Looking for some positivity in this sub.
I’ve been with my SO for 2y this July, ring is being made and my only regret is not meeting him sooner.
35F and he’s 41M. We talked about having kids together (he has one 13F, I have two 16F, 11M) but decided against it.
It’s a shame because he’s an amazing dad and my six husband was a very absent one. But by the time we marry and have one I’d be 37+ and I’m just too ready to be empty nesters. 🤷♀️
Regardless, he’s the love of my life. The absolute sweetest man that only wants to make me happy. Calls me beautiful all day long, flowers for any occasion or none at all, cleans and does the dishes, dances with me in the kitchen while I cook. An absolute dream.
I’m glad I didn’t settle. I’m thankful I have him.
Share your love story?
Trying to cut against the bitter posts, and give some hope.
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I (34f) met my partner (38m) a little over a year ago on tinder. We weren’t looking for serious relationships when we met but here we are! He was too good to let go of and we’re too good to ignore. My favourite thing about him is his thoughtfulness and his passion for the environment.
He has always been thoughtful since day one, even though we were just seeing each other casually. I actually cried the first time I truly realised I wasn’t carrying the mental load on my own in our relationship. He valued the things I thought were important and they were important to him too so he ‘s always remembered things and thought of things for us ahead of time.
He’s also super passionate about the environment. This is a man that picks out weeds and picks up rubbish along the way wherever we go. The first time I truly noticed it and admired it was when we were on a trip together (our first trip) and we were going back to the beach house from an afternoon of swimming. We were walking together when he suddenly ducked away to the dunes to rip up an invasive weed and pick up some rubbish. Sometimes it only takes him a few seconds but he’s always wanting to do “his bit” for nature.
He was definitely worth waiting for. We are very much in love and are continuing to grow in love. I’m so glad I never settled. I never imagined a person like him and a relationship like this could exist. We are so happy and looking forward to moving in together soon!
He (now 33M) first added me (now 33F) on Facebook when we were 17. We had tons of friends in common because I used to live in the same town in Europe. I thought he was super cute, so we started chatting, but nothing ever happened he never made a move, and neither did I. We did see each other briefly at a couple of parties.
He moved to NYC to study, and we kept chatting on and off. Usually, I’d text him first when I was feeling lonely or had just gotten dumped. I used to tell everyone that I would marry this guy one day lol
Then, five years after that first Facebook add, I landed an internship in NYC and texted him. We ended up going to a party together, and I was smitten right away and he was too. We officially got together a month later.
What I love most is that even though he’s super manly in every way (tall, broad shoulders…), he’s super respectful. I remember before we were together, I went to his place one night, and I suddenly thought, “Damn, I did it again going to a guy’s place without wanting to have sex.” I remember panicking because, in the past, I always felt pressured when that happened. But he was totally chill. We shared his tiny studio bed, and he never tried anything, not even for a second. I know that should be normal, but back then, it really wasn’t for me.
He’s just the best. I think we complement each other perfectly. He’s kind, he always speaks his mind (which can be annoying sometimes because I hate hard convo), but he makes sure we work through things until they’re resolved. He constantly pushes me to be my best self, keeps me in check, and while that’s not for everyone, I actually love it because it keeps me humble. I’m a way better person today than I was when I met him.
He takes care of me, but more importantly, we have so much fun together. Coming home to him or waking him up always puts a huge smile on my face—he either make a joke or just opens his arms for the biggest hug. He sacrificed his career in the US so I could thrive professionally in our home country, fully aware he’d have fewer opportunities here, and I did. He wasn’t afraid to face my dysfunctional family and has only ever treated them with kindness. He’s beautiful, a great lover, financially secure, and has given me a privileged life.
It’s been 10 years, and we still say how much we hope this is for life and that we’ll keep doing our best to make it so. Thanks for the reminder, it’s a great way to start the day! 😊😊
We met from a friend almost 20 years ago. I was 16. We became close friends for 4 years and he made it known he had a crush on me. Then I fell for him and pursed him. We’re married, been together 14 years now. We have a 12 year old together, almost 6 year old and a third due in 6 weeks. He’s still my best friend and love of my life.
We’re both women.
My favorite thing about her is how consistently she’s shown interest in me, even when at first I was too dense to realize what she was doing. I admire the determination and self-assuredness to keep pursuing me — and I’m nothing to scoff at either. I have a fair bit of power in my career (a woman in tech,) and I carry myself like it. I know I intimidate people; so how she kept persisting really impressed me.
And I love how honest she is. Like, radically honest, even if it doesn’t serve her.
I think the characteristic I love about her is how vulnerable she’s willing to be. It makes her one of the bravest people I know.
Just told this story a few days ago on another thread, but as we’re getting married on Saturday and I’m in a warm ‘n’ fuzzy mood, here ya go again haha.
We met on a very long-running online discussion forum. I joined in 2004 (I was 19 at the time) and my fiancé joined in 2015. We didn’t really strike up a friendship until 2018, which is around when we both split from our previous spouses, however it was nothing romantic at first and he was halfheartedly going on dates occasionally and I had a brief-ish and fairly toxic off-and-on relationship with my ex-girlfriend during that time. Anyway, between 2018 and 2020 we just ended up talking a lot and becoming closer. Forum messages, emails, and then in the early days of the pandemic we switched to chatting on Skype. By that point I was pretty sure I was falling in love haha, but I didn’t expect anything to happen. He was in the UK, I’m in Canada. Except… well, happily, I was wrong lol. One evening we were talking and both having some drinks and I struck up the courage to say something rather suggestive that I suppose I could’ve played off as a joke if I’d had to but definitely wasn’t a joke… and thank god he got the hint. 😅
Been together ever since. We did four and a half years of long-distance (with visits of course) and he moved here last autumn. And now we’re about to get married on the exact five-year anniversary of that Skype chat that changed everything lol. I’ve never had a better friend in my life, never felt more understood and accepted just as I am, never known someone who makes me laugh as much and loves to nerd out over all the same music I do, never felt so loved and desired and safe before. I’m so happy I finally met my Person and that we worked out the distance stuff, because I never imagined having a relationship like the one I do.
I’m not sure what my favourite thing about him is and can’t really pick one. Just… who he is, all of it.
Early internet days. We met in an anonymous chatroom. No pictures, no names. He asked for my email, I gave it thinking I’d never hear from him again. Started emailed back and forth, then starting Skyping. Three months later he asked me to fly to California, from Northern Canada, and meet him. My first time out of the country, first time to the USA, first boyfriend, first everything. Yep, I was crazy excited and crazy nervous lol
Had an amazing week together. I came back again in September, back again in December (and lived in his tiny studio apartment with him for 2 months lol). Then he came and visited me over Easter. This went on for a year and a half, until I packed up my life, left home and moved in with him. 2 years later we got married. It was a beautiful whirlwind. Going on 12 years now 🙂
My favorite thing is that he’s the most generous, patient, kindhearted person I’ve ever known 🙂