I’m a 23 year old guy. I was bullied ages 2 through 18. I was bullied because of my physique, my personality , my intelligence , my social abilities, my sports skills . Possibly because of my sexual orientation too. I was so sensitive that I was bullied into crying . Right now , I feel doomed. I only study , but I’m failing university miserably. I’m not up to expectations, I have no interest in what I’m studying. I have a fixed mindset, no self worth or confidence, not even self-love . I would be happy if I were able to not care anymore about other people’s opinion, stop comparing myself to others, and not being neurotic. I feel like some things can’t change , like this feeling will stick with me forever
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Honestly, tune the world out. You need to find what makes YOU happy. Forget all the rest.
The world is a complex place. There has always been bullying and ppl that keep other ppl down.
It’s a really hard place to survive, much less succeed.
You can do it.
Ppl with much less to offer than you have prospered.
Best of luck
I mean if you want me to bully you I can, otherwise grow out of giving a fuck about other people’s opinions. You are a grown ass man. Do or don’t or whatever Shakespeare said. No one is gonna hold your hand in life. Make it happen. You control your reality
Do you have parents? Ask them how precious, invaluable you are, as you really are.
No one can teach or change you unless you change your view of yourself.
Accept who you are, you are just an incredibly marvelous, adorable human being that deserves love from anyone around you.
Put the self-doubt about your precious self aside, and hug yourself and tell yourself you are the only gem in this entire universe.
If you can truly love yourself, no one can harm or hurt you.
You will never even remember the names of your bullies, and feel genuinely sorry for them who did not know what they were doing in this precious life. Because no matter what they do to you, you will not be impacted by anyone.
It is not the bullies who have made your life sad and miserable. Wake up. it was you who did not value your own self.
You will be fine. You will be loved. You will flourish. Once you know how to see the true incredible value of yourself.
Hope you find it within you soon.
Hey friend,
I just want to say—you are not alone, and you are not forgotten. God sees every wound you carry, every tear you’ve cried, every time you’ve felt like giving up. You’ve been through more than most, and it’s no wonder your heart feels tired.
But this isn’t the end of your story.
You were made on purpose, for a purpose. Even now, in the middle of the pain, God is still working in your life. The things that feel impossible to heal, He can touch with love and restore.
You may not love yourself right now, but He loves you completely. You may feel stuck, but He leads people out of impossible places.
Don’t give up. There is hope, and it has a name—Jesus. And He’s not done with you yet.
I’m praying for your peace, healing, and the freedom to become who you really are.
Please IM, reach out or whatever you need to do, I’m here for you. And I’m sure there are others who would say the same.
Therapy, to learn how to evict the bullies you’ve allowed to live in your head rent-free for the past five years.
I feel like this was written by me 🙁
It gets better from here. There’s still assholes in the world but not like high school. You’re an adult now. You can be who you want to be and be proud of it. You have nothing to prove to anyone. I’m a stranger and I’m rooting for you. Know that people care about you even if you don’t realize it. Start tomm by saying I’m gonna love myself. Eventually you will believe it