gonna sound like an asshole here, but divorced earlier. they stayed together because my siblings were young and they wanted to wait till they were grown enough to understand and not harbor any ill feelings, but in the end it made them miserable
Parent and “step-father,” but, divorced sooner. He was abusive. She’s insane. I love all of my siblings, and I’m glad they’re here, but if their parents had any sense, they would have divorced after the first kid when the abuse started and not put six kids through hell for over ten years.
I’m Genx X and Daddy was Silent while Mom was a Boomer. (A nice one though). Because of their views and stuff they tried to stay together for my sake, but not only were they miserable, I was too because I could tell how they felt about each other. Later on they did finally divorce and my Dad married my stepmother and they had my sister. My stepmother is NOT a good person but he stayed with her until he passed away because that’s what he thought was the right thing to do. What me and my sister learned from these marriages was (subconsciously I’m sure) that you take what you get and even if you can’t stand someone it’s better than being alone. An awful lesson.
Manage a blended family – if they remarry to someone who also has kids. kids only listen to their own parent means conflicts never get solved, rules enforced unequally, always feels like never get treated fairly
Stayed divorced. They married and divorced each other a total of 3 times (1 was considered a common law marriage.) My childhood was very chaotic to say the least, and my dad still apologizes for that whole mess.
Not forced me to be their marriage therapist. It started when I was around 8 or 9. They were officially divorced when I was 20. Even now, they (mostly my mom, though) use me as a messenger.
I wish they didn’t live across the continent from each other from then on. I went from seeing my dad all the time, to being lucky to see him for vacations if the money worked out. And when I moved in with him, I saw my mom even less than that. Is it Dad’s fault for moving first? Or Mom’s fault for refusing to move for the sake of us kids despite our opinions on the matter? Really, it doesn’t matter. The consequence still sucked, for all of us.
Gotten divorced sooner. Also, would have been nice if they didn’t jump into dating like 1 month after they separated. That shit does a number on kids who are just trying to adjust and cope with their entire home life being upended. For the love of god, if you’re separating and have children, focus on your children and not on how quickly you can meet someone new.
My mother with 2 young children, cheated on my father. My father beat her over it. My mother divorced my father over that. Then my mother proceeds to marry my stepfather who beated her over small things like pizza. Part of me feels sorry for her but it’s also of her own doing? I recently said “I thought you left our father because he beat you?!” and she’s like “I did! That is why I left him!!!” and I was like looking at my stepdad and then her and I was like “? you probably should’ve just stayed with Dad if thats the case?” I don’t get it. Ruin a family to jump right in a situation thats even worse. Bizzaro world.
Wish my father would have had any lasting interest to be part of his kids’ lives, or his grandkids, but that was always a fantasy, so I wish mom would’ve left him on the wedding night or before (where she would say he first began disrespecting her in front of others while drunk). She liked looking past alcoholism if they were good looking and affectionate otherwise. If they could ask 25 year old me whether I should be conceived I’d have told them both to fuck straight off in opposite directions from each other.
I wish they hadn’t talked so badly about each other, no matter how well earned it was, and that they hadn’t put so many adult choices onto me as a very young child. Sometimes I wish I had made other choices and feel guilty over things that aren’t my fault and should never have been put on me to choose.
I wished they divorced sooner. They both told me they waited until I was out of high school to get divorced. Half of my senior year I lived with my sister because they fought so much. I wish they could have just gotten it over with and been truthful to me. I was so naive for so long, I still have trust issues.
My parents got divorced and they constantly fought through us kids. “Tell your father he needs to pay for your sports”. “Tell your mother she has to switch weekends “. It was totally normal for us and I don’t remember them speaking civilly with each other until I was in my 20’s. I was amazed when I later met divorced couples that actually spoke to each other and discussed things.
My parents REALLY didn’t like each other after the split, my mother especially. She’d make me feel bad every time I went to see my father and be passive aggressive when I got back. She also would shit talk him wildly all of the time.
I wish they had kids because they wanted kids. It always felt like we were an item on their life to-do list. When they divorced they both didn’t give a rat ass what happened to me and my sister. They were only ever focussed on themselves. They felt they were stuck with us until we turned 18. Their idea of parenting was that it ended when we turned 18. No obligation to help, to assist, or anything after that.
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Realized that they still had to be parents.
Got divorced sooner. Watched them fight non stop and argue at such a young age right into my early teens.
Never got together to begin with.
gonna sound like an asshole here, but divorced earlier. they stayed together because my siblings were young and they wanted to wait till they were grown enough to understand and not harbor any ill feelings, but in the end it made them miserable
Parent and “step-father,” but, divorced sooner. He was abusive. She’s insane. I love all of my siblings, and I’m glad they’re here, but if their parents had any sense, they would have divorced after the first kid when the abuse started and not put six kids through hell for over ten years.
Not had me
Get the hint after the first time they split that things aren’t gonna work out. But instead have two more kids.
Divorced sooner
Drank less
I’m Genx X and Daddy was Silent while Mom was a Boomer. (A nice one though). Because of their views and stuff they tried to stay together for my sake, but not only were they miserable, I was too because I could tell how they felt about each other. Later on they did finally divorce and my Dad married my stepmother and they had my sister. My stepmother is NOT a good person but he stayed with her until he passed away because that’s what he thought was the right thing to do. What me and my sister learned from these marriages was (subconsciously I’m sure) that you take what you get and even if you can’t stand someone it’s better than being alone. An awful lesson.
Manage a blended family – if they remarry to someone who also has kids. kids only listen to their own parent means conflicts never get solved, rules enforced unequally, always feels like never get treated fairly
not using their gender and joining a religion just to go for full custody despite being a shitty parent
Stayed divorced. They married and divorced each other a total of 3 times (1 was considered a common law marriage.) My childhood was very chaotic to say the least, and my dad still apologizes for that whole mess.
Not forced me to be their marriage therapist. It started when I was around 8 or 9. They were officially divorced when I was 20. Even now, they (mostly my mom, though) use me as a messenger.
Agreed on sole custody. I felt my childhood weekends were a prison of sitting in my angry father’s house because he got weekends.
I wish they didn’t live across the continent from each other from then on. I went from seeing my dad all the time, to being lucky to see him for vacations if the money worked out. And when I moved in with him, I saw my mom even less than that. Is it Dad’s fault for moving first? Or Mom’s fault for refusing to move for the sake of us kids despite our opinions on the matter? Really, it doesn’t matter. The consequence still sucked, for all of us.
Not be self-absorbed asses.
I wish they’d never met
Not exposed my siblings and I to adult problems, and not talked negatively about the other parent and step parents to us.
Gotten divorced sooner. Also, would have been nice if they didn’t jump into dating like 1 month after they separated. That shit does a number on kids who are just trying to adjust and cope with their entire home life being upended. For the love of god, if you’re separating and have children, focus on your children and not on how quickly you can meet someone new.
Not gotten remarried to each other 🤣
My mother with 2 young children, cheated on my father. My father beat her over it. My mother divorced my father over that. Then my mother proceeds to marry my stepfather who beated her over small things like pizza. Part of me feels sorry for her but it’s also of her own doing? I recently said “I thought you left our father because he beat you?!” and she’s like “I did! That is why I left him!!!” and I was like looking at my stepdad and then her and I was like “? you probably should’ve just stayed with Dad if thats the case?” I don’t get it. Ruin a family to jump right in a situation thats even worse. Bizzaro world.
Wish my father would have had any lasting interest to be part of his kids’ lives, or his grandkids, but that was always a fantasy, so I wish mom would’ve left him on the wedding night or before (where she would say he first began disrespecting her in front of others while drunk). She liked looking past alcoholism if they were good looking and affectionate otherwise. If they could ask 25 year old me whether I should be conceived I’d have told them both to fuck straight off in opposite directions from each other.
I wish they hadn’t talked so badly about each other, no matter how well earned it was, and that they hadn’t put so many adult choices onto me as a very young child. Sometimes I wish I had made other choices and feel guilty over things that aren’t my fault and should never have been put on me to choose.
I wished they divorced sooner. They both told me they waited until I was out of high school to get divorced. Half of my senior year I lived with my sister because they fought so much. I wish they could have just gotten it over with and been truthful to me. I was so naive for so long, I still have trust issues.
Worn a condom
Spared the rod and spoiled their children.
Grown tf up. Were pieces of shit together and didn’t fucking learn when apart.
Dumb fucks.
My parents got divorced and they constantly fought through us kids. “Tell your father he needs to pay for your sports”. “Tell your mother she has to switch weekends “. It was totally normal for us and I don’t remember them speaking civilly with each other until I was in my 20’s. I was amazed when I later met divorced couples that actually spoke to each other and discussed things.
Actually get divorced and not take 7 years to finalize it. Not spend the money intended for our education on lawyers.
Not rip my younger brother away from the help he really needed. Looking at you, dad.
Not talk shit about
each othermom. Again dad, what the hell?Mom shouldn’t have had any kids, if all she wanted was a son.
If my parents had divorced a few years sooner it would solve every single one of my problems because I wouldn’t be here.
Nothing. They got divorced and the relationship was always amicable.
Divorced earlier, and not gotten remarried (to each other) only to divorce again. Like the two of you do not like each other. Why even go through it?
No one has ever asked me that before
I wish Mom had seen the red flags before they got married and called it off.
My parents REALLY didn’t like each other after the split, my mother especially. She’d make me feel bad every time I went to see my father and be passive aggressive when I got back. She also would shit talk him wildly all of the time.
They could have been fair and still respectful of one another for the sake of the kids.
Loved me more than they hated each other 🙃
I wish they had kids because they wanted kids. It always felt like we were an item on their life to-do list. When they divorced they both didn’t give a rat ass what happened to me and my sister. They were only ever focussed on themselves. They felt they were stuck with us until we turned 18. Their idea of parenting was that it ended when we turned 18. No obligation to help, to assist, or anything after that.
They were terrible people from good families.
Gotten divorced as soon as they felt the first bits of resentment seeping in. It was definitely resentment that ruined my parents’ marriage.