I’m just going to have to give it up to the first guy whereas people that do it younger usually do it with people they really love.
What if I’ve waited so long and the guy turns out being a jerk and I just gave it up for nothing ? What do I do ? Should I wait for “my one true love” ? I just gave everything in my last relationship and I don’t want to give another part of myself for nothing. How irrational is that fear ? Thank you for your answers
EDIT : The replies have escalated a bit so I have to clarify. I don’t care about my future partner’s opinion. I’m not wary to lose my virginity because I want him to have a virgin bride, I’m just scared that someone will only get with me for my v and then leave me.
EDIT2: Thank you so much to everyone that replied, your advice was really informative and helpful!! Also, I never meant for this to come off as a “purity” thing, I don’t, in any way, believe that your virginity determines your worth, I was simply looking for advice and perspective. Again, thank you ❤️
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You gotta do what you believe in, and whatever feels right to you. And you’re not that old!
19 isn’t that old of a virgin. Have sex whenever you feel ready, when you want to with someone who wants the same with you. There’s no set time period.
Here’s a wild fix: Don’t tell people you’re a virgin.
It doesn’t really matter, there’s no actual way to tell other than you being nervous whenever it actually happens, and even then, partners will likely just find that normal – first times with anyone can be exciting/nerve wracking…
There’s no like “if this seal is broken” label or whatever. Pretty much all the “measures” that exist out there are made up. And most guys don’t care really.
You can always confess after the fact if you feel you need to. But you don’t need to.