My boyfriend just asked me this question and I dont know what to say. I think that it wouldn’t make it weird anymore but honestly I dont know. I feel like you’re not even really related if it’s that far(?)
My boyfriend just asked me this question and I dont know what to say. I think that it wouldn’t make it weird anymore but honestly I dont know. I feel like you’re not even really related if it’s that far(?)
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Aren’t literally all humans 58th cousins? I wouldn’t break up with someone unless I found out they’re a third cousin from my actual known family, or a biological first/second cousin (both of my parents are adopted so there are a bunch of strangers none of us know anything about that are genetically related to me)
I feel like we’re all connected in some ways. Especially living in the same city. I wouldn’t really care lol. For me personally I think a 10th cousin would be the limit😅
58th cousins means that you share great-great-great ( with a total of 57 greats) grandparents. That means your most common ancestor lived about 1700 years ago.
You’re fine. Enjoy your date.
Yes, because that’s so far removed it’s irrelevant. Probably much less than 0.1% shared DNA at that point.
And risk my child becoming a liberal (autistic)? No way!!!
I think that’d make you less related than most people…
There is a good chance you probably are if you’re even remotely similar heritage.
That’s so far removed you probably are 57th cousins.
Well, in the UK you can legally marry your first cousin, so 58th is no problem. You had a common ancestor centuries ago. So what?
It’s only really a problem if you’re within 3 or 4th cousins range, higher placements in the family tree are not really a big issue.
That’s probably a majority of small towns where the ir aren’t a whole lot of people moving in or out of the area. The town I moved to, it seems like every other person is related
You having three headed babies with tails!!!
youre more likely to be earlier cousins than that tbh
Humans have some of the lowest genetic variation, so we are pretty much all related in some way
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Sorry OP you need to find a different excuse.
Not only would I continue dating them I would also bring it up constantly and at the most inappropriate times.
I am lot of fun in the uncomfortable kind of way.
My husband and I found out we were 9th cousins while we were engaged. It’s for sure legal and we googled it and it said we share like 0.05% DNA or something like that. I believe it said that once you pass 4th cousins or something, it’s pretty much the same as being genetically strangers
Karma farming. Everyone’s comments are assuming anyone is that stupid.
There’s a good chance most people you know or meet are within that.
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If you’re not first, you’re last.
My other half is my cousin 4 times removed. We grew up in different, but close countries. We only found out after doing some Ancestry stuff. Doesn’t bother us at all.
5th cousins isn’t a bit weird, as long as genes didn’t swap earlier.
honestly it’s really rare for a kid to have birth defects even if you’re first cousins so if we found out we were about as related as everyone in a small town then yes i could not care less
I’d break up. I only date first or second cousins.
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Depends on how things were going….
Dang, 58 cousins?
The family parties must be epic!
That’s so far removed that if they brought that up I might be annoyed enough to leave
I doubt you’d be able to find someone you’re not 58th cousins with.
I would be shocked if someone I was with was not at least a 58th cousin.
First cousins share a grandparent. Second cousins share a great grandparent. 58th cousins share a great(x57) grandparent. Your most recent common ancestor lived 59 generations ago, which is about 1200 years ago.
In short, my answer is yes.
yes because who cares
Is this an aragorn/arwen question in disguise.
My wife and I are like 7th cousins twice removed or something. A friend of mine from high school married his third cousin. It’s not weird. You’d have a harder time finding someone more distantly related than 58th cousins.
58th cousins 😭 it’s like, at that point, are you even cousins, lol, and/or does it even matter?!?
That’s basically all humans tho?
Obviously, at that point you are hardly related at all.
In Iceland, people are much more related than that. My ex was my 6th cousin once removed. The general rule of thumb is that 4th cousins are related while 5th cousins are not.
Everyone is closer related than that
Yes. Hell it can be waaaaay less than that
That far back yes
I think it only takes like 6th cousins to be not incest. Like your babies would be as healthy as if you made it with a stranger.
Man, 3rd degree is game to me, imagine 58th
I wouldn’t really think twice about it if it was more than fourth cousins.
If two people are of European descent they’re almost certainly between 6th and 10th cousins
The vast majority of people you meet are going to be closer related to you than 15th cousin.
You would have to go to a very isolated population to even find somebody who is 58th cousins with you
I’m pretty sure everyone on earth is related by 16th cousins or less. So you are missing some familial connections.
You’re underestimating how related we all are. Even the most distant humans are like 17th cousins. Every US president has been within four or five cousins.
58th? Do you have any idea how distant that is? I think most people from the same country are likely already closer related than that.
Hope you like that hasbourg jaw because your kids are getting it.
My paternal grandparents were second cousins. I’m sure you’ll be fine.
That’s not even a thing of any concern. Yes, and I’d probably still be with him even if we found out we were 2nd cousins!
You both probably descend from charlemagne, or genghis khan. Yep, that’s about the timeframe
You share about the same amount of DNA with your 5th cousin as you do with someone completely unrelated. So I’m pretty sure you’re in the clear at 58th.
OP: …I guess it’s ok?
OP’s boyfriend: Ok, now what about 3rd cousins, because that’s what we are
Pretty much any two people of the same ethnicity are (at least) 58th cousins.
58th cousin is pretty distant, like a spider monkey somewhere in china distant, so if they’re human you’re good.
You literally have billions of 58th cousins. There is a pretty good chance you’re closer cousins than that.
This is up there with “would you still love me if I was a worm?”
Babe Queen Camilla is like my 5th cousin and I ain’t getting any royalties so go for your life 😂
It’s totally acceptable. Keep f-ing
Yes
lol you guys are probably below 15th cousins you’re fine
I’m from a small town, the line ends at like 3rd
58th cousins definitely wouldn’t matter to me. I heard that anything beyond second cousins is irrelevant genetics-wise (I am not willing to look this up for a random post so I’m not sure if it’s true.) So that wouldn’t matter to me.
Most of the people from the same island as me show up on AncestryDNA as 4th-6th cousins, I ended up marrying outside of my ethnic group but generally people just don’t really consider anyone beyond a second cousin to be an actual relative.
Pretty sure the majority of humanity would be 58th cousins
After about 4th cousins you’re pretty much genetically strangers as much as any one more distantly related
Isn’t everyone at least 8th degree cousins with everyone else? Is that a fake fact I read 10 years ago?
At this point pretty much everyone is 58th cousins with pretty much everyone else.
How do you not know this? It’s probably like 2000 years away. If you go far enough back we are all related
I don’t think 58th cousins actually exist. There’s is a lot of mix and match.
I’d probably not want to date someone who asks such a dumb question. Pretty sure once you’re past 3rd cousins you’re no longer related.
Yeah, that’s more than half way to the point where you are related to literally everyone
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Everyone on planet earth is already 50th cousins with each other. Your boyfriend and you are much more closely related than that probably. Especially if you’re the same race.
Provided that you haven’t missed a more recent common ancestor somewhere, that would make you significantly less related than normal strangers. At that point the concern would be outbreeding depression.
Go back about twenty generations and you’re related to nearly everyone alive.
It’s like people of European descent boasting that they’re a descendant of Charlemagne. Sure. Except practically everyone of European descent is among his progeny.
If you could trace your entire genealogy back ten generations, it’s almost certain you’d find the same person more than once, so you’re probably your own cousin already.
Lol, we discussed it pretty early on and decided we’d stay together even if we found out we were half-siblings, we just wouldn’t have kids.
“help me, step-step-step-step…”
58th cousins is barely related to
Hell, I’d date my third cousin. First? No. Second? No. But third? Sure. I don’t even know any of my third cousins by sight or by name.
Yes???
My husband’s first cousins are my second cousins. We’re not blood relatives at least so all good. Interesting family reunions though.
I hope you realize you technically could date and reproduce with your second cousin and have little to no chance of birth defects? Only thing you’d have to really worry about is the social stigma of it being THAT close
So if your 2nd cousin is okay….
Bro the vast majority of people have probably slept with or reproduced with their 58th cousin and never knew it.
We are all inbreds and related if the whole Adam and Eve fantasy is correct 😂
1st cousin births carry the same risks as having a baby in your late 30s. 2nd cousin and beyond births carry almost negligible risks. Also, a 58th cousin means that you share a great (x56) grandparent who goes back over 1000 years. You probably are 58th cousins with your SO if not more closely related.
Yes.
There’s no wrongdoing here. George Bush and Obama are 9th cousins.
I have a friend who is probably a cousin to the royal Family, due to a mutual ancestor.
We’re all a lot closer than you think.
Im closer related to the king of England than you are to that girl. Realistically almost everyone you see, if you live near where your parents live, are as close if not closer.
No, my last name is incredibly rare and we’d probably have the same last name. It would freak me out
My sister is my 7th cousin. Someone a few generations back got a bit closer than 58 separations and yes, my mother’s family is from West Virginia.
All humans are 58th cousins. That’s the generational estimate of our common ancestor or something.
If we’re at closest 2nd cousins, it’s totally fine.
you are 58th cousins with everyone who has or ever will exist.
DNA tests like 23 and me or my heritage don’t go beyond 8th cousins, and for all intents and purposes I think anything beyond 4th cousins is OK.
Go back far enough, and we all share common ancestors. I’d think by fourth cousins, that’s pretty distant.
People really dont understand genetics. They just see “cousins” and get weirded out. The world is smaller than you think.
I have a 58th cousin kink so yes actually I’d be okay with it.
Sure. My wife used to joke that she would stay with me even if she found out we were siblings. Not even step, but full on.
my boyfriend and i share an aunt 🫣
our grandparents (my grandpa, his grandma) had a one night stand as teens and therefore we share an aunt and first cousins as a result. we’re still dating and i get to make cousin jokes despite sharing no blood.
I would date my cousin sooo…. JOKE hahahaha but seriously great cousins draws the line for whats acceptable for me!
If someone was my 58th cousin, that means that we had one shared ancestor about 1500-1800 years ago.
There’s no shared DNA at that point. So, no, I wouldn’t be leaving my wife over that.
bro by third cousin it don’t count, you only share like 1/8th dna, that’s nothing
My wife is into genealogy and found out she and I are related, if you go back to the 1400s. All it changed in our relationship is the next time we had sex she quoted the movie Joe Dirt.
No.
I only date first cousins
Most people are more related than that.
dont worry bro, after like the 5th, cousin youre ok.
If anyone said no then they are either very dumb or very stupid