I had a custody trial and at the same time a huge garnishment coming out of my paycheck. I make a decent salary. Or at least I did until July 2024. 1,300 a month comes out of my checks to pay for something a family member had in my name. I know, stupid of me.
Anyway, I was short and a guy paid me $300 to have sex with him. It was an older white male. And I felt good being able to pay what I needed, but now I’m disgusted with myself and I haven’t told anyone about it. I initially thought I could keep going until I realized I could be jailed for it and everyone would know.
Now I just feel icky. And unfortunately the garnishment won’t stop for another 4 months.
Right now, I am short on my bills about another 200 dollars and I’ve been looking up ways to earn the money honestly, but no luck. I work a full time job and have a daughter, who I fought for custody for. We fled a domestic violence situation. She has never gone without the basic necessities. We live in a decent neighborhood, and I have a well established career. Unfortunately the irresponsibility of someone else is causing my trouble right now and it’s stuck that way for a few more months.
I’m torn between testing my luck and doing this again for the sake of taking care of my responsibilities or simply going without.
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If only you had fans.
Have you ever considered Uber or door dash
You did what you had to. I think you should try a more legal side hustle – like selling feet pics, used undies or being a dom to sub men. All these things pay good money, if you manage to connect with your audience.
This is, obviously, a more long term strategy.
OP, don’t be hard on yourself. Life is about making mistakes, I know for sure you couldn’t find anyone especially on here that has never made one! You had reason to do what you did and could see no other way around things. Don’t let this burden you so much for too long it will eat away at you. Try and make peace with it, seek a counsellor if it helps for support but it is not a reflection of the person you are, rather the hardships you are going through. Stay strong x
Uber on nights?
A woman can put up with a lot if she has a plan. Go back to that guy and see if he can help you out for the same arrangement. I know it’s supposed to be bad but there’s a lot of women out there doing the very same thing every week just not talking about. Old boyfriends Situationships things like that all the time.
You did what you had to do. A good mom would do anything for her kids. You took care of her.
Rover?
Sex work is work.
It’s only the single oldest trade known to mankind. It has happened in the past and will continue to happen. It doesn’t have to be a defining moment but really it’s up to you
It’s only the single oldest trade known to mankind. It has happened in the past and will continue to happen. It doesn’t have to be a defining moment but really it’s up to you
It’s only the single oldest trade known to mankind. It has happened in the past and will continue to happen. It doesn’t have to be a defining moment but really it’s up to you
Please don’t judge yourself harshly. You did what was needed in a desperate situation and look how much that 300 bought. Good luck.
Because you make a good living and because things will turn around for you in four months, have you considered looking into short term loans with companies like Elastic? The interest rates suck if you extend the loan out too far but if you want to keep your self-respect and will be liquid in four months, it’s something to consider.
Don’t be hard on yourself.. do what you have to do to get by ..I understand hardships as I’m going through it myself. I’m sure things will turn around.. have faith and stay positive 🙏🏼
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You do what you gotta do, don’t feel bad about yourself for it. It was a job. I hope you can find something you’re more comfortable with going forward, but doing this or continuing to do this doesn’t really say anything about the quality of your character. I would take care to not have this come out to your ex who may try to use it against you as a material change in circumstances.
This breaks my heart OP, you did what you had to do. That still doesn’t make it hurt any less. Please try to forgive yourself and think of it as just another mis step in life. We all get into bad spots. Every single one of us. Some stay in them. You did what you had to do to not stay in that spot. Be gentle with yourself
You did what a parent would do for their child… and that’s anything. ❤️
You did what you had to do to protect your daughter. There is no higher honor than that. You are what a parent should be.
You did what you had to do for your kid. Nothing wrong with that.
You, dear OP, are a great mother. There is no shame in what you did. I just wanted to say that.
Have you looked into selling plasma?
I hope you’re able to move past this feeling, you did what you felt you had to do.
But as you’re looking for recommendations to not have to do that again, have you considered looking into pet sitting? You can make pretty good money from it and sometimes it’s not too time consuming. If you work from home you can have a dog at the same time for example, or on your days off and still carry on with your day.
Also…a dog can cheer most up in shit situations.
Is her father paying you child support? If not, I would go that route ASAP.
Hey you do what makes you happy or at least not stress about or add problems. You wanna fuck the guy and get paid , go ahead even enjoy it . As long as you are not being forced , you be happy
Nasty. Get another job. Do doordash.
No shame whatsoever. I would literally kill for my kids. Literally. Have sex for money?? Easy choice. You’re a good mom in my book.
People are giving you terrible advice to keep selling your body. Don’t do that anymore. You don’t like how it feels for a reason! You absolutely can do this – you can make money in a way that doesn’t feel bad!! You’re smart enough and you work hard. You can do it. There are so many creative ways to make some extra money that won’t take a piece of your soul along with it.
It’s the oldest profession in the world.
Make that bank baby and enjoy yourself when you do
Na I hate myself bc I be saying shit all the time abt stuff like this but deadass when u gotta do some shit to survive, u just gotta do it and I didn’t realize it until I was in the situation myself. Don’t feel ashamed of yourself or anything you were doing it for your child a mother will go far for her child and you will be given forgiveness from your conscience once you understand that. Hard times prepare you for what’s in store to come. Do what you gotta do OP. They also have certain groups for borrowing and lending on here if ur interested in them the ppl seem pretty gracious with extensions too with communication.