Even if you’re lost, still find time for fitness. Being lost can line up well with bad habits and then in your 30s and 40s it’s harder to get back in shape.
Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know
Didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don’t.
enjoy it! you will make plenty of mistakes. learn from them and then forget about them. You MUST start investing sooner than later though. don’t be late to this party! also, don’t have kids if you’re on the fence.
Don’t ever be surprised when things don’t go your way and you get blind sided. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to figure it out. You may have figured out more than you realize. Not sure how lost you think you are
take your time, but do not wait for an opportunity to happen. regardless on how lame or embarrassing you think it is- if it helps you achieve your goal, go for it. Try new things and maybe you can find something. And remember not to dwell on your past.
also, everybody has their own pace. dont feel let down that u assume that others are doing better than you; you’ll get there
What helped me the most is realizing that being at peace is what made me happiest. Yes, goals, commitment, and connections are vital, but they are all meaningless if you cannot be at peace.
The advice I got at that age was to find a job that you love. That wasn’t great advice for me because I don’t having to do anything. Find a job that you don’t hate would have been more appropriate. And for me that means the people I work with, not the job Im doing. I could do any job as long as Im working with good people. So just pick something that you are competent at, and find your people.
Second, your 20s is the time to take risks. If you have a dream, chase it
Life is not something you find your way in, it’s chaos and ever changing. You can only learn and grow and hope the mistakes you make don’t destroy you, that is the unfortunate truth of life. Be kind to people you never know when you’ll them and I don’t mean that in an exploitive way. Never be afraid to ask for help, EVER, people are much kinder than the internet will let you on to believe. Whatever you’re going through millions of people have already suffered through it. Focus only on today and what you can do to make your life for the positive now so that later you can reap the rewards.
Stop putting so much emphasis on having some great purpose in life. We are here to live a life. That is all. We’re not here to be the main character in some fictional story. Focus on just living life, everyday. Enjoy a sunset. Really taste how good that pizza is. And appreciate the small bits of fortune that are there even on bad days.
You have a lot of life ahead of you to figure it out. There is no rush. Slow down, enjoy every moment. Realize the beauty of life. You’ll appreciate life much more and won’t feel lost.
As I heard from someone, you are a 8 yr old adult. Its completely fine to feel the way you feel.
When you turn 40 (i.e, a 20 yr old adult), the biggest things that will matter are experiences (professional and personal), connections (again prof & personal) and money. Money is really tough, so focus on gaining the exp & connections. You need to have ton of bad experiences and bad connections, only then you will know which ones are good.
So try lot of things, don’t look at good or bad for now. When you are hitting 40, you will start to realize what you like and what you don’t, then you can figure out.
Stay healthy. Your body’s metabolism might start slowing down and you won’t be able to continue the eating and lifestyle habits you had in your late teens and early 20s.
You don’t have to be a gym bro or train like an athlete, but just pay a little bit more attention to what you eat and getting enough exercise, and you won’t “let yourself go”. Keep you mind and body in decent shape, and you’ll still have your 30s, 40s, maybe even 50s to accomplish whatever you want.
still dont have it worked out at 42. by mid 30’s though i stopped caring about it and just let the chips fall where they may. Of course, still be sensible with spending/saving etc and have a rough plan to get through life but you dont need it all worked out. it wont go to plan anyway
You will probably find purpose by trying many different things and having new experiences — ruling out the things you DON’T enjoy to find what you are meant to do/be… But keep a BIG picture perspective to stay humble: given how little space you take up in this universe and in the entire timeline of existence, your life is completely insignificant — so just enjoy getting to experience life while you can!
Well, i think the basics are covered (credit cards and condoms).
After that… not all who wander are lost. You only get one go-round that I know of, so enjoy yourself and it is a karmic bonus if you can make others happy as well.
Get the best job for the most money you can find. Start working your ass off. There’s only one thing worse than being young and broke. That’s being old and broke. Life goes on no matter if you participate in it or not. You are better off to make your own decisions. If you choose not to life will make them for you. There’s allot of choices in life. They are just casual low impact. As mentioned getting the wrong girl pregnant, OUI, accidentally seriously injuring someone or worse. Those are defining moments High Impact important ones.
You don’t have a singular purpose. You have multiple things that you could or could not do. Any are valid. You can try multiple paths at different times. There is nothing that you’re supposed to be doing. It’s all suggestions.
I am kinda in the spectrum. A relationship tragedy at age 28 and a career tragedy at age 46. Without these tragedies, I would never have learnt about my bad attitude and personality, would just be floating aimlessly in life being ignorant instead.
They need a hard reboot. Soft advice will never work, unless …they are willing to acknowledge their slacking and learn from other people’s mistakes instead.
Tomorrow comes. If you don’t like where you are today, do something about it for the sake of tomorrow. But also: don’t wait, because the tomorrows keep coming…
34 and still lost. 😂 Save money for emergencies. Hospitalizations, death of a loved one. Get insurance. Travel if you can. Also, diet and exercise. At 34 Im already taking meds bcuz I neglected those 2. now I cant live fully cuz of physical limitations. ☺️ U got this OP.
My first reaction was, “Buckle up, Buttercup!”, because I am 41 and still feel very lost. However, I think it’s a mistake to think you’ll ever be “found”. You can plot out the perfect path forward, or make the most foolproof plans and still end up nowhere near where you thought you’d be.
As someone who absolutely gets stuck in, “I can’t move until I know where I’m going” mode, the best thing is to not fixate on what could be or what could have been. Know it’s OK to be lost. Just look for small things that pull your attention and give you joy. They can lead you down unknown paths and you may just find things that make you feel less lost as you wander.
Crotchety old GenX-er here. I’m gonna let you in on something very few people realize:
There’s no such thing as “lost in life.” There’s where you are, and that’s all.
What people call “lost in life” comes from setting unrealistic goals or comparing themselves to others, and setting themselves up for failure and disappointment. I’m not a Taoist or any kind of spiritualist for that matter, but there’s wisdom in the phrase, “just be.”
Gravitate towards the things you truly enjoy. Things that make you feel good (not drugs or alcohol). I mean the things that actually resonate with your body. You were born with a natural compass that tells you what you’re meant to do. It is the things you WANT to do that nobody has to make you do. Things that just “feel right”.
Low thirties here, best advice I can give is this.
Direction does not matter. Everything i shot for I missed but kept trying and landed in something I enjoy for work.
Learn to be content. Being content is much easier to stay at , then being happy all the time and feels much better than being depressed and feeling empty. Life is about moments of happiness, don’t miss those moments. They made the sad parts easier.
Nobody has a god damn clue what they are doing. We are all winging it and mostly using other people’s advice and they are also winging it. So have more faith in yourself and take more chances.
Everything you have done in life is a skill. Find the skills you do best and transfer them into a starting position in a job. I managed to take fixing my own car a few times into a manufacturing job, into maintenance position. In the short time between late twenties and early thirties I have doubled my income.
I personally find my boring life much more enjoyable than my party days. The highs aren’t as high, literally and figuratively. But im happier more consistently than sad.
Therapy did me wonders when I listened and actively tried the advice.
lost in life sounds like you have no passions. Or that you dont know what you have to do to gain happiness, like all the little steps to get there. So picture what you want people to say about you when you die of old age. Who’s at the funeral? And how do these people come into your life? What do they say about you? And how do you become that person?
Regarding work, don’t think college is the only way. Learn a trade or skill that is needed and do it with the mindset goal of becoming your own boss. Owning your small business is the ultimate goal!!
For the love of god set up some sort of monthly automatic transfer to an investment account and start buying the lowest fee S&P500 index fund (it’s probably gonna be Vanguard but it depends on what country you’re in)
If it’s $31 per month ($1 per day) that’s fine just get it started
Then don’t touch it until you’re old
Those who have $30 disposable income but do not take this advice, enjoy having nothing in old age and you can’t complain about it cuz it’s your own darn choice
Try lots of different things. You’ll suck at most of them, but (assuming you’re not a moron) you’ll learn things every time. Pretty soon you’ll have a much better idea what you want, by learning what you don’t want.
Make your bed EVERY DAY when you get up. No matter how shitty the day turns out, you will have accomplished something.
Don’t make the right decision, make the decision right.
Not sure what to pursue as a career? Pick one and commit. Recognize they all are difficult – you can’t escape it. But the more difficult, the more the reward.
Imagine you are elderly and in your death bed, your entire life is behind you. That’s it, you’re done. Now imagine you had the opportunity to teleport back in time to today. You have so much power right now to get things that you want to do done.
Many if not most people are lost in life in their mid to late 20s. It will get better.
This may not be the type of answer you’re looking for, but my advice would be: get real about what you want from life. When I say that I DON’T mean you should lower your expectations, forget your dreams or accept second, third or twentieth best options. To the contrary. What I DO mean by getting real is being lucid and honest about what makes your aspirations currently out of reach (be it finding a good job, a place to live, having a good relationship, making money, perhaps starting your own business, traveling and seeing the world etc.), and accepting that it will take effort and sacrifice, even sometimes it may seem (at least superficially) that some of these things come naturally to other people and that it’s unfair that you should work extra hard for something that someone else just takes for granted. Reality often is different. Bridging those gaps is 100% feasible, but by definition always difficult.
Late 20s can feel like a weird in-between, don’t stress if you haven’t figured it all out because nobody really has. Invest in yourself, learn new skills, and stay open to change. Build healthy money habits now, even if it’s just saving a little. Surround yourself with solid people, not just party friends. Mentors can be game changers, and taking care of your mental and physical health is essential, not optional. Most of all, stop comparing yourself to others since your timeline is your own.
You’re building the foundation, not the final product.
Oh my gosh where do I start? I’m 52 years old so not as wise as some of my fellow Redditors, but I’m sure old af to your age group. 😂
Seriously though. I already knew to listen to my gut/intuition from a young age (Native American grandmother, she had me alot when I was little.) But just in case you haven’t been told that and/or tuned into that…you really need to. We all have that gut feeling, that intuition telling you right from wrong, or when something/someone feels “off.” LISTEN TO THAT. Whether it’s hanging out with that friend…or going out with someone…or driving that night…or taking that job…or marrying that person. LISTEN. TO. THAT. INNER. VOICE.
If your gut is feeling like something’s off, then it’s off. Point blank period. I promise you this.
Same ~ lost but with some direction now. Finding purpose can be difficult and tedious, but really drifting to what comforts and fulfills you is where i’m trying to head. It sucks being disabled trying to make a career out of art, but its what i love and all i can actually do ~
In my late 20 but feel like I am just figuring it out.
Strike your own path or follow others. But fuck everyone else. Do what works for you and stop comparing yourself to others. It’s your own path. You may stumble, but everyone feels behind because no one really shows their doubt and insecurities and no one know what they are doing.
Focus on learning a craft, and diversify your skills. A lot of people struggle because they don’t have any skills, and don’t have time, energy, and money to learn something new. Their energy goes to adead end job at low pay. Have fun on weekends, or when your work is done. Work is not supposed to be fun.
Do something different. I started college for the first time in my life at 31 this past fall and I couldn’t be happier. I worked as a chef for years making good money but it made me depressed.
Do the things you know you should be doing but are avoiding, don’t do the things you know you shouldn’t do and are bad for you.
If you are lost look at what you’re afraid of, avoiding, uncomfortable or non-committal with. Find the things you are good at that seem prohibitively difficult to reach the next level of. Usually the answers are right in front of our noses, but fear or procrastination or doubt keep us from considering them.
Growing up is chaotic. You gain a thousand hobbies to replace your old ones, or life takes over and you put things down. Make time to reconnect with the the things that you built your identity on.
Sometimes bad things happen so better things can happen. For example, I got fired from a really good high paying job I liked (the company is shady and heavily male dominated and frequently discriminated against women ): ) anyway, I was extremely depressed after that and felt useless and lost and just like “what now”. But fast forward 4 years later and I’m about to get my A&P to become an aircraft mechanic and make double the money. Money isn’t everything, but the career field and experience is worth everything to me and I’m happier! Glad I got wrongfully fired lol
Stop being lost in life. Figure out where you want to be in 5-10 years, and start taking steps to get there. I don’t mean “rich person who bought bitcoin” lol. Whether your future is a career or a relationship or whatever… Stop waiting for things to come to you and take steps to make it happen. Hit the gym. Learn a skill. Learn how to network and create a career. Start a hobby. Find a local group for that hobby.
Without more context that’s all I’ve got… Basically “get good” but in life lol. Time to put on your big boy pants and figure out how to be successful by your mid 30s. Start taking action now.
From my own life and witnessing the lives of my family and people around me.
It does not get better.
Having kids to save a relationship is a good way to make life a living hell.
Your parents do not know what they are doing.
Your education is as much of a hindrance as it is an aid for job hunting.
Just because someone is related to you does not mean they wont try and steal everything of value you have.
Every company is after money morals are always going to be secondary and they will pay tons of money internally to convince you that every dollar they take is for a good cause just to keep you working without making your quality of life better.
Just you wait until you’re in your 30s and still feel lost in life. We all experience this. Just hang on, do the best you can and enjoy the ride. No one gets out of this alive 😂
Don’t worry about “lost.” There’s no such thing. Nobody knows their own future. Just keep doing what you think is right and what’s best for you and those around you.
Best time to do it was yesterday, second best time is now. Whatever it is. It’s can be easy to get sucked into the sunk cost fallacy with your job or education or relationships and change is scary. But it’s never too late to give something a try, switch careers, or learn a skill, as long as you actually do it.
I think your 20s is the most difficult time in life, but also the most fun. At least it was for me. Take care of yourself physically and mentally. Avoid people who make you feel bad and seek out supportive people. Do the things you love. Some skills take a lifetime to master so start now. Don’t compromise on intimate relationships. Focus on improving yourself and have fun.
If you’re still feeling lost, stop trying to figure out the path to follow and figure out your compass. What type of life do you want? Family? Money? Partying? Travel? Stable career or lots of fun jobs? Figure out the kind of life and values that are important to you, then list off the possible paths to get you to that life. All you have to do then is pick between a handful of paths, as opposed to limitless
Being lost is character development, it’s part of figuring things out. Focus on small steps, not a perfect plan. Try things, make mistakes, learn what feels right. It’s never too late to start over or change paths.
Just set goals and work hard towards them. Hardwork, determination and consistency will solve pretty much all your problems when you’re a young fella. Focus on finances and health/fitness and developing a social life and everything else will fall into its place
I lived wih roomqtes, we all scaped by bu ee had fun. I worked career oriented job during tthe day amd waite tables aa couple/three nights pr week. I slowly took risks by applying for better dayy jobs. In truth, I was 33 before I could afford my own place. I paid off my student loans and bought my first small modest condo at 40. All along I had good times, met friends, took social risks. I saved and always maxed out the offored 401ks. Im 62, still have friends from my early adult days. We still laugh, go to music and it’s not been a bad life.
An advice from an older brother is: find God! I mean the One and Only true diety. I’m not trying to change you or push you into an unwanted topic. I was in this desperate situation when I was 27 a couple of years ago, alone, poor, and living abroad…
Brother, without further due, here’s what you should do, and this is an advice for everyone to practice:
Pay attention to details, be in pios state of mind, (i.e. no weed, alcohol, porn, etc.).
Wake yourself up in the last part of the night, around 3:45 am EST.
Hit the shower and put on clean clothes (including underwear). Comb hair & spray cologne.
Alone inside the room, sit down on your knees, raise up both hands as if begging, and say this:
“My Lord, who created me and my parents, I bear witness that there’s no true God but You. The One, The Most Merciful on mankind, The Most Gracious over Your worshippers. I humbly ask You to forgive me and my parents, bestow mercy on us, and facilitate for us our affair in the right way.
I ask You my Lord to show me the right way to worshipping You and getting closer to Your grace..Amen.”
BRO, I promise you’ll see WONDERS upon performing this! Just don’t get back to bed afterward, get coffee or somthin and start that day early!
It’s not too late to start/try something new. Society seemingly sets these milestones. Get married. Have a steady career for the rest of your life. Have children. Don’t fall for these expectations.
It’s not too late and you’re just getting started. Be patient, continue working on yourself, and good things will come.
I’m 49, didn’t get married until 30, didn’t settle into my current career until I was 35, and am very happy with my situation. Late 20s me would never have believed I’d get it together. You will. Just keep working.
I am a bit late in this conversation, but on top of what I have already read:
Dont worry too much about what other people think. The majority dont care, and those that say something may not really understand what you are trying to achieve and only make passing comments. I have spent the last 20 years living in countries that are not my own, and I find that people in my context just think I am wrong because I am different. That just (IMO) gives me free rain to do whatever I want because whatever I do is wrong anyway, might as well be wrong and happy!
Being lost is ok, it means that you acknowledge it and it gives you a chance to look around for what is good for you. Embrace being lost and see what happens. From a 48 year old perpetually lost.
Feeling lost in your late 20s is more common than you think. You’re not behind you’re still learning, growing, and becoming. Take small steps, try new things, and stop comparing. Clarity comes with motion, not waiting.
30 year old here. I’ve been up and down and over and out. Don’t wait for anything to happen. You got to go and make it happen. Take care of your health i.e. get a daily routine going. Save money and start an IRA if you haven’t already. Oh and stay sober and focused.
Just an FYI; you can be fine when you’re younger and actually become lost when you’re older… also, some people are always searching for something their entire lives
Pick a path. Carpenter, business administrator, data scientist, electrician, just pick SOMETHING. Pick is a skill you can learn in 2-4 years. Most people get tired of their job, may as well get paid properly for it.
Barely out of my 20s but living a good life, here is my advice.
Stay out of debt. If that means waiting a month to save up for something, or waiting for it to go on sale, then wait. Debt is somethingi never want to be in other than my mortgage.
Stay busy. A simple job to fill your time can do wonders. Don’t be afraid to pursue a different line of work but stay busy while looking.
Stay active. The worst I’ve felt was always fine times I wasn’t active. Can’t afford the gym? Walk. Bring some water and learn your city. Talk a Walk, often.
Take some quiet time for yourself. I’m religious so that could be time to pray, but many non religious people still say sins time to relax and breath deep will do you wonders. Why do you think smoke breaks are so common (besides the addictive nature of tobacco), because it felt good to take a few minutes and take deep slow bresths in and out.
Otherwise, I’d take time to read. I think reading is an entertainment that helps grow your brain rather than tv or videos or tik toks that feel like they kill your brain a bit. So take some time to read. Libraries are often free.
And then once you have a good base? Find a plan to move forward imagine sustainability way. Find a job you like? Make sure its something that you can be hired in and work before spending big bucks training or going to school for it. Look and see if your idea is sustainable to your future.
Don’t worry too much about it. Work enough that you can afford life – save some money, invest money (crypto isn’t investing) and just have a good time.
Life will just happen. You don’t need to do anything.
Don’t worry so much you got time to figure what you truly love to do.. at least find a job, and he’s right try no get nobody pregnant, and think what you what to do. Explore certain thing u thought about, test run one of your ideas and see if u feel like doing that idea. It will slowly come to you in due tim, but main thing is at least explore job opportunities cause what u choose to do might b what you love. Just don’t kill your about meaning don’t think so hard it so much out their…peace hope this information as well as others help.
I am 54 with a pretty big house, 2 great kids, awesome spouse I adore, time for hobbies I enjoy and am generally happy and secure. I did not even remotely get my shit together until I was about 35. I was a mess in my 20’s – defaulted on a student loan, got bailed out by my parents at way too advanced an age, and was broke and living in shithole apartment by my early 30’s.
Don’t burn any bridges, keep plugging away, and be ready for when you catch a break. Catching a couple made all the difference for me. Its okay to not start a career until your 30’s or later. Everyone’s timeline is different.
Being lost in your late 20s isn’t a failure—it’s just part of the process. Most people are faking confidence anyway. Try stuff, screw up, pivot. Your 30s will thank you for the lessons you’re learning now. Just don’t stay stuck doing nothing out of fear.
Try different things– hobbies, sports, jobs…you never know what or whom you’ll connect with until it happens. The more things you try, the greater your odds of discovering a passion, friend, lover…. Also, make a pact with yourself to learn at least one new thing every year.
Gen X-er here. Hint: most people never ‘find’ their purpose. Some are lucky enough to stumble across it though. If you’re really keen, try volunteering. Take a few risks (nothing foolhardy). The most important thing is to focus on others.
No matter what, we are all going to die. May not be tomorrow or next week or even next month. But it will happen. We live a lifetime that is less than the blink of an eye in all of existence. We are living a finite human experience. We all deserve a chance to do the things that make us happen. We all deserve the chance to venture out and discover ourselves beyond the bounds of home. Don’t be afraid to push the frontier of what you’re passionate about. We are what we choose to be. We are what we choose to do. If there isn’t a path towards the destination you wish to reach, make one yourself. Do not give up. Always prevail. Always prevail.
Just go with the flow… don’t worry too much about where you are or where you think you’re supposed to be. Comparison is the thief of joy so wake up each day and do something that makes you feel fulfilled, regardless how big or insignificant it may be.
Try keep a good credit score, and do your best to not have any children with someone you’re not positive you want to be with forever.
If you don’t have a college degree yet, I’d highly recommend just taking some courses at a community college and working in the direction of a degree closest to something you think could be tolerable.
I’m 32 now and man, I thought my 20s were supposed to be the prime years but I realized a few months back it’s supposed to be your years where you just fuck up everything and learn. 30s is where you figure out what you want and from what my mom said, 40s is when you put it together.
Basically let your 20s be the time where you accept that mistakes happen and learn from it.
I’m 35 and an addict. Just did 2 weeks clean and stumbled a bit last night with alcohol and crack. When I’m sober, thinking about the future scares me, that’s why I go back to it. I have no advice to give you mate, but I suppose we just have to keep going. It’s 7:45 here in England, no sleep and writing this. Bit of sleep and back to work tomorrow. I’ve just got to do better than I did today. I’m in no man’s land right now. You’re not alone I guess.
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It’s fine to not have a big grand purpose or life goal.
Well I’m mid twenties, and from the older guys I’ve met.
Stay away from getting girls pregnant, don’t be stupid w credit cards,
Honestly I’m in the same boat but I would just say be open to anything and do what you can. Don’t let anything define you and what you should be
I’m 35 and I’m only just now figuring it out. There’s no timeline, and you’ll figure yourself out eventually.
You’re most likely not gonna find it from internet strangers.
Stop looking for what you think you need or what you think is missing and you won’t feel so lost
Keep your driving record and credit clean.
Use protection during sex
Even if you’re lost, still find time for fitness. Being lost can line up well with bad habits and then in your 30s and 40s it’s harder to get back in shape.
Never too late. But try and start early.
Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know
Didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don’t.
Get plenty of calcium.
Go out and try new things. Never know if you like it if you don’t try it.
enjoy it! you will make plenty of mistakes. learn from them and then forget about them. You MUST start investing sooner than later though. don’t be late to this party! also, don’t have kids if you’re on the fence.
Don’t ever be surprised when things don’t go your way and you get blind sided. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself to figure it out. You may have figured out more than you realize. Not sure how lost you think you are
Open a brokerage account with a Roth IRA and start buying 20.00 a paycheck of an ETF
YOU’LL HAVE MILLIONS in 45 years
I’d first ask them to define what they feel lost in life means, and then ask them why they think they match that.
I’m reasonably successful, and still often consider myself lost in life.
30 and still lost. You got time
take your time, but do not wait for an opportunity to happen. regardless on how lame or embarrassing you think it is- if it helps you achieve your goal, go for it. Try new things and maybe you can find something. And remember not to dwell on your past.
also, everybody has their own pace. dont feel let down that u assume that others are doing better than you; you’ll get there
What helped me the most is realizing that being at peace is what made me happiest. Yes, goals, commitment, and connections are vital, but they are all meaningless if you cannot be at peace.
That’s really really normal
The advice I got at that age was to find a job that you love. That wasn’t great advice for me because I don’t having to do anything. Find a job that you don’t hate would have been more appropriate. And for me that means the people I work with, not the job Im doing. I could do any job as long as Im working with good people. So just pick something that you are competent at, and find your people.
Second, your 20s is the time to take risks. If you have a dream, chase it
Hang in there, it gets better. Cliche, I know, but it’s true.
Life is not something you find your way in, it’s chaos and ever changing. You can only learn and grow and hope the mistakes you make don’t destroy you, that is the unfortunate truth of life. Be kind to people you never know when you’ll them and I don’t mean that in an exploitive way. Never be afraid to ask for help, EVER, people are much kinder than the internet will let you on to believe. Whatever you’re going through millions of people have already suffered through it. Focus only on today and what you can do to make your life for the positive now so that later you can reap the rewards.
Fix your credit card debt before it’s too late
Stop putting so much emphasis on having some great purpose in life. We are here to live a life. That is all. We’re not here to be the main character in some fictional story. Focus on just living life, everyday. Enjoy a sunset. Really taste how good that pizza is. And appreciate the small bits of fortune that are there even on bad days.
You have a lot of life ahead of you to figure it out. There is no rush. Slow down, enjoy every moment. Realize the beauty of life. You’ll appreciate life much more and won’t feel lost.
As I heard from someone, you are a 8 yr old adult. Its completely fine to feel the way you feel.
When you turn 40 (i.e, a 20 yr old adult), the biggest things that will matter are experiences (professional and personal), connections (again prof & personal) and money. Money is really tough, so focus on gaining the exp & connections. You need to have ton of bad experiences and bad connections, only then you will know which ones are good.
So try lot of things, don’t look at good or bad for now. When you are hitting 40, you will start to realize what you like and what you don’t, then you can figure out.
Stay lost… let the universe guide you… Try less
Join the club. I’m about to be 40.
Stop drinking. Go to bed by 10. Work on fitness and nutrition.
Get a crockpot
Stay healthy. Your body’s metabolism might start slowing down and you won’t be able to continue the eating and lifestyle habits you had in your late teens and early 20s.
You don’t have to be a gym bro or train like an athlete, but just pay a little bit more attention to what you eat and getting enough exercise, and you won’t “let yourself go”. Keep you mind and body in decent shape, and you’ll still have your 30s, 40s, maybe even 50s to accomplish whatever you want.
Me having not hit me late 20s yet 👁️👄👁️
still dont have it worked out at 42. by mid 30’s though i stopped caring about it and just let the chips fall where they may. Of course, still be sensible with spending/saving etc and have a rough plan to get through life but you dont need it all worked out. it wont go to plan anyway
You’re only lost if you don’t know how to get somewhere you want to be. Maybe you just don’t really want to be wherever “there” is?
Still lost? You’re just starting, is this a trick question?
You will probably find purpose by trying many different things and having new experiences — ruling out the things you DON’T enjoy to find what you are meant to do/be… But keep a BIG picture perspective to stay humble: given how little space you take up in this universe and in the entire timeline of existence, your life is completely insignificant — so just enjoy getting to experience life while you can!
Well, i think the basics are covered (credit cards and condoms).
After that… not all who wander are lost. You only get one go-round that I know of, so enjoy yourself and it is a karmic bonus if you can make others happy as well.
Time is a construct don’t let your age limit or affect your thinking, dreams, goals decision making etc.
For example, I’m in my late 30s and in the best shape of my life and probably the most well dressed etc.
You’re in your late 20s. You’re supposed to be lost. Don’t worry about it.
Make sure you don’t have undiagnosed ADHD
Get the best job for the most money you can find. Start working your ass off. There’s only one thing worse than being young and broke. That’s being old and broke. Life goes on no matter if you participate in it or not. You are better off to make your own decisions. If you choose not to life will make them for you. There’s allot of choices in life. They are just casual low impact. As mentioned getting the wrong girl pregnant, OUI, accidentally seriously injuring someone or worse. Those are defining moments High Impact important ones.
You don’t have a singular purpose. You have multiple things that you could or could not do. Any are valid. You can try multiple paths at different times. There is nothing that you’re supposed to be doing. It’s all suggestions.
I am kinda in the spectrum. A relationship tragedy at age 28 and a career tragedy at age 46. Without these tragedies, I would never have learnt about my bad attitude and personality, would just be floating aimlessly in life being ignorant instead.
They need a hard reboot. Soft advice will never work, unless …they are willing to acknowledge their slacking and learn from other people’s mistakes instead.
Tomorrow comes. If you don’t like where you are today, do something about it for the sake of tomorrow. But also: don’t wait, because the tomorrows keep coming…
Just do what you are interested in, stop trying to find your way.
Don’t worry about being lost.
Instead, try to enjoy the moment as best you can.
Most of us are lost well beyond our twenties.
Find a form of exercise you enjoy and master it. If you can make sure you live longer then more time to find your path.
34 and still lost. 😂 Save money for emergencies. Hospitalizations, death of a loved one. Get insurance. Travel if you can. Also, diet and exercise. At 34 Im already taking meds bcuz I neglected those 2. now I cant live fully cuz of physical limitations. ☺️ U got this OP.
show up to work and appointments on time. Wake up early – your day will be better.
My first reaction was, “Buckle up, Buttercup!”, because I am 41 and still feel very lost. However, I think it’s a mistake to think you’ll ever be “found”. You can plot out the perfect path forward, or make the most foolproof plans and still end up nowhere near where you thought you’d be.
As someone who absolutely gets stuck in, “I can’t move until I know where I’m going” mode, the best thing is to not fixate on what could be or what could have been. Know it’s OK to be lost. Just look for small things that pull your attention and give you joy. They can lead you down unknown paths and you may just find things that make you feel less lost as you wander.
Don’t sweat the small stuff and be kind. You never know what’s going on in a stranger’s life.
Crotchety old GenX-er here. I’m gonna let you in on something very few people realize:
There’s no such thing as “lost in life.” There’s where you are, and that’s all.
What people call “lost in life” comes from setting unrealistic goals or comparing themselves to others, and setting themselves up for failure and disappointment. I’m not a Taoist or any kind of spiritualist for that matter, but there’s wisdom in the phrase, “just be.”
So, dude…just be. You’re gonna be fine.
If you are not sure what you want (job, partner, location, etc..) start figuring out what you DON’T want and narrow down those criteria.
Gravitate towards the things you truly enjoy. Things that make you feel good (not drugs or alcohol). I mean the things that actually resonate with your body. You were born with a natural compass that tells you what you’re meant to do. It is the things you WANT to do that nobody has to make you do. Things that just “feel right”.
People will say that you’re young and still have time. You don’t, get your act together and start working towards something.
Don’t be afraid to get evaluated and treated if you have depression. I started treatment about your age and life changed for the better for me.
Low thirties here, best advice I can give is this.
Direction does not matter. Everything i shot for I missed but kept trying and landed in something I enjoy for work.
Learn to be content. Being content is much easier to stay at , then being happy all the time and feels much better than being depressed and feeling empty. Life is about moments of happiness, don’t miss those moments. They made the sad parts easier.
Nobody has a god damn clue what they are doing. We are all winging it and mostly using other people’s advice and they are also winging it. So have more faith in yourself and take more chances.
Everything you have done in life is a skill. Find the skills you do best and transfer them into a starting position in a job. I managed to take fixing my own car a few times into a manufacturing job, into maintenance position. In the short time between late twenties and early thirties I have doubled my income.
I personally find my boring life much more enjoyable than my party days. The highs aren’t as high, literally and figuratively. But im happier more consistently than sad.
Therapy did me wonders when I listened and actively tried the advice.
lost in life sounds like you have no passions. Or that you dont know what you have to do to gain happiness, like all the little steps to get there. So picture what you want people to say about you when you die of old age. Who’s at the funeral? And how do these people come into your life? What do they say about you? And how do you become that person?
Read the KJV Bible.
Start in John.
Regarding work, don’t think college is the only way. Learn a trade or skill that is needed and do it with the mindset goal of becoming your own boss. Owning your small business is the ultimate goal!!
Everyone is lost. You are doing fine.
I’d say you’re not at an age where you should be worrying about that
For the love of god set up some sort of monthly automatic transfer to an investment account and start buying the lowest fee S&P500 index fund (it’s probably gonna be Vanguard but it depends on what country you’re in)
If it’s $31 per month ($1 per day) that’s fine just get it started
Then don’t touch it until you’re old
Those who have $30 disposable income but do not take this advice, enjoy having nothing in old age and you can’t complain about it cuz it’s your own darn choice
Don’t drink to forget your problems. Play the long game and lose your money in investments instead.
Do what you want
Pick a direction and go. It doesn’t matter if it’s your passion. Just do something
Wait another 25 years to start freaking out about it.❤️
Try lots of different things. You’ll suck at most of them, but (assuming you’re not a moron) you’ll learn things every time. Pretty soon you’ll have a much better idea what you want, by learning what you don’t want.
Make your bed EVERY DAY when you get up. No matter how shitty the day turns out, you will have accomplished something.
You will always be lost.
Don’t make the right decision, make the decision right.
Not sure what to pursue as a career? Pick one and commit. Recognize they all are difficult – you can’t escape it. But the more difficult, the more the reward.
Imagine you are elderly and in your death bed, your entire life is behind you. That’s it, you’re done. Now imagine you had the opportunity to teleport back in time to today. You have so much power right now to get things that you want to do done.
Be smart about your credit, don’t knock anyone up, you’ve got plenty of time.
I didn’t really find myself until mid thirties. And it took getting sober to do it.
Seriously the moment I quit drinking and doing drugs I almost immediately recognized myself.
Many if not most people are lost in life in their mid to late 20s. It will get better.
This may not be the type of answer you’re looking for, but my advice would be: get real about what you want from life. When I say that I DON’T mean you should lower your expectations, forget your dreams or accept second, third or twentieth best options. To the contrary. What I DO mean by getting real is being lucid and honest about what makes your aspirations currently out of reach (be it finding a good job, a place to live, having a good relationship, making money, perhaps starting your own business, traveling and seeing the world etc.), and accepting that it will take effort and sacrifice, even sometimes it may seem (at least superficially) that some of these things come naturally to other people and that it’s unfair that you should work extra hard for something that someone else just takes for granted. Reality often is different. Bridging those gaps is 100% feasible, but by definition always difficult.
Late 20s can feel like a weird in-between, don’t stress if you haven’t figured it all out because nobody really has. Invest in yourself, learn new skills, and stay open to change. Build healthy money habits now, even if it’s just saving a little. Surround yourself with solid people, not just party friends. Mentors can be game changers, and taking care of your mental and physical health is essential, not optional. Most of all, stop comparing yourself to others since your timeline is your own.
You’re building the foundation, not the final product.
Don’t worry you are not the only one. I am too. Came across this song named sunscreen song. Literally meant for this , you should here it 🙂 https://youtu.be/sTJ7AzBIJoI?si=oFatas0CivRPwUKl
Oh my gosh where do I start? I’m 52 years old so not as wise as some of my fellow Redditors, but I’m sure old af to your age group. 😂
Seriously though. I already knew to listen to my gut/intuition from a young age (Native American grandmother, she had me alot when I was little.) But just in case you haven’t been told that and/or tuned into that…you really need to. We all have that gut feeling, that intuition telling you right from wrong, or when something/someone feels “off.” LISTEN TO THAT. Whether it’s hanging out with that friend…or going out with someone…or driving that night…or taking that job…or marrying that person. LISTEN. TO. THAT. INNER. VOICE.
If your gut is feeling like something’s off, then it’s off. Point blank period. I promise you this.
Same ~ lost but with some direction now. Finding purpose can be difficult and tedious, but really drifting to what comforts and fulfills you is where i’m trying to head. It sucks being disabled trying to make a career out of art, but its what i love and all i can actually do ~
It’s not too late to figure things out. I didn’t even know myself that well until I got into my 30s.
In my late 20 but feel like I am just figuring it out.
Strike your own path or follow others. But fuck everyone else. Do what works for you and stop comparing yourself to others. It’s your own path. You may stumble, but everyone feels behind because no one really shows their doubt and insecurities and no one know what they are doing.
Wait til your late 30s and then panic. Worked out great for the rest of us! 😬
Focus on learning a craft, and diversify your skills. A lot of people struggle because they don’t have any skills, and don’t have time, energy, and money to learn something new. Their energy goes to adead end job at low pay. Have fun on weekends, or when your work is done. Work is not supposed to be fun.
Welcome to life .
Do.Not.Settle.
Do something different. I started college for the first time in my life at 31 this past fall and I couldn’t be happier. I worked as a chef for years making good money but it made me depressed.
If you fail, try and try again. Don’t care what people say about your failures.
You have plenty of time.
Stay (relatively) straight and sober.
Don’t get pregnant nor impregnate anyone.
You’re already thinking of the future so you’re ahead of the game.
Start thinking about saving money and planning ahead.
You don’t need to find some dream job you absolutely love.
Tha5 rarely happens.
Work hard.
Learn.
Don’t burn bridges.
Good luck.
There is no rush. And I’m not trying to sound preachy. Be of service to others and those in your community.
The being lost thing never really goes away, you just have to find what you want, and it takes effort. But a lot is possible if you keep trying.
Do the things you know you should be doing but are avoiding, don’t do the things you know you shouldn’t do and are bad for you.
If you are lost look at what you’re afraid of, avoiding, uncomfortable or non-committal with. Find the things you are good at that seem prohibitively difficult to reach the next level of. Usually the answers are right in front of our noses, but fear or procrastination or doubt keep us from considering them.
Growing up is chaotic. You gain a thousand hobbies to replace your old ones, or life takes over and you put things down. Make time to reconnect with the the things that you built your identity on.
Sometimes bad things happen so better things can happen. For example, I got fired from a really good high paying job I liked (the company is shady and heavily male dominated and frequently discriminated against women ): ) anyway, I was extremely depressed after that and felt useless and lost and just like “what now”. But fast forward 4 years later and I’m about to get my A&P to become an aircraft mechanic and make double the money. Money isn’t everything, but the career field and experience is worth everything to me and I’m happier! Glad I got wrongfully fired lol
Don’t chase people, work on yourself and get chased. You’ll see who’s worth it.
Did some chasing but at the cost of other things.
Growing up is realizing every one is lost, happiness in life doesn’t mean all your dreams come true.
Stop being lost in life. Figure out where you want to be in 5-10 years, and start taking steps to get there. I don’t mean “rich person who bought bitcoin” lol. Whether your future is a career or a relationship or whatever… Stop waiting for things to come to you and take steps to make it happen. Hit the gym. Learn a skill. Learn how to network and create a career. Start a hobby. Find a local group for that hobby.
Without more context that’s all I’ve got… Basically “get good” but in life lol. Time to put on your big boy pants and figure out how to be successful by your mid 30s. Start taking action now.
Everybody’s lost. Most of us are just faking it. So fake it till you make it. I guess.
You’re not lost. You’re just young. Live life embracing you don’t control anything or its outcomes. It will bring you peace.
Good luck, and 38 and still there most the time
Be happy. There are people that have life figured out that would trade their almost anything to be in their late 20s or 30s or 40s. Run your race.
You’re younger than you realize. Be patient with yourself.
ya aint lost there’s just nowhere you really gotta go. find a scenic route you like and just keep driving it.
You still have 60 years to make up for it
From my own life and witnessing the lives of my family and people around me.
It does not get better.
Having kids to save a relationship is a good way to make life a living hell.
Your parents do not know what they are doing.
Your education is as much of a hindrance as it is an aid for job hunting.
Just because someone is related to you does not mean they wont try and steal everything of value you have.
Every company is after money morals are always going to be secondary and they will pay tons of money internally to convince you that every dollar they take is for a good cause just to keep you working without making your quality of life better.
Think about your future. Don’t neglect experiences but choose your spending wisely. Have fun!
Just you wait until you’re in your 30s and still feel lost in life. We all experience this. Just hang on, do the best you can and enjoy the ride. No one gets out of this alive 😂
Don’t worry about “lost.” There’s no such thing. Nobody knows their own future. Just keep doing what you think is right and what’s best for you and those around you.
Best time to do it was yesterday, second best time is now. Whatever it is. It’s can be easy to get sucked into the sunk cost fallacy with your job or education or relationships and change is scary. But it’s never too late to give something a try, switch careers, or learn a skill, as long as you actually do it.
I think your 20s is the most difficult time in life, but also the most fun. At least it was for me. Take care of yourself physically and mentally. Avoid people who make you feel bad and seek out supportive people. Do the things you love. Some skills take a lifetime to master so start now. Don’t compromise on intimate relationships. Focus on improving yourself and have fun.
well im 36 anf im still lost so… make what you will of life; i mean rhat in an empowering way haha
If you’re still feeling lost, stop trying to figure out the path to follow and figure out your compass. What type of life do you want? Family? Money? Partying? Travel? Stable career or lots of fun jobs? Figure out the kind of life and values that are important to you, then list off the possible paths to get you to that life. All you have to do then is pick between a handful of paths, as opposed to limitless
Being lost is character development, it’s part of figuring things out. Focus on small steps, not a perfect plan. Try things, make mistakes, learn what feels right. It’s never too late to start over or change paths.
You’re not behind, you’re just in progress.
Take your physical and mental health seriously. Focus on developing skills.
To figure it out before you’re 35 and lost in life. Those years between go by faster than all of high school
Just set goals and work hard towards them. Hardwork, determination and consistency will solve pretty much all your problems when you’re a young fella. Focus on finances and health/fitness and developing a social life and everything else will fall into its place
I lived wih roomqtes, we all scaped by bu ee had fun. I worked career oriented job during tthe day amd waite tables aa couple/three nights pr week. I slowly took risks by applying for better dayy jobs. In truth, I was 33 before I could afford my own place. I paid off my student loans and bought my first small modest condo at 40. All along I had good times, met friends, took social risks. I saved and always maxed out the offored 401ks. Im 62, still have friends from my early adult days. We still laugh, go to music and it’s not been a bad life.
An advice from an older brother is: find God! I mean the One and Only true diety. I’m not trying to change you or push you into an unwanted topic. I was in this desperate situation when I was 27 a couple of years ago, alone, poor, and living abroad…
Brother, without further due, here’s what you should do, and this is an advice for everyone to practice:
Pay attention to details, be in pios state of mind, (i.e. no weed, alcohol, porn, etc.).
Wake yourself up in the last part of the night, around 3:45 am EST.
Hit the shower and put on clean clothes (including underwear). Comb hair & spray cologne.
Alone inside the room, sit down on your knees, raise up both hands as if begging, and say this:
“My Lord, who created me and my parents, I bear witness that there’s no true God but You. The One, The Most Merciful on mankind, The Most Gracious over Your worshippers. I humbly ask You to forgive me and my parents, bestow mercy on us, and facilitate for us our affair in the right way.
I ask You my Lord to show me the right way to worshipping You and getting closer to Your grace..Amen.”
BRO, I promise you’ll see WONDERS upon performing this! Just don’t get back to bed afterward, get coffee or somthin and start that day early!
Best of luck!
It’s not too late to start/try something new. Society seemingly sets these milestones. Get married. Have a steady career for the rest of your life. Have children. Don’t fall for these expectations.
It’s not too late and you’re just getting started. Be patient, continue working on yourself, and good things will come.
I’m 49, didn’t get married until 30, didn’t settle into my current career until I was 35, and am very happy with my situation. Late 20s me would never have believed I’d get it together. You will. Just keep working.
Keep at it and make sure your health is given more priority over anything else.
Lost in what way?
We are all lost, enjoy trying to find yourself cause that is the purpose of life
Do not eat every donut in the box all at once.
Why fuck around? Be a better friend to yourself.
I am a bit late in this conversation, but on top of what I have already read:
Dont worry too much about what other people think. The majority dont care, and those that say something may not really understand what you are trying to achieve and only make passing comments. I have spent the last 20 years living in countries that are not my own, and I find that people in my context just think I am wrong because I am different. That just (IMO) gives me free rain to do whatever I want because whatever I do is wrong anyway, might as well be wrong and happy!
Being lost is ok, it means that you acknowledge it and it gives you a chance to look around for what is good for you. Embrace being lost and see what happens. From a 48 year old perpetually lost.
We’re all still lost in life don’t worry
Wear sunscreen
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it
A long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists
Whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable
Than my own meandering experience, I will dispense this advice now
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, oh, never mind
You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth
Until they’ve faded, but trust me, in 20 years, you’ll look back
At photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now
How much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked
You are not as fat as you imagine
Don’t worry about the future
Or worry, but know that worrying
Is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation
by chewing Bubble gum
The real troubles in your life
Are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind
The kind that blindsides you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday
Do one thing every day that scares you
Saying, don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts
Don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours
Floss
Don’t waste your time on jealousy
Sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind
The race is long and in the end, it’s only with yourself
Remember compliments you receive, forget the insults
If you succeed in doing this, tell me how
Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements
Stretch
Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life
The most interesting people I know
Didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives
Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don’t
Get plenty of calcium
Be kind to your knees
You’ll miss them when they’re gone
Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t
Maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t
Maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the ‘Funky Chicken’
On your 75th wedding anniversary
Whatever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much
Or berate yourself either
Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s
Enjoy your body, use it every way you can
Don’t be afraid of it or what other people think of it
It’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your own living room
Read the directions even if you don’t follow them
Do not read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly
Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for good
Be nice to your siblings, they’re your best link to your past
And the people most likely to stick with you in the future
Understand that friends come and go
But a precious few, who should hold on
Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle
For as the older you get
The more you need the people you knew when you were young
Live in New York City once but leave before it makes you hard
Live in northern California once but leave before it makes you soft
Travel
Accept certain inalienable truths
Prices will rise, politicians will philander, you too, will get old
And when you do, you’ll fantasize that when you were young
Prices were reasonable, politicians were noble
And children respected their elders
Respect your elders
Don’t expect anyone else to support you
Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you’ll have a wealthy spouse
But you never know when either one might run out
Don’t mess too much with your hair
Or by the time you’re 40 it will look 85
Be careful whose advice you buy but be patient with those who supply it
Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past
From the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts
And recycling it for more than it’s worth
But trust me on the sunscreen
Feeling lost in your late 20s is more common than you think. You’re not behind you’re still learning, growing, and becoming. Take small steps, try new things, and stop comparing. Clarity comes with motion, not waiting.
Take serious stock of your life
Travel- with an open mind
You’re normal.
Pick a direction and keep going
30 year old here. I’ve been up and down and over and out. Don’t wait for anything to happen. You got to go and make it happen. Take care of your health i.e. get a daily routine going. Save money and start an IRA if you haven’t already. Oh and stay sober and focused.
I started college at 35. The factory I work in paid for it. I was just an operator. I’m now an Automation engineer.
Learn how to do something no one else can do then get really good at it.
Everyone is lost and nobody has everything figured out
Still trying to figure that out TBH.
Just an FYI; you can be fine when you’re younger and actually become lost when you’re older… also, some people are always searching for something their entire lives
I’m in my sixties, and very happily married, and retired. My two recomendations are; floss and save as much as you can in you retiremet accounts.
Pick a path. Carpenter, business administrator, data scientist, electrician, just pick SOMETHING. Pick is a skill you can learn in 2-4 years. Most people get tired of their job, may as well get paid properly for it.
Barely out of my 20s but living a good life, here is my advice.
Stay out of debt. If that means waiting a month to save up for something, or waiting for it to go on sale, then wait. Debt is somethingi never want to be in other than my mortgage.
Stay busy. A simple job to fill your time can do wonders. Don’t be afraid to pursue a different line of work but stay busy while looking.
Stay active. The worst I’ve felt was always fine times I wasn’t active. Can’t afford the gym? Walk. Bring some water and learn your city. Talk a Walk, often.
Take some quiet time for yourself. I’m religious so that could be time to pray, but many non religious people still say sins time to relax and breath deep will do you wonders. Why do you think smoke breaks are so common (besides the addictive nature of tobacco), because it felt good to take a few minutes and take deep slow bresths in and out.
Otherwise, I’d take time to read. I think reading is an entertainment that helps grow your brain rather than tv or videos or tik toks that feel like they kill your brain a bit. So take some time to read. Libraries are often free.
And then once you have a good base? Find a plan to move forward imagine sustainability way. Find a job you like? Make sure its something that you can be hired in and work before spending big bucks training or going to school for it. Look and see if your idea is sustainable to your future.
If you feel lost in your 20s, you’re right on course.
Don’t worry too much about it. Work enough that you can afford life – save some money, invest money (crypto isn’t investing) and just have a good time.
Life will just happen. You don’t need to do anything.
Don’t worry so much you got time to figure what you truly love to do.. at least find a job, and he’s right try no get nobody pregnant, and think what you what to do. Explore certain thing u thought about, test run one of your ideas and see if u feel like doing that idea. It will slowly come to you in due tim, but main thing is at least explore job opportunities cause what u choose to do might b what you love. Just don’t kill your about meaning don’t think so hard it so much out their…peace hope this information as well as others help.
Try new things. It will help you figure out what you want.
Some people blossom and find their way a bit later than others. Really think about what you want then go for it. Stay out of debt.
Just stay lost. Honestly You’re better off
I am 54 with a pretty big house, 2 great kids, awesome spouse I adore, time for hobbies I enjoy and am generally happy and secure. I did not even remotely get my shit together until I was about 35. I was a mess in my 20’s – defaulted on a student loan, got bailed out by my parents at way too advanced an age, and was broke and living in shithole apartment by my early 30’s.
Don’t burn any bridges, keep plugging away, and be ready for when you catch a break. Catching a couple made all the difference for me. Its okay to not start a career until your 30’s or later. Everyone’s timeline is different.
Being lost in your late 20s isn’t a failure—it’s just part of the process. Most people are faking confidence anyway. Try stuff, screw up, pivot. Your 30s will thank you for the lessons you’re learning now. Just don’t stay stuck doing nothing out of fear.
Don’t do drugs
Try different things– hobbies, sports, jobs…you never know what or whom you’ll connect with until it happens. The more things you try, the greater your odds of discovering a passion, friend, lover…. Also, make a pact with yourself to learn at least one new thing every year.
We all are.
Wear sunscreen.
https://youtu.be/sTJ7AzBIJoI?feature=shared
You’re just figuring out everything you don’t want to ever do again. When that’s done, the opportunity will present itself.
Gen X-er here. Hint: most people never ‘find’ their purpose. Some are lucky enough to stumble across it though. If you’re really keen, try volunteering. Take a few risks (nothing foolhardy). The most important thing is to focus on others.
Go do something with your hands that pays well . Radiology technician, recreation therapy etc
Grandma Moses was an artist who only started painting seriously at 78. You have plenty of time. Try stuff and see what sticks!
No matter what, we are all going to die. May not be tomorrow or next week or even next month. But it will happen. We live a lifetime that is less than the blink of an eye in all of existence. We are living a finite human experience. We all deserve a chance to do the things that make us happen. We all deserve the chance to venture out and discover ourselves beyond the bounds of home. Don’t be afraid to push the frontier of what you’re passionate about. We are what we choose to be. We are what we choose to do. If there isn’t a path towards the destination you wish to reach, make one yourself. Do not give up. Always prevail. Always prevail.
You will feel lost at every stage of your life in one way or the other. Teenage friendships, dating, career, family, kids, retirement etc.
Focus in what you have and make the most out of it.
Take care of your mental health
put yourself first. develop patience.
The non-physical exists, why get lost just here when you can get lost mentally AND spiritually.
Dont worry, you got so many years ahead so dont be bother by small failures here and there there will be plenty more. Also use condoms.
Just go with the flow… don’t worry too much about where you are or where you think you’re supposed to be. Comparison is the thief of joy so wake up each day and do something that makes you feel fulfilled, regardless how big or insignificant it may be.
Try keep a good credit score, and do your best to not have any children with someone you’re not positive you want to be with forever.
If you don’t have a college degree yet, I’d highly recommend just taking some courses at a community college and working in the direction of a degree closest to something you think could be tolerable.
I’m 32 now and man, I thought my 20s were supposed to be the prime years but I realized a few months back it’s supposed to be your years where you just fuck up everything and learn. 30s is where you figure out what you want and from what my mom said, 40s is when you put it together.
Basically let your 20s be the time where you accept that mistakes happen and learn from it.
So glad i stumbled upon this post. Definitely saving this for future reference
Pick an industry not a job. Once you know what industry you want to work I. The job will come
Next and you will be happy.
Be open. You’ll figure it out. Good luck!
I’m 35 and an addict. Just did 2 weeks clean and stumbled a bit last night with alcohol and crack. When I’m sober, thinking about the future scares me, that’s why I go back to it. I have no advice to give you mate, but I suppose we just have to keep going. It’s 7:45 here in England, no sleep and writing this. Bit of sleep and back to work tomorrow. I’ve just got to do better than I did today. I’m in no man’s land right now. You’re not alone I guess.