My husband just told me he’s jealous that I can hug my friends in public for as long as we’d like to without strangers making awkward comments. For context, my husband has some wonderful long-term friends that feel like brothers for him. And they live far away so we don’t get to see them nearly as often as we like. But the last time we picked one of these friends up from the airport, my husband bear-hugged his friend while I hugged the friend’s wife. These hugs were probably 3-5 seconds each. A boomer dude walked by us and said something about “brokeback mountain” to my husband and his friend, while completely ignoring the fact that the wife and I had hugged for the same amount of time.
My brother has told me he’s jealous that women don’t have to assuage anyone’s fear about us when we’re out in public. My brother is an incredibly gentle soul with mostly female friends and is absolutely the guy to call someone a Lyft if she needs a safe way home, watch someone’s glass at a bar if they leave it unattended, give someone a heads-up if a guy has been watching them, etc. I’ve seen multiple women over the years pretend they’re hanging out with my brother and me as a way to get away from somebody following them. My brother just gives off “safe” vibes. But it still breaks his heart that he has to clarify that he is, in fact, safe. It’s like he has to atone for the horrors of other men. And that breaks his heart.
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I wish I could have sex with someone and they would give me cars cash and a house that I get to keep when I decide to fuck someone else
Trying to make friends. For me it’s so much harder to make guy friends. Girls just seems to click with each other so much quicker
I seen a thing about a trans guy that was in tears because he said he didnt realize how hard it was for men when it came to making friends, being open etc. I dont think people honestly realize how hard it is for men in general in a lot of ways. I dont know if itll let me post it or not but heres the video, its from a year ago now.
Trans Man Cries About The Loneliness Of Manhood
I just honestly wish on both sides it was easier for people just to be real with each other. Everythings so plastic and fake now, men, women, society in general. We need more real but we are heading in the opposite direction fast. AI coming now, i wonder if we will jsut do away with the need for each other in general. Its sad. Im a hermit, been one all my life, never been great with people. But I dont wish that on the whole world. Thats shitty.
So i wouldn’t say im jealous of things with women, for me personally i wish it was easier for all of us and that the world was kinder and we were kinder. Well get there though, it just takes time i guess.
I wish I could be more open about how I feel and this is a little silly but I wish we had cooler formal wear like I want a beautiful floral dress not a charcoal grey suit
Multiple orgasms lol. I always wonder how tf would that feel
I’d like to get lots of followers on social media just for being good looking.
It’s weird because many women I know say the same about men, but, the variety of acceptable clothing options they have for work.
I work in a suit and tie environment and that’s basically all I have available. There are color pairings and whatnot, but I’m fundamentally cycling through the same six or so identical outfits.
Women have a lot more options for an equivalent level of professionalism.
It sucks, but men did these things to themselves. Not literally your husband or brother. But patriarchy and toxic fragile masculinity created this culture. Men can’t get mad at women for this stuff, they did it to themselves. As the saying goes, your husband and brother need to be the change they want to see in the world.
Women have better clothing (and overall) style in comparison to men, i love clothing and idk what would i do with skirts, and panties, and caps, and beanies,
clothes companies more specifically bershka and pull bear, are making so many good clothes for women, and male section of clothes just suck
There definitely are. Jealous might be a strong word for some of them, but there are things I wish were different for men for sure.
A not very important one is just fashion and style. Men’s style choices tend to be subtle, and dress codes restrictive. Formal is a suit (or tux if we’re going very formal), doesn’t matter if it’s summer or -35 C out. Don’t get me wrong there are still some fun choices to be made but nothing like the variety women get to choose from.
I am at times definitely jealous of how easily women can get attention and feel desired. OTOH I also realize how this can also mean a lot of really unwanted attention and comes with so much downside. But as a guy, even a guy who is decently good looking (I think), stands out a bit (tall, long hair) I might, maybe get a random compliment on my appearance once a year. And it’s always the hair or beard. 😂
Part of it is I have an interest in boudoir photography, and it would be so much easier to practice on myself if I was female and people (in general) actually wanted to see the results.
I think the biggest thing I’m jealous of though is having that assumption that they are safe to be around. I really, really hate feeling that assumption that I’m a sleaze or dangerous at first glance just because I’m a guy. I get where it comes from, I totally understand it, but it just hits right in a spot it hurts.
And that actually also extends a bit to photography as a hobby too. People seem much more likely to be suspicious of a guy with a camera than a woman. There’s the obvious reasons when planning a shoot with a female model, but even just walking around a park or something. I had a discussion with a couple female friends and I was astounded when they were pretty adamant that a guy on his own in a park with a known bird nesting area, taking photos of birds, would be creepy and they would absolutely avoid talking to him.
I would love to be able to voice my emotions and get genuine listeners who care. I probably can as a man but the years of judgment that follow aren’t worth it.
Because of my appearance I am often treated like I am a people, even had the police called on me when out with my son. I am big, tall and heavy, not handsome. If I was a big ugly woman I would not be treated as a threat. I am a polite introvert and have never been aggressive.
Being able to talk about my feelings. Like recently, I thought i was becoming really good friends with this women, but I felt like i was giving 110% into the friendship that they simply were not reciprocating. And as someone with anxiety, I was just like “hey I feel like you might not want to hangout with me and I’m just kind of bugging you and I feel really bad about it” and they did not take it well. But if I was a women, I feel like the exchange would’ve gone a bit better. Like women can reassure women! So why can’t I get that? Because I’m a man? It’s hard enough finding that kind of level when being friends with men. We should be allowed to talk about our feelings and be vulnerable as men. But it just comes off as creepy and clingy.