I am at such a loss right now. I (27) live with my younger brother (26) in a townhouse maybe six blocks away from my aunt’s (63) home. It was an awesome arrangement, having our biggest support person nearby in case we fucked up and needed an adultier adult to help. She has done so much for us, as kids and even now, and I thought we could pay some of that in kind so she could recover from back surgery with supervision and help if needed. That was a year ago. At some point, she somehow fucked up her money and has no way to live in that house. She isn’t safe to return to work, and my city is being a dick and saying she needs to pay an insane amount of money to 1) keep her house, 2) catch up on past due bills, and 3) continue paying her bills. So now I am indefinitely stuck with her here. Which wouldn’t be a problem except I have to share my bed, I can’t go to bed late without her making me feel like shit, I can’t do the things I need to make some extra income for myself because she’s always here and in the way, I have given up over half of my bedroom space so she can keep clothes here, and as my own health is deteriorating I need room to exist and I can’t. I don’t know what the fuck to do. I don’t know how to say “hey so I know you can’t afford to live in your own house right now without electricity and water, not to mention you’re still not fully recovered from the serious infections you got in the hospital but I am losing my goddamn mind with you taking up all of the space in my house with your stuff and I’m unable to do the things that I enjoy because you judge me for it so I need you to leave and take your shit with you.”
Like how do I do that? I can’t do that. It’s cruel and I know she’s so fucking stressed about this so I can’t do it but I also can’t keep existing this way. I’m going insane. I don’t feel safe in my own damn place of residence. And I hate it. I haven’t a hot clue what I can do about it either.