We started as 2 people having a fling, she had just broken up with her BF. We’re both 30 years old.
She fell in love, and I did too. Maybe it was just severe infatuation at first tbh.
Anyway, there was never a reason to stop being with her. So I asked her to be my gf after we went on plenty of dates for around 3 months.
We’ve been together for 1.5 years now and spent atleast 80% of it together literally 24/7.
I can’t think of many reasons not to be with her. But when we’re apart, I don’t miss her. Were going to be apart for the next 4 months which is the longest yet. And I don’t feel anything about it.
I grew up a loner, never social, 1 friend total.
When me and my girlfriend are apart, I feel great, I don’t think or long about the next time I’ll see her.
We’re also very different. Sure we can spend all day together without having arguments. But we are still different. Our values, morals, and interests are not the same. We see the world very differently.
I’m very witty, she’s the complete opposite and never gets my jokes. We find different things funny.
So we get along but we’re never having that much “fun” together.
So we don’t like the same movies, music, or anything. I’m very active but she despises any sport.
It’s a weird dynamic and we can probably go forever without having a proper argument, we can get along fine. But I’m not sure we actually enjoy it together..
I don’t know if I love her.
She always misses me a lot more than vice versa but she’s codependent for sure.
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Some people just don’t miss others no matter how close you are.
I absolutely love my best friend but even if I haven’t seen her for over a year, I won’t miss her, but when we meet I’m still incredibly happy to see her, same thing with my mother and other people that I’m close to.
But from my understanding it’s less common.
Do you feel any sort of happiness when you see your gf?
Maybe the upcoming distance will help you reflect on your relationship, see how you feel, maybe you spend too much time together for you to actually miss her.