Your partner should want to make life better for you. They shouldn’t be cheating on you. They shouldn’t call you names. They should bring you food and water when you’re sick. They should help with the baby. They shouldn’t scare you.
Your partner should be your best friend. They should be the type of person you hope your friends find. You should look forward to a life with them.
I promise you being single is better than being in a subpar relationship. You deserve better.
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>They should be the type of person you hope your friends find.
This was the one that gutted me in my nine-year marriage; it was when my friend turned to me and said, “As someone who loves you, I don’t want this for you.” Lots of people expressed concerns, or talked about his obviouosly bad behavoir, but one good friend just saying they didn’t want this for me cut through the noise 10x better than anything else.
Riddle me this… We’re so damn good at loving others it’s a freaking superpower. But when it comes to ourselves, we can barely muster a shrug and a half-assed pat on the back. What gives, ladies?
It’s just… bewildering, isn’t it, how many people seem to accept being treated poorly as normal, I distinctly remember when my friend’s boyfriend kept insulting her, and it felt like everyone just shrugged it off, which just seems so unfair, doesn’t it, and I’m curious, does anyone else remember feeling similarly confused by that sort of thing?
Sometimes we confuse attention with affection… and end up hurting ourselves.
This should be common sense but a lot of women are sadly wrapped in the idea of fixing a bad boy or giving too much of herself to a good guy. I expect a lot more of this now that there’s this thing called “situationship” lol
I wish I knew you five years ago. I’m in a better place but damn.
I understand and agree with your sentiment however myself coming out of an abusive relationship recently what happens is when partners show us their toxic colors we’re already in love and enmeshed with them. Also an abusive partner will over time make you doubt yourself and second guess yourself and belittle you so your sense of self erodes. I never thought I would be in such an abusive relationship and TBH it’s still hard to believe I was but it doesn’t start out that way in most cases. So please don’t victim shame women who have enough shame and suffering on their own.