I am 30m and my Ndad has been in prison most of my life, a royal POS the times he’s been out. My Nmom has been “around” but an awful excuse of a mother, I have been essentially NC for 6 years with her. Most of my life for Ndad.
I was given a 3 week notice that my Nmom would like me to join the court hearing in regard to the $300k+ of child support Ndad owes. She thinks a $25 a month payment plan is fair. I think this insanity and traumatic this is happening right now at 30 years old. I learned my Nmom has been actively fighting this child support case for 28 years. It is up to me how this case goes.. if I don’t go, case is dropped. If I do go, this may be my only opportunity to have both parents in front of a WITNESS (judge) to hear how I really feel about them collectively. I don’t give a damn about the money from a broke deadbeat.
I’m at a toss up if I should go to this court date or not. Most of me says yes, my realistic self says save the heartache. I think this is a once in a life time chance for my neglected child in me to unleash the pain.. not continue to take it out on myself.
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What is your peace worth? You are not going to get what you want from this interaction. They will never acknowledge the pain they caused you. If they do it would be some sort of blame shifting. Personally I’d write them off and never look back. On the other hand maybe you need this for closure.
You could do a written or video submission of your witness statement/testimony to the court instead of going in person.