Last weekend, I (24F) got dragged into a spontaneous hiking trip with my friends Jason and Lily (they’re a couple). We were hanging out Friday night at their place—I was already half-dead from the work week and had too much wine, so I just crashed on their couch.
Saturday morning, I was super hungover, like dry mouth, hoodie-over-eyes level. All I wanted was some water, maybe a hash brown, and no human interaction. But Jason was already up and buzzing about this hike four hours away. Lily was into it too. I said, very clearly, multiple times, “I’m down to hang but I’m not hiking. I feel like crap.”
They were like, “Oh come on, you’ll feel better once we’re out there,” and “It’s mostly flat.” I didn’t push back hard enough, I guess. I wasn’t trying to be a buzzkill. Next thing I know, we’re in Jason’s car, and I’m wedged in the back with my hood up and a bottle of Gatorade.
Spoiler: I never hiked. We got there, I walked to the trailhead, and then just sat in the car with the windows cracked, reading a paperback I found in the backseat (I think it was Lily’s copy of Circe? Good book though). They were gone for three-ish hours, came back sweaty and glowing and very into themselves. I clapped politely. We drove back.
Then—on the drive home—Jason says, all casual, “So if y’all could Venmo me like thirty bucks for gas, that’d be great.”
I hesitated and said, “Wait, seriously?” I told him I didn’t really feel comfortable paying for a trip I didn’t want to go on and didn’t participate in. I said it as lightly as I could, like I even added a half-laugh so it didn’t sound rude, but neither of them responded.
It got weirdly quiet after that. Like… not just “we’re tired” quiet, but stiff, polite quiet. Lily scrolled through Instagram the rest of the ride. Jason turned the music up and didn’t really talk to me again until they dropped me off.
I texted later that night just to say thanks for driving anyway, and Lily replied with a thumbs-up emoji. Not even a “np” or anything, just 👍.
I’ve been replaying it in my head because I do get that gas isn’t free, but also—I didn’t want to go, I said that, and I barely even left the car. I felt like I was being held financially hostage for a vibe I wasn’t part of.
AITA for not paying gas money for a trip I got peer-pressured into and didn’t even enjoy?
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Last weekend, I (24F) got dragged into a spontaneous hiking trip with my friends Jason and Lily (they’re a couple). We were hanging out Friday night at their place—I was already half-dead from the work week and had too much wine, so I just crashed on their couch.
Saturday morning, I was super hungover, like dry mouth, hoodie-over-eyes level. All I wanted was some water, maybe a hash brown, and no human interaction. But Jason was already up and buzzing about this hike four hours away. Lily was into it too. I said, very clearly, multiple times, “I’m down to hang but I’m not hiking. I feel like crap.”
They were like, “Oh come on, you’ll feel better once we’re out there,” and “It’s mostly flat.” I didn’t push back hard enough, I guess. I wasn’t trying to be a buzzkill. Next thing I know, we’re in Jason’s car, and I’m wedged in the back with my hood up and a bottle of Gatorade.
Spoiler: I never hiked. We got there, I walked to the trailhead, and then just sat in the car with the windows cracked, reading a paperback I found in the backseat (I think it was Lily’s copy of Circe? Good book though). They were gone for three-ish hours, came back sweaty and glowing and very into themselves. I clapped politely. We drove back.
Then—on the drive home—Jason says, all casual, “So if y’all could Venmo me like thirty bucks for gas, that’d be great.”
I hesitated and said, “Wait, seriously?” I told him I didn’t really feel comfortable paying for a trip I didn’t want to go on and didn’t participate in. I said it as lightly as I could, like I even added a half-laugh so it didn’t sound rude, but neither of them responded.
It got weirdly quiet after that. Like… not just “we’re tired” quiet, but stiff, polite quiet. Lily scrolled through Instagram the rest of the ride. Jason turned the music up and didn’t really talk to me again until they dropped me off.
I texted later that night just to say thanks for driving anyway, and Lily replied with a thumbs-up emoji. Not even a “np” or anything, just 👍.
I’ve been replaying it in my head because I do get that gas isn’t free, but also—I didn’t want to go, I said that, and I barely even left the car. I felt like I was being held financially hostage for a vibe I wasn’t part of.
AITA for not paying gas money for a trip I got peer-pressured into and didn’t even enjoy?
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> The action I took was refusing to pay $30 for gas after being driven on a road trip I didn’t want to go on and didn’t participate in.
I might be the asshole because I still took up space in the car, benefited from the ride, and maybe it seems unfair to expect someone else to cover the full cost even if I didn’t want to be there. From their point of view, it might seem like I agreed to come along and then dodged paying my share.
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NTA—this is weird behavior from your friends
NTA
They could’ve taken you home before going on the hike.
ETA: The Uber comments are insane. Obviously you guys have no idea how expensive taking an Uber home would be. It’d be like paying two tanks of gas depending on location and distance.
NTA. Not a trip you planned together, you just tagged along. Almost like they dragged you along for money, very tacky to even ask.
ESH. You shouldn’t have gone and as soon as you got in the car you were on the hook, but they presumably would have gone anyway without you so they would have to pay the money either way.
Next time when you say no, stick to it.
Why can’t people just say "No". You truly didn’t have to go. It always amazes me that people get into these predicaments and then blame the other party. I’d send some gas $$$. Maybe not $30, but something.
INFO: were your friends also drinking on Friday or did you start drinking there? Was it their wine or yours? Was something stopping you from going home as opposed to going on the hike?
You didn’t want to go. So wtf did you go?
Ah you need to do some work on your boundaries. I mean this with the utmost caring I’m not blaming you for this problem.
I think you have trouble expressing your boundaries. Likely this is because you are surrounded by people like these friends who do not really care about what you want or what your boundaries are.
It’s sad but usually this is a cycle where people don’t enforce their wishes (going on the trip) which teaches people around them that this person does not have preferences that need to be respected and will be enforced. So the person who can’t enforce their boundaries ends up surrounded by shitty people who don’t care about what the others want and want to impose their own desires.
This situation is a microcosm of what I expect is a very common thing in your life. If I had to guess I would say that when you were a kid nobody cared what you wanted (you were in a my house my rules keep the parent from getting angry situation) so you never developed a sense that your own preferences matter. As a result you have surrounded yourself with people who don’t care what you want and won’t take your preferences seriously until you do start to enforce your own wishes. It’s a long process to get out of this mentality but you do matter OP and your preferences and wishes are no less valid than anyone else’s and yours do not have to be thrown aside every time they run up against someone else’s preferences.
You are NTA but I expect you have many AH around you all telling you that any time you choose your own preferences over folding to theirs, you’re an AH – you might even in some way think it’s true but it absolutely is not.
NTA.
They basically made you go. You clearly said NO, you did not want to, and they ignored you. They didn’t even seem to want to hang out, just go hiking and maybe make someone else pay for gas.
Also, are they making you pay for the whole trip?! There is no way the gas for that trip cost $90. Unless their car gets like six miles per gallon.
He wanted $60 in gas for a half tank trip that you didn’t even want to go on? NTA.
Even if you were into going hiking, which you were not, $30 each for gas? Like, was it 100 miles away?
They were keen to go, and would have paid for gas whether you were there or not. He was being a cheapskate. With luck, this awkward moment in your friendship will pass. NTA
Chipping in needs to be discussed prior to the event. Sounds like you got invited to fund the trip. NTA
YTA. Are you an adult? Stop saying they ‘made’ you go. You made a choice.
Which means you made the whole choice. The trip, the time, the expense.
Esh/- why didn’t you just say no? It would have stopped this entire issue. No, I don’t want to hike.
YTA – no matter how they pushed it on you at the end it was your choice and you did go with them.
ESH. They didn’t listen, and you aren’t five years old. You don’t want to go? Don’t go.
If you didn’t want to go on the hike, it might have been better to just go home.
Soft YTA, because if you didn’t want to go on the trip I think you should’ve been more firm and either – gone home to recover from the hangover, asked to stay behind, or straight up said “no I’m not going”.
It’s kinda unfair for them to have to adjust weekend plans because someone crashed at their place, but then I dunno cause I would’ve listened to my hungover friend and not really cared if our plans had to change and we stayed home etc.
30 bucks?? Wtf? Did it come with dinner and a foot rub?
"y’all" implies that aside from you, at least 1 other person was expected to pay up so Jason expected at least 60$.is he trying to make money off a hike?
$30 × 3 people is $90. He seriously spent $90 on gas for a 4 hour drive? Is he getting like 10 miles to the gallon? He’s also trying to rip you off.
Unless OP clarifies on the wine being her own, it kinda feels like this could have been a plan to get compensation for all the alcohol OP drink at their house. The sour attitude afterward could have been them thinking that OP drinks all their wine and doesn’t offer to pay for anything. Outright asking for money for the wine would have looked rude.
NTA
I don’t think you should have to pay for gas and if they expected that, they should’ve said so upfront.
However…
> I didn’t push back hard enough, I guess. I wasn’t trying to be a buzzkill.
In situations like this, be a "buzzkill". Give a firm no and verbalize your intentions to go home. Ask if you can be dropped off on their way out. You’re not doing anyone any favors by being in their vicinity, but not present.
I’ll give them the benefit of the doubt that maybe the really believed you’d be into once you got there and you’d enjoy the hike and that they were just providing you with some motivation to have a fun time. (I’ve known a few people who hike regularly where it doesn’t even occur to them that some people do not enjoy that activity. "You’ll like it once you get there" "you just haven’t gone on the right trail" "You just need to go with the right people", etc.)
If that’s the case, your friend might be more upset by the awkwardness of you expressing this trip, basically, sucked for you in your explanation of why you wouldn’t be paying than it is about the money, but you should really just ask her. Especially, since it a least kind of sounds (per your post) that you weren’t as firm in saying you didn’t want this until you were on the way back.
I don’t know if that’s the case, but just maybe she thought she had good intentions and while you were hesitant to say yes, it was only because you weren’t feeling good, but she really believed you’d be better on the hike and you’d have a great time once you were there. Possibly, in her mind she didn’t think she was pressuring you, she thought she was encouraging you and you were receptive to the encouragement.
If thats the case, your friend could learn a thing or two about "enthusiastic consent". Someone saying yes, but clearly not excited about the act isn’t really consenting. Although, you could probably stand to learn it’s not being a "buzzkill" to say no to things you don’t want to participate in; and then stick to the no.
Yta to yourself for not being adult enough to say no and go home instead of getting in a car for a hike you didn’t want to go on. Do not Venmo money thats ridiculous but also these people are not real friends. Drop them and do yourself a favour and grow a backbone and start taking care of yourself. Why ymwpudl you say thanks for driving like it was a planned trip? You literally created your own issue.
ESH. You should have stood by your No, and asking for gas money after the fact is BS.
Reddit loves to tell people they can do what they want, no explanation, no obligation, don’t owe anything to anyone…but you’re the one who deals with the consequences, not Reddit.
Did they mean well or are they those split the check evenly people who order expensive stuff when you just got water and a small salad?
If this a pattern with them, do what you want and distance yourself.
If they really meant well and thought it’d cheer you up or whatever, you should have paid and chalked it up as a learning experience to speak up more in the future and get $ clear before anything happens.
Is $30 worth the drama that lands on YOU, not Reddit?
ESH. You could’ve taken an Uber home or stayed in instead of going with them. But it’s also in poor taste to ask someone else for gas to go on a trip they obviously didn’t wanna go on.
But seriously why didn’t you just Uber home? There’s no way in hell I’m letting anyone drive me around for 8 hours when I don’t want to.
You got dragged?
Are you an adult or no?
ESH – Just don’t get in the car, I fully do not understand how you ended up going.
I’d consider the $30 as thanks for letting you crash overnight, because in most places you can’t really get home safely alone for less than that anyway.
ESH.
You should’ve held your ground and gone home.
They should’ve taken the no the first time you said it.
For people freaking out about the $30 from "y’all," OP said the hike was 4 hours away, making it 8 hours round trip. That’s easily a tank of gas. Depending on where OP lives, $60 can absolutely fill a tank. My gas prices are $4.50 right now 🫠
The friend should’ve asked for the gas money before even heading out.
YTA You are an adult fully capable of saying no. But you didn’t.
I almost said E S H because they should have discussed expenses beforehand. But your shitty attitude outweighs that for me.
ETA: an Uber home would probably have cost you the same or more
ESH.
You should have been more clear or firm and less vague. ‘I’m down to hang or whatever but not hike’ can be interpreted as ‘I enjoy your company and want to be around you guys but I’m not going to go hiking.’
They should have clarified that it was a trip that you were expected pay.
If you want to salvage the relationship, maybe give him $10 or $15 and say ‘I can see how it appeared I wasn’t firmly declining, so I’m willing to help out because we’re friends. But you would have paid the same amount if I didn’t go at all; you aren’t out any additional money for me tagging along to read a book in the car.’
Or you can give him nothing.
INFO- Why didn’t you go home from your friends’ place instead of going on the hike?
Esh.
Them for dragging you on a hike and expecting money.
You to yourself.
Learn to say no. You are a grown up adult. If you want a hash brown and to sleep off a hang over. GO HOME.
If they are mad about it, let them.
They are pushing you about the money because they think you are easy to manipulate. And from their actions so far- they are right!
They drove 4 hours to go on a hike?
Info: whose wine did you drink? Was it theirs? If so, did you pay for the drinks? If not, maybe some of the “gas” money was to cover alcohol costs.
Not related, but I am concerned about your description of drinking. Are you the only one who got that drunk? Is this a common thing for you to do? Do you frequently rely on substances? If so, might be time to learn healthier coping mechanisms.
ESH – Everyone Sucks Here – both of your friends shouldn’t have pressed you and guilt tripped you into going on the hiking trip with them and you should have shown more of a backbone and not gone with them if you were so tired and drunk. You seem to have boundary issues and need to learn to assert yourself. As for the gas, you owed them nothing.
YTA, why did you get so drunk you had to pass out at their house? They got stuck with you, my guess is the hike was payback for being a idiot drunk at their home the night before. Yes, you could have gone home when you woke up, why didn’t you. You expect them to take care of you, but you need to either act more responsibly or deal with the consequences.
If I was you, I would Venmo them $30 for the involuntary Airbnb they gave you for Friday night, and apologize for ruining their Saturday hiking trip. My husband has old high school pals who only want to get together to drunk and act childish, they do it at their homes…not mine. I want my weekends not to include hangover care and wasting my day with people who only think of their wants and needs. Think about what they had to endure with you Friday night & Saturday, then apologize.
Easy ESH. You should have just gone home. Everyone in this story acted weird.
YTA why didn’t you just go home
I have to know, is $30 half the gas cost or 1/3?
YTA. You weren’t billed for the hike (which you didn’t go on). You were billed for the ride, which you DID go on. If you didn’t want to go, you shouldn’t have gone. You went. Pay.
Boo boo you’re WAY too old to play victim/hostage when you were capable of getting home🙄 next time uber home and you won’t look like TA
You could have left straight from their home. Why didn’t you?
ESH. You shouldn’t have let peer pressure get the best of you. But your friend should have also realized the state you were in before taking you out
INFO: Why didn’t you go home in the morning?
YTA, and things aren’t adding up
You crashed at their house, hungover. You “didn’t want human interaction” but didn’t think to take yourself home that very morning. Why?
“I’m down to hang but I’m not hiking”— they clearly are going hiking yet you plopped yourself at the backseat of their car all miserable and…expected them to accommodate you? Why did you even get into that car in the first place?
I find it hard to believe that you willingly endured an entire day of doing nothing (4 hours to, 4 hours back and 3hours while they were hiking) while hungover to boot, than get your lazy ass home with an Uber. But then you draw the line at $30.
I would understand if OP is in a tight financial situation, but 1. There was no mention of that in this post and 2. Clearly his finances are in order if he can go out and get drunk enough that he needed to crash on his friend’s couch. (Which they were kind enough to let you)
Grow up.
Edit: typ
ESH, but you more than them. This whole situation makes no sense, you were hungover and didn’t want to go, so why didn’t you call an Uber, thank them for a fun night and letting you crash at their place, and go home? Is it only because you were expecting them to drop you off at your place and didn’t want to pay for a taxi? If so why didn’t you ask them to drop you off first?
Instead you went along with it for some reason I just can’t understand. You are an adult and you decided to go with them, it doesn’t matter how much you say now that you didn’t want to go and you didn’t enjoy it, , YOU decided to go.
They wanting you to pitch in for gas without mentioning beforehand is also weird and not very cool, but honestly after partying at their place, spending the night there and being driven home I think you should have just paid and taken mental note to ask beforehand next time something similar comes up.
Why didn’t you just like… leave before they did? Uber exists. So does Lyft.
Looks like I’m in the minority saying YTA. Yeah you didn’t want to go, but you went. You’re a grown up, you could have skipped.
If your friends “dragged you to brunch”, would you expect them to pay?
ESH and we all know why.
YTA
I’d rate myself as being pretty bad at reading between the lines, but seems like they were just trying to not be rude by inviting you on the trip.
If you had said, I dont want to hike but how about I just come and sit in the back of your car, hoody up not wanting any human interaction, then wait in the car while you hike and then you can drive me home, they probably wouldn’t have agreed to that. Who would want that?
If you had gone and tried to have a good time, it might have been more fun for them.
Sounds like you ruined their trip. They probably just asked you for the money so you wouldn’t do it again in the future.
ESH. You shouldn’t have gotten in the car. You weren’t a hostage so you should have just gone home in the morning. Having said that, you aren’t TA for not saying, that should have been discussed beforehand.
ESH. Why couldn’t you just go home? Get off their couch and get your hung over self home?
I don’t believe you got in a car to drive 8 hours for absolutely no reason. Like did they hijack your legs?!
Yta. Even if you didnt want to go, you still went. Even if they pressured you, you still went. If you didnt want to go, you could have ubered home
INFO: why did you not just go home??
NTA This was their trip. You didn’t increase their costs by agreeing to go along. Wouldn’t they have gone if you weren’t there? Did they only pressure you in the hopes of getting you to split the gas? If so they are totally the A H.
If not, best case for them is to assume they didn’t understand how much you didn’t want to go on this hike and thought you’d have a wonderful transformation into someone who loves hiking when hungover.
You are still not an A H for having gotten pressured into it, making the best of it without really enjoying the point and not chipping in. They lost nothing they wouldn’t have had to spend if you skipped it altogether.
I mean, it doesn’t sound like you should have to pay $30 (!) for gas, but…
…it also sounds like you got drunk at their house, and we’re kind of an unwelcome guest, imposing—being so drunk you had to end up sleeping on their couch, and they didn’t trust you enough to leave you in their place when they left; it sounded like you just wanted to use their place as a flophouse for the day, with being anti-social as a “bonus”.
Pay them the $30–for using their couch as a AirBNB—and cut back on your drinking; other people shouldn’t be forced to take-care-of-you/put-you-up because you’re too drunk.
NTA but how did you get to their place Friday night? Apparently you had no vehicle so yes I’d have Uber’d home, since for some odd reason they couldn’t just drop you off. Who wants to drive out for a long ass hike when you don’t hike and don’t want to go. Also they seem like avid hikers so tbh you probably wouldn’t have been able to keep up and would’ve held them back. It does seem like they pushed you to come along so they could hit you up for gas. In the future I’d refrain from sacking out at their place.
NTA. Did you drive yourself to their house? If so, you could have gone home. If not, I would have taken you home because if I wanted to hike, I’d hate to have someone who wasn’t feeling well with me.
Info:
Why weren’t you able to go home in the morning instead? Did you suggest that alternative?
ESH
You just all do. Why did you go? Seriously? But since you did go. why didn’t you pitch in for gas, or at least make it clear that you wouldn’t. They should have figured out the split before pressuring you to go, and they shouldn’t have pressured you.
But seriously – why did you go?
Why aren’t you answering any of the questions posed to you here? People have asked why you didn’t get yourself home and whether your friends were also drinking heavily the night before, both of which are pretty valid and relevant questions to ask.
YTA. you didnt say No i dont want to go and then stayed at home.
you said no i dont want to go and then you went. no matter what your MOUTH said, your BODY got in the car and went on the trip.
ya, you owe them gas money too.
YTA. Why did you go somewhere you didn’t want to go?
ESH – You are an adult. You have personal agency. You could have said "no, maybe next time." You didn’t just magically appear in the car.
They also should have respected your decision to not go.
All in all, you all sound like you are 15 based on all of the decisions that happened. Time to grow up and act your age.
YTA It doesn’t matter that you didn’t want to go, the fact of the matter is that you did go. Unless you’re willing to lose friends over $30 that you really should pay anyway, then send the money and don’t speak of it again.
Aside: that seems like a lot of money for gas
If you didn’t want to go, you should have put on your big girl pant (if you could find them in your stupor) and said "NO, THANKS."
Having agreed to go, if was incredibly immature to whine that you weren’t going to pay because you hadn’t wanted to go.
Grow up, sober up, and stop being TAH.
You went cause you simply can’t say no thanks and then get yourself home. This was all entirely self inflicted I have no sympathy YTA
YTA – Being dragged along isn’t the same as being kidnapped. You’re an adult; you could’ve said no, left, or asked for a ride home. You still used their car, their gas, and their day. It’s fair to split costs.
Seriously, they guilt-tripped u into a four-hour drive and then expected u to pay for it? That’s messed up. They should’ve respected ur no. They wanted u there for the “vibe” and now they’re mad u won’t pay for their gas. They’re being petty and childish. They’re the AHs.
YTA – “Next thing I knew we’re in Jason’s car”. Was it magic? Did they abduct you? Hypnosis perhaps? Unless it was one of these, you chose to get in the car and go with them. However much you didn’t want to go, it wasn’t enough to stop you from going. Pay for your share or agree something in advance next time.
NTA as they didn’t ask for it until after the fact and price tags gave to be discussed and agreed to beforehand. They don’t get to side swipe you with a fee on the way back
Why are you acting like they held you hostage and forced you to go with them?
I’m baffled that you agreed to go on an 11 hour trip rather than just say "no thanks guys, if you can’t drop me off at home on your way out of town I’ll just order an uber".
ESH. They should have mentioned it before leaving if they wanted to split the trip cost, but girl, come on. Your behaviour was beyond strange, I’m not surprised your friends found it odd. You’re 24, not a kid. You can’t just crash at someone’s place without warning, not make any plans yourself to leave the next day, go along with other people’s plans & then act like they’re making you do things you don’t want to. Time to act like the grown up you are.
YTA
you went along, you need to pay your share.
YTA why did you go on the drive instead of going home yourself when you all got outside when you knew they were setting off for the hike ?
It’s weird to me that you were so passive and then complaining.
Nobody forced you to go.
You are an adult and not a child.
He is yta for asking for gas.
Couldnt u have gone home?
It is not a question of whether you did or did not want to go. You actually did go. You could have called an uber. YTA
I suspect you won’t need to worry about hanging with them again.
INFO why did you get in the car?
YTA
You say boundaries are hard, but you were okay rejecting paying. But couldn’t say no to going? Seems convenient. If you didn’t want to go, you shouldn’t have gone. You weren’t a hostage. You could have booked a taxi and left. It wasn’t their duty to drop you home or anything (unless it was pre-agreed and they refused to do that, but I don’t see any mention of that).
Once you agreed to go, you were part of the travel group and should have paid.
If you went, shut up and pay for gas.
YTA – you stayed over after drinking too much. Great. But you didn’t get a hotel and pay for late checkout, you get up and go or go with them. They don’t want people alone in their house, they don’t want to give you a key, they may be too late to drop you before they lose the sun. So "thanks for the couch, I’m going to head home" and you go.
OP what was your original plan to get home when you “crashed” the night before. How did you get there and what is the cost/distance to get home?
This is meaningless without this info.
Question: how did you travel to their place at the start of this story, and what was the original plan for getting yourself home?
I kinda think YTA for not just going home when they went hiking – but to ask for $30 when the whole round trip was probably $40 worth of gas…. they are the assholes there. So ESH.
Nice fake little AI story.
They were politely telling you to fuck off back home so they could go hiking.
Most pathetic person in the universe
vs
Fakest story ever to grace this subreddit
you be the judge
You should do everything they say forever.
YTA – you didn’t have to go but you did because you couldn’t get your sh* together. If you had preplanned like any other responsible adult you wouldn’t be in this situation. Honestly you should at least give them money for getting you home. Now you’re here on reddit whinging rather than taking accountability and learning from your mistakes. Grow up!
YTA, others have already started exactly why I think that
YTA. You went on the trip. No one forced you to go. You were not kidnapped. I bet this will really hurt your friendship and the couple will consider ever inviting you to anything ever again.
Rush over with an apology pizza and the cash and hope they will still want to interact with you.
ESH why didn’t you just go home? Obviously they were going anyway so would have gone regardless of whether you paid towards the petrol but I’m not sure why you went at all if you were just going to sit in the car
YTA. Set boundaries and say no. If you didn’t want to go, you should have stayed at their house taking care of their plants or you should have just gone home.
ESH – Your friends are AH because they sprung $30 on you AFTER the trip. That’s shitty behavior. They should have been up front about that if they expected it. Especially given that they went out of their way to talk you into it.
But that the same time, come on OP, you’re a god damned adult. If you don’t want to go on an 11 hour trip, then tell them that. If you aren’t capable of saying "no" to things like this then maybe you should call your mom and dad and ask them every time you need to make a decision.
Instead of being swept along on a road trip you didn’t want to go on, why didn’t you simply state you would rather go home? You said you were okay to hang out, you just didn’t want to hike. Well, you went, so whether you participated in the activity or not, you went along for the ride. I’d pay the $30 & not let the money come between you.
Yta if you didn’t want to go, then don’t go, but you did go, so pay up
NTA. That being said, the moral high ground solution here is to send the $30, tell them that you didn’t appreciate being pressured into a trip you said no to and then being pressured into paying for the trip you said no to, and choose to cut ties or limit contact. There is no way out of this disagreement without a sour party on one side – them sour because you didn’t pay, or you sour because you did pay. They should’ve taken your first no, been upfront about needing gas money at the beginning, or not asked you to pay at all seeing as you said no and sat in the car.
To add, if these friends are worth it to you, you can also choose to pay it and move on, and to just keep in mind to not get into these kinds of situations with them again.
Is this your actual life? Being a third wheel that gets taken advantage of? I mean NTA but why are you their child or whatever. Have some independence.
ESH why did you even go?
Op Yta. It isn’t your friends responsibility to take you home and if you didn’t want to go you should have grown a spine and said so.
YTA
You are an adult. Nothing made you get in that car aside from yourself and you being stuck the entire time was your own fault. You should absolutely pay them at least some gas money. Next time have other areangements for transportation or be asked to drop by your home. You contradict your feelings like 3-4 times in this post. “i was hungover and didn’t want human interaction” straight to “im down to hangout”. Like what?