I’ve realized that I’ve let my MIL affect my mental health for far too long. Ever since I started dealing with her and her family, my body has been reacting rashes, panic attacks, and overwhelming anxiety. At first, I couldn’t understand why I felt so off, but now I know it’s chronic stress. And sadly, all that stress traces back to one source MIL. It hurts to admit, but I caused myself chronic health problems by allowing her toxic energy to stay in my life.
She will never be a good MIL not like my mom, who treats her 3 daughters in law with love, respect, and kindness. I kept hoping things would change, kept giving her chances for the sake of my husband and child. But I’m done. I give up trying to make this work. I don’t need to deal with this woman or her equally toxic daughter. They are not my burden.
I’ve changed my number. She will no longer contact me. I don’t care what relationship my husband chooses to have with her that’s his. But for me, it’s over. Permanently.
Life is too short, and I’m already regretting the years I spent stressed, anxious, and hurt over this woman. That was time I’ll never get back but I will take back what’s left of my peace, health, and joy.
Goodbye, MIL.
Find another hobby. Find another drama. It will no longer be me.
I’m done being your emotional punching bag.
I’m done living under your cloud.
I will live my life like you don’t exist.
You are no longer a part of my world.
this right here is my last post about MIL.
Because from this point forward,
She will no longer even cross my mind.
My peace is my priority.
And I’m finally free ✌🏼
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I’m so sorry you went through this OP.
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Enjoy your peace and freedom!!!
I have a friend with a JNMIL who was a real witch! Actively tried to break up all her kids marriages. They all went either NC or LC. Last I heard, the JNMIL is in a nursing home on hospice and no one will visit her.
Good for you for prioritizing your sanity. May your peace last.
Congratulations and enjoy it!!! I’m right there with you and it’s amazing to lose all of that undeserved stress! 💚
Good for you for finally setting boundaries and prioritizing your own well-being. May your newfound freedom bring you the peace and happiness you deserve.
Honestly, good for you. Toxic in-laws are soul-sucking, and sometimes the only way out is shutting the door completely. You can’t pour from an empty cup, so protecting your mental health isn’t just smart, it’s necessary. Let your husband sort his own relationship with her, you focus on reclaiming your peace. No regrets, just moving forward.
Good for you. Toxic MILs drain your soul and health. Cutting ties isn’t giving up, it’s self-preservation. Your peace greater than her drama. Keep that boundary strong and don’t look back.