I had a friend, let’s call him Tom. Tom had three sisters. My friend had family drama with his father. I was there to keep his mind off the bad things. I became like a brother he never had. Unknowingly, around this time two of his three sisters developed strong feelings for me. Let’s call them Sara and Jane.
Sara and Jane started to see me as the kind of guy that made sure everyone was doing okay.
About a few months after a long term relationship of mine had ended, both sisters reached out to see if I was okay.
They both invited me to dinner to catch up. Except the days weren’t lining up to when we would all be free. It seems like both wanted to go on days that the other was unavailable for. I finally realized they weren’t trying to go as a group. At the time I didn’t think much of it, I just knew both wanted to buy me food.
Whenever we would all hang out, Sara and Jane would race to hug me first. They would bump shoulders to sit next to me.
Then I started to notice both sisters would try to message me frequently. Eventually both sisters started to send what I would consider spicy pictures. Like them trying out sports bra’s and sundresses.
Within a few days from each other, they both confessed having feelings for me. Both said they were scared to ruin my friendship with Tom. Neither Sara Or Jane wanted anyone to know that they had confessed their feelings to me, Especially not Tom.
I found them attractive and to be good people. But I didn’t want to strain the relationship of Tom, Sara, and Jane. They both understood and moved on.
Tom never found out about his sisters’ confessions. I worry he would think negatively of me had he found out both his sisters started frequently sending photos of themselves.
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Jeez man. That’s rough. I think the action you took was the best thing you could’ve done there.
Keep it a secret as each sister requested. You did nothing wrong. They did nothing wrong. It was just awkward.
Oh wow, that’s a real tough spot you’re in. I can’t even begin to imagine how awkward that must’ve been, but hey, at least they were honest with you. It’s commendable how you handled it though, really stepping up for your friend and his sisters.
Damn. Yeah keep it between you and the sisters otherwise could make your friendship weird
You handled it maturely, you did nothing wrong and there is no reason for Tom to think negatively of you, even if he did find out.
Not all that surprising. If they had an unhealthy home environment and you were a known presence that projected the opposite of that, it’s not too surprising they could develop feelings. Add in their own trauma and sibling rivalry to subconsciously or not create some rivalry here. Nonetheless, you didn’t act and you everyone moved on. Kudos to you for being the healthy person here. Hopefully they learned to end the cycle of abuse.
As someone that sends pictures of myself wearing new clothes to whoever will validate me, it concerns me that people might see these as “spicy”…
You did a great job on maintaining the peace 😭💗
My boy got more rizz than Alexander Hamilton fending off the Schuyler Sisters congrats yo
Bro, you accidentally became the main character in a sitcom where the twist is you’re everyone’s emotional support and secret crush. Props to you for handling it with maturity, though—most people would’ve made it weird real fast. Keeping Tom in the dark was probably the wisest move. But man… I hope you’re at least writing this down somewhere, because this is either a future Netflix series or the beginning of the most awkward wedding speech ever.
They could have been roping you into a rivalry between the two of them; it seems a bit off that they were both behaving the same way at the same time. Don’t bring it up ever, but don’t lie about it if any of the 3 siblings asks.
You are being handed a rare opportunity. Don’t screw this up..
I would have banged them both one after the other. You missed out.
You are a professional. I would have probably gotten both of them pregnant, ruined my relationship with Tom, and made their relationship with their dad even worse.
Confession, I’m the greatest guy ever with fantastic decision making skills
If you don’t see a forever relationship with either let them know you’re flattered and think they’re great but that this would impact your friendship and that you don’t want to cause issues between them or between you and Tom then step back. Don’t go out with either of them or continue conversations that you need to keep secret. They’ll eventually move on.
It’s a shame that they weren’t exercising quite the same level of restraint, decorum, good taste and decency that you were.
Well done for keeping it in your pants and not taking advantage and shitting all over your friendship with your pal🙂👍🏻
• Tom doesn’t need to know about the photos. You hold the sister’s confidences in that respect. You’re not betraying Tom’s trust in doing so. Simply applying discretion and preventing unnecessary stress amongst Family. (Creating unnecessary Divide in the name of Transparency is simply unbecoming a Gentleman)
• You did the prudent thing by not persuing either sister unbeknownst to Tom. Commendable.
Had you wished to the correct course of action would have been to approach Tom and discussed it with him.
Well he didn’t find out and there’s no reason he needs to now or ever. You made the right call in not dating either of them.
It’s quite normal to develop feelings like these because you are there to help your friend. It’s almost like Florence Nightingale syndrome.
I wouldn’t tell your friend either. He will feel neglected like his friend is catching all the attention from his own family. Or he could feel you might also be his girlfriend’s crush too. Like people that love me also love him. So I wouldn’t tell. It’s not important.
Be reasonable and be less there for them. No texting or social media sharing. You are your friend’s friend. Not his sister’s friends.
I say that because you might have trouble with your own partners as well for this. It’s not exactly nice to have crushes following your bf social media. Yes, insecurities and all that with me but I would definitely feel frustrated.
Good luck. I am sorry about your friends dad. And something that happened with my own dad was that when I got his age near my grandfather’s death, he was miserable for a good time. Very grim and thinking his own time was also near. So, your friend might go through something like it.
What makes you think your friend wouldnt approve?
I dated a friend’s sister in hs, lost the friend. He said it was just too weird. Oh well, no regrets. If you could see the sister you would understand.
Personally I think he’d respect the hell out of you for leaving well enough alone and not risking a family love triangle he’s stuck in the middle of as your friend. His sisters are their own people. And you handled this like a mature adult
Are they hot?