What’s something your partner does that drives you crazy but wouldn’t want any other away?
What’s something your partner does that drives you crazy but wouldn’t want any other away?
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What’s something your partner does that drives you crazy but wouldn’t want any other away?
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Why would I want my partner to continue doing something that drives me crazy?
He obviously has flaws and habits that I don’t like but can live with, but that doesn’t mean I wouldn’t want him to change. Like I’m not divorcing him over his personal spaces being a mess, but I’d love for him to be more organized.
He doesn’t like it when I’m near him in the kitchen. I love watching him cook and it makes me want to kiss, hug and bite him but he gets mad. I don’t like it.
He makes me fabulous gourmet gluten free and dairy free dinners every single night but I just want to eat simple vegetables that won’t upset my stomach problems. And also help me not gain weight so quickly.
But also I love it so much. I’m such a foodie for his cooking and no one appreciates the art of his cheffing more than me.
We’re working on a happy medium.
He laughs or smiles when I’m ranting about something. Usually clues me in on the fact that it’s frivolous and I smile too. It’s helped my mental health in a way.
He goes over the top with everything unless I’m very clear and firm. He does the upgrade, the largest size, all the options, and the extras. Especially for gifts. It can be way too much and a budget buster.
I’m a bit confused by what you’re asking. Something that drives us crazy, but we like it? Isn’t that contradictory? Something driving us crazy usually means something irritable and we’d prefer for it to stop, but it’s also not a deal breaker? 🤣
Mine would probably be how he washes the dishes and loads the dishwasher (aka a drying rack in my household), it’s so unorganised. And he uses the hand towel to wipe some dishes dry sometimes – there’s a separate towel for that. And then he doesn’t hang the towel up by the little loop it comes with… 🤡
He never stops singing. Like, ever. Sometimes it’s just a soft hum, sometimes he is belting that song out like its an American Idol audition. It doesn’t matter where we are. If he’s not talking, he’s making some kind of musical noise. I struggle with noise sensitivity, and honestly sometimes I just want to tell him to shut.the.hell.up. For the love of god can we PLEASE have just ten minutes of quiet!? But then I check myself. Yes, it can be a lot, but what a beautiful thing to be married to a man who’s so happy he literally cannot stop singing. There are MUCH worse problems to have.
So I just smile and put my earplugs in. Lol
He puts food and snacks back with just basically crumbs left. Like with chips or something, he’ll eat the whole bag but put it back in the cabinet with like 4 crumbs left. He does it all the time. Just finish it and throw it away!! Why are you saving crumbs?!?
I find it so incredibly annoying, but also very endearing at the same time. It’s just a weird thing he does that makes me roll my eyes, but also makes me chuckle.
After you’ve been together for a while you run out of things to talk about. But we never do because he repeats stories and anecdotes so often. He acts like it’s his first time telling me and sometimes I get annoyed but I really don’t want it to change. Even if the stories are the same the conversations we have after are always different. My husband is my best friend and this is the thing that reminds me that he thinks of me as his best friend too ❤️
He wants to hug me and love on me specifically when I’m in the middle of doing something. Doing the dishes, prepping dinner, cleaning, etc. He wants me to stop for a minute and let him love on me. He wants my attention. When I have that task inertia its incredibly frustrating for me to stop and it makes me feel trapped because my brain is still trying to focus on the task at hand.
But I was previously in a relationship that was essentially glorified roommates where my ex never gave me physical affection (and was more interested in giving it to others). And I do love my husband, and I do want to be held by him. Just wish he’d wait 5 minutes sometimes, haha.
He’s silly, laidback, and never serious. It’s one thing I love about him because it keeps me from overthinking and ruminating on bad feelings but also it drives me crazy when I’m trying to be serious.
He lip syncs to me like we’re in a music video. Like eye contact, corresponding hand gestures, the whole bit. At home, in the car, at the store, anywhere a song he likes comes on. It’s harmless, but I don’t know how I’m supposed to respond to it and it’s kind of annoying. He’s so sweet and wonderful that I just let him do it until I’ve had enough and interrupt him with a kiss 🥰
He has a habit of talking at me when I am obviously leaving the room. It is like my getting up to go do something triggers him to start talking. It makes me badsh** crazy. Love him to death but that particular habit makes me want to pull my hair out!
He’s very slow to make decisions and over analyzes everything before taking the next step. I’m impulsive and decide things quickly, so it drives me crazy. But, I recognize how good he is for me because of that, so we make a good team
He goes on and on about his favorite subjects that me personally, have no interest in. But watching him ramble about his favorite things is so sweet and cute to me. I just sit and listen.
Him offering his help when I’m baking. I got this, treasure. You do the cooking, I do the baking. I will ask if I need your help. However, it’s still so sweet that he’s checking in with me.
He makes up random words to replace what he’s saying and expects me to understand lol. It’s like talking to someone who speaks fluent pig Latin.
Currently kicking my husband out of bed as he NEVER wants to get up because he wants to cuddle FOREVER. 😂
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Laughs like a madman at the dumbest stuff. Sometimes it’s so over the top bc it’ll be a stupid noise somebody makes on a cartoon and he’ll be laughing for 5 minutes straight. It’s very annoying when you just want to watch the show but I’m always smirking when he does it.
My wife talks during movies. It’s actually a pet peeve of mine, but she’s naturally chatty and I do enjoy listening to her. She has such an effervescent personality and charm about her, and is quite animated when telling a story; no matter how short it is. Even if I’m not in the mood for it, I adore it and her.
when we’re cuddling my feet HAVE to be touching his feet, my feet overheat really easily so I have to tell him that I can’t sometimes but it’s so endearing that I still do most of the time
Sounds silly but he’s especially affectionate when I’m not in a great mood and don’t feel like being bothered. In those moments I don’t wanna be touched and it’s almost like he senses it and starts getting in my personal space more than usual. I don’t wanna be mean and push him away so I accept it, but in my head I’m like…. don’t touch me lol
He’s loud. But when he’s loud, it’s usually because he is happy and I love that.
Talks to me about deep and meaningful or very important things when I’ve got headphones in and I’m cleaning.
It’s lovely that he wants to talk and I’ll make time for him but please do it when I’m not scrubbing the shower!
his vocal stims, he will at random pick a line from a song, or some phrase, and repeat it OVER AND OVER AGAIN every day for at least a couple weeks until he moves on to another one. he’s been like that since I first met him. I love it though
He tries to scare me. Like he’ll pop around a corner or go hide where he can surprise me lol. I was somewhere in our place the other day that he didn’t know I could see him and the absolute orneriness on his face when he thought he was sneaking up on me to scare me was just 10/10.
He sleeps like a comatose bear. He’s very very hard to wake up.
However, when he finally responds to reanimation, he’s nice and sweet. 0 grumpiness. It’s like resuscitating a friendly corpse.
It drives me insane but wouldn’t change a thing
He makes a lot of noise. At any given time, he’s singing, tapping, drumming, farting, snoring, whistling, or humming. There are times when it drives me absolutely bonkers.
But when he goes on a business trip for several days, I get really uncomfortable in the silence. Like, it’s bearable the first night, but by the second or third, it gets so quiet that I get anxiety and have a hard time sleeping.
As much as the constant noise bothers me, I’d rather have it than not have it.
He makes me give him head rubs on a nightly basis while we’re watching a movie or laying in bed. It’s like giving him a little massage on his bald head lol.
Sometimes I don’t want any physical contact and need my space, but it brings him so much peace so I do it because it’s such a simple thing and makes him so happy.
He sings constantly, but he changes all of the lyrics to be about me. He does this for hours at a time or out in public which can be embarrassing so I have to make him stop lol, but then when I’m by myself, I secretly sing his made up songs for him since it gets lonely without his voice
He gets into too many hobbies so they take up areas of our house, but I do love how ambitious he is. I’m the same way so I get it, but my hobbies are less expensive and take up less space lol.