Is that supposed to be an ego boost to you or her just thinking “I can get an easy one up on this girl”?
Women: what are signs/actions that show another woman thinks you’re competition?
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Is that supposed to be an ego boost to you or her just thinking “I can get an easy one up on this girl”?
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I was hiking the other day with my dogs and came upon a group of two couples and their dogs. One couple had their young daughter with them. The men and the daughter walked up to me while the women stayed back and held their dogs. The little girl wanted to pet mine, so I let her, it was a pleasant exchange, etc.
When I walked past the women I said a very friendly hello. The only reply from one of them was, “You’re breathing awfully hard, this is supposed to be an easy trail.”
I was thrown off, and I would never be snarky like that with another woman, but I understood that in that moment she felt like crap about herself and was trying to outsource the pain. I’ve felt that trigger before with other women, where their simple presence (esp. around my partner) makes me notice everything I perceive to be wrong with me.
I have also had women glare at me, or otherwise snub me.
I would love for us as women to figure out how to be fully embodied and expressed around each other without creating feelings of not-enoughness in each other. Internalized patriarchal ideals of youth and beauty have pitted us against each other, and we suffer for it.
Edit: typo
They rarely hide it, it’s almost always in your face.
They project their insecurities onto you and always criticise your choices. They’ll always keep you close too. A lot of contradictions, hypocrisy, envy, backhanded compliments, and unsolicited ‘advice’.
Backhanded compliments, overly snarky comments (oh you’re cool /s), trying to put you down in front of others generally. I usually just smile or say “that’s weird” because it’s incredibly apparent why they are doing it. Don’t get me wrong I don’t feel like I’m better than anyone and don’t treat people like that at all, but I do brush this stuff off because it’s not about me.
Tells you that you would look good with shorter hair. Encourages you to eat junk food/candy.
What are the sign she thinks otherwise? LOL
Sorry but from my experience women are very competitive in the „dating market” and sometimes even friends backstab each other.
I’m not a woman, so take my response with a grain of ‘idiotic male salt’, but from my experience.
Women take 2 roads when dealing with women that they see as competition:
Snark and petty adversarial behavior: (Starting with ‘I don’t think she’s cute at all’ to grousing about behaviors that don’t seem to make sense for someone to be upset about. ‘Why did that bitch even by that car?’, to direct confrontation ‘You know what, bitch… don’t be wearing that shirt around my man!”
Subtle and manipulative coercion of their significant other. From the passive aggressive “I know you don’t even like girls like that.” to the “If you loved me you wouldn’t talk to her.”
I probably wouldn’t notice, and if I noticed, I wouldn’t care. I can’t imagine any scenario in which I’d expend any energy on anyone but myself or my family.
When they tell you how easy you have it compared to them.
Passive aggressive comments
I just read these comments and realised this has my been sister all along, and I could never figure out (or accept) what was going on
Studys have shown that female hairdressers tend to cut the hair too short of women they think are attractive.
I’m always wary of the women that lay it on thick with the compliments immediately, because they almost always go backhanded REAL fast. I’ve had women I’ve met who are immediately saying that I’m gorgeous, “look at you, so pretty”, “oh I can tell we’re gonna be besties” type shit and by the end of the night they’re saying weird mean girls shit apropos nothing if you don’t fully buy their manipulations and instead treat them like a normal person you’ve just met.
Body positivity, you get those pondages girl, do what feels best for YOU!
A friend and I were chatting to a random guy at a party once, not hitting on him, talking about how we each knew the host etc.
His girlfriend comes over and passionately kisses him in front of us, looks at us and walks away.
I was at a rodeo this weekend. I sat next to a man and his wife. I was there with my son.
I usually always address the woman first when striking up a conversation with a couple. I did that here.
She gave a halfhearted smile and ignored me the rest of the time. The husband chatted with me basically the whole time except when I was engaging with my son.
When leaving I put my hand out to shake. She ignored it. He shook. 🤷🏻♀️
She’s upset over your friendship with her partner, who was your friend before either of us knew that she even existed
Always telling me about how they do something better or score higher than me. Copied everything that I did.
You’ll know, they’re always trying to one-up you or exert dominance in some way. A lot of microaggressions. Thankfully I haven’t encountered much of this throughout life, women have generally been very supportive of each other.