I might need to pee when I park the car; by the time I’m fumbling with the house keys I’ll REALLY have to go, and by the time I’m undoing my fly it’ll be an all out emergency.
In no other case does the need grow so suddenly. It really feels like I’m about to have an accident, but two minutes before it was ok.
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If you ring a bell every time you feed your dog, your dog starts to think a ringing bell means food and their body will get ready to eat.
So even if you ring the bell but don’t feed your dog, you have trained your dog to expect food when the bell rings, and their body will still start getting ready to eat.
The same thing applies here; you’ve trained your body to go to the bathroom when you go into a bathroom. So when you start approaching that bathroom, your body starts to get ready to go to the bathroom.
There’s actually a name for it! Look up “latchkey incontinence”.
Your body recognises the “safe” place to relieve yourself.
You are not safe when in public because there might be tigers around that would take advantage of your very vulnerable moment and eat you.
But there are no tigers in your house/bathroom.
your mind has already seen the light at the end of the tunnel, and your bladder now has the double duty of containing the ticking time bomb and fending off your mind’s pressure to start opening the gates.
sitting down on a car or bike seat seems to reduce urgency. when you get up the weight of the full bladder hits you kind of suddenly
I think your brain unconsciously tries to predict the future to lessen the risks of being eaten by a predator. So when you approach the restroom, in your mind you are already on the toilet.
It’s called latchkey urgency, your brain knows relief is near, so it cranks up the urgency
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Oh i actually know this one.
See, you have 2 sphincters for your urethra and your anal canal, the internal and the external sphincter.
The internal sphincter is made of smooth muscle which has involuntary control by your brain. Smooth muscle are like the ones in your intestines, you don’t need to think for your intestines to move your stomach contents to your anus.
The external sphincter on the other hand, is made of skeletal muscle which is voluntarily controlled by you. Skeletal muscles are like the muscles in your arms and legs, you need to actively move them around.
Back to the smooth muscle, now that we already know that it’s under autonomic control by your brain. So your brain will turn down some systems and turn up some other systems when you’re in different situations. Like in the “fight or flight” response where the brain will put a pause on your digestive system, so you don’t feel the urge to pee or poop when fighting / running away from something.
So what happens is when you’re in a place that your brain doesn’t think is a good place to pee / poop, it closes the “inner automatic door” that is your internal sphincter. So you don’t have to actually do a lot of holding it in.
But what happens when you reach your front door / toilet door, your brain thinks that this is a good time to pee / poop, it opens the “inner automatic door”. Now you are left holding the “outer manual door” which is the external sphincter so it feels harder because you’re actually doing all the work to keep it in.
Hope that helps!
It’s kind of like when your dog gets excited seeing you grab its leash.
Conditioning.
You associate the bathroom with peeing.
So when you go there, you’ve conditioned yourself to relieve yourself whenever you are in there.
So by going into it, you are triggering the response of needing to relieve yourself.
Same thing applies to dogs for example, train them with a treat and a word, then you can remove the treat and the word works.
This might help you.
https://old.reddit.com/r/explainlikeimfive/search?q=pee+closer&restrict_sr=on
My favorite fake explanation is that your bladder connects to your home wifi.
Does the urge lessen when you get further from the bathroom?
Don’t conflate proximity for something that almost always happens because of the nature of the thing. (i.e. bladder gets fuller.)
try standing next to running water next time you need to go and see what that feels like
There’s this metaphor that’s kind of bad but at the same time, it’s pretty useful: human, monkey, and lizard brain.
At least, it’s a lot better than people that seem to think there’s just them, their thinking reasoning mind, and then their body is like a car they drive, everything it does as automatic as camshafts driving valves and an automatic transmission shifting.
In the three part brain metaphor, you have
A lot of “automatic” stuff that your body does comes straight from the lizard and monkey brain. You cannot consciously, verbally command your heart beat to raise and lower, but if you trust yourself, you can influence it. And recognizing that you’re near the urination place, so letting the reigns off the bladder is another one of these.
Proximity incontinence, very common. You might want to practice holding it a bit, just seeing if you can hold it for a minute or two, or this could become a serious issue over time.
And don’t pee in the shower regularly or you will weaken your bladder muscles even more as they get lazier and lazier.
Not a medical professional, but based on my own assumptions, I feel like the brain sends a signal to the lower half to tell it that it’s ready to be released since the bathroom is so close, and that it can’t hold it in any longer
It is a learned pattern. You pee in one specific place. Every time you’re there you know it’s the place. So naturally you’d hold until you’re there. If you’re bot, you just hold until you’re there.
Every time I put a key in a keyhole of my apartment, pipes get loose 🤣
Anticipeetion. Also, anticipootion. It’s just science.
I used to have this issue, I had pavloved myself into exploding for a piss when i stepped of the buss.
So what I had to do was intentionally NOT go to the bathroom when I got home, and wait a ‘random’ amount of time.
Worked itself out after a couple weeks of that
How do dugs affect this process? Asking for a patient.