Context, we’ve been together for over a year now. When we first met I thought he didn’t like me fr because he was shy. We went out the other day and a stranger came up to me and told me she thought my boyfriend was my gay best friend which is irritating. He doesn’t have any type of mannerisms and honestly this is the best relationship that I’ve been in my entire life. I don’t know how to deal with it because it’s making me feel weird and I don’t want to talk to him about it. Now my mom is saying she thinks my boyfriend is gay too. She keeps telling me I need to protect myself and I keep saying he was raised by a lot of women so I know that he can relate to me more. Help???
Everyone thinks my bf is gay
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That’s nuts. You would know if he was.
Why does he date you if he’s gay, right? Just ignore them… you know him better than they do 😉
It’s frustrating when people make assumptions, but their opinions don’t define your relationship. Your connection with him is what matters. If it’s bothering you, it might help to talk to him about how others’ comments are affecting you. Your mom’s concern is likely out of care, but trust your own judgment. Focus on the happiness you both share, not outside opinions.
You sure he doesn’t have any mannerisms? If not is he somewhat on the smaller/skinny side? Lotta people for whatever reason pair that with quiet and assume a guy’s gay.
I had a friend in college. Dude was very feminine, his grooming was immaculate, physique was thin, always dressed very well (he didn’t even own a pair of jeans). If you didn’t know him, a lot of people would assume he was gay. That man had loads of women going crazy for him.
How does he act around other guys?
Some men are more in tune with their feminine side than others. It doesn’t make them gay. You should discuss this with your boyfriend, as in healthy relationships, everything should be on the table. You can see where his head is at. Pose the question: Does he have an interest in boys? He could be bisexual. Either way, you would get the answer and no longer have to worry about it.
People love to make assumptions based on stereotypes, especially when a guy doesn’t act super “masculine” by their standards. It sucks, but it doesn’t mean there’s actually anything wrong
Is there any issue in the bedroom?
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I’m gonna run in the opposite direction of everyone else’s advice. You left out a lot of details. Usually these posts are novels. Where there is smoke there is fire. If a stranger felt confident enough to bold face tell you she thought your boyfriend was your gay bff there is something about how you two treat each other that made them think that. If everyone in your life thinks he’s gay ask them why, actually interrogate it. Get them to finely articulate their probably homophobic thoughts. See if any of it actually applies to your relationship.
Your bf is a femboy owo
Your bf is a Femboi. Change my mind. ÙwÚ
Who says that without being asked?! Are you SURE it’s not apparent? I’ve been there with a lovely but questionable guy, and many years later still don’t know how he turned out.
If it’s just 2 people, I wouldn’t take them seriously. My mom has nothing nice to say about anyone I date..
“Everyone” hereout means two people.
Does your boyfriend male moves on you? Like its possible their gaydar is correct, but I’d think yours wouldn’t be so bad that you wouldn’t notice that the boyfriend you have who never wants to kiss, or fuck, or intiate, or has weird “issues” getting it up when you guys do anything. Like if any of those things apply, I’d say its likely your gaydar is broke and he’s gay. Otherwise, only two people saying they think he’s gay probably just means those two people are engaging in toxic masculinity
He has low T from fragrance and from you taking his seed