I f (23) and bf (24) have been arguing since I went to a concert two days ago . Ever since I said that I was going to concert , my bf has started arguments over it . I bought 2 tickets so me and him could both go . When I suggested that we go together as a date he said “why would I go watch some dude I don’t even know ?”. I have no friends . So I invited my cousin and we went . I gave updates on Facebook and tagged the artist and his openers in two out of three post . He was so upset at the fact that I tagged these artist he called out of work for the next day . He told me I was “dick riding” the artist bc I tagged them . AITHA for tagging the artist in my post ?
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Backup of the post’s body: I f (23) and bf (24) have been arguing since I went to a concert two days ago . Ever since I said that I was going to concert , my bf has started arguments over it . I bought 2 tickets so me and him could both go . When I suggested that we go together as a date he said “why would I go watch some dude I don’t even know ?”. I have no friends . So I invited my cousin and we went . I gave updates on Facebook and tagged the artist and his openers in two out of three post . He was so upset at the fact that I tagged these artist he called out of work for the next day . He told me I was “dick riding” the artist bc I tagged them . AITHA for tagging the artist in my post ?
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He’s a jerk who’s just gonna be mad at you no matter what you do. Go live your life and find someone who wants to do it with you.
Please leave this insecure controlling loser omg
ok yeah break up with him he doesn’t want to see you happy
He has major insecurity and is controlling. Leave.
I’m veering heavily towards NTA, fine that he didn’t want to go although I feel he could have just given it a go to have a fun date with you and lots of people tag the artist so I think he is overthinking that way too much and the “dick riding” comment was immature and disrespectful. Although I shall reserve full judgement without knowing a couple of things. Is this a local/small artist you could potentially meet in real life and spend time with or is it a big artist/big concert? Have you said you have a crush on or find this artist attractive?
Might end? You should have ended it when he used the words “dick riding” for tagging someone on FB. He’s an insecure douche. Has he asked about your “body count” too? Also, don’t buy concert tickets for someone unless they’ve already agreed to go to the concert with you already.
He sounds like a loser lmao
I rarely motion for breaking up, but this is an instance where you definitely should. Not only did he not support you, he tried to tear you down to his level. The whole point of being in a relationship is to experience things in life together.
Um what
I’m sorry what?? He’s being insecure because you tagged the artist? 😂😂
Girlie that is super childish of him and I would discuss that with him maybe try to see why he’s upset but if he breaks up with you because of this then you deserve better! I went to a concert last Friday with my BF and I only knew one of the openers and he got to talk to the lead singer of the band and even got pictures with her.
The fact that he wouldn’t let that be a date for yall kinda blows. Sounds like there more to it but if he’s this upset over a concert then maybe you should take a step back and evaluate what he is bringing to this relationship that is actually beneficial to you?
Dump him and move on. He’s a loser
Maybe try to date an emotionally mature man next time.
I don’t say this very often because I think these words get overused but he is controlling and insecure. You can do better OP. I’m sorry he treats you this way I mean ffs you bought the tickets for you both to go and he was already being a jerk about it.
You’re 23. You’re just dating. He’s wrong for you. Just move on
I am old and I can tell you that life is very fucking short. What do you want your life to be like?
Right now this is your future. And from my pov, it doesn’t look like it’s going to be a fun place. It looks dark and mean and horrid.
Luckily for you it’s not set in stone.
Ew, just leave. Why couldn’t he go & just be happy to spend time with you & seeing the smile on your face & have a good time together.
And to be a salty prick afterwards cause he refused.
NTA but you gotta leave him.
getting insecure of your partner liking a celebrity/artist is big cringe.
It’s pretty normal to tag artists in posts? Let’s people know who the artist is and gives them an easy way to find them. Also a lot of artists like seeing posts of people at their events.
your bf is seriously unhinged. dump him – you can do much better
He sounds terrible
Your BF is a straight up loser. Leave
If its not liking a band on social media, it’ll be something else. He’s a serial abuser. He needs to cut you down.
Run. This is more than a red flag. It’s a full on red light show
Please dump this guy. He acts like a child and he’s going to make your whole life about him.
He sounds like a pussy. Drop him immediately and find some more secure.
bro cannot fathom having a good time with his girlfriend and enjoying her enjoyment because he doesn’t like the artist. not to mention he should’ve just been grateful you thought of him when buying the tickets. the possession and insecurity this guy has is wild, he’s probably the reason you don’t have friends
OMG, no. This is not acceptable behavior from someone who is suppose to love you. This is just a preview of things to come. His jealousy will cause you to stop doing things you want to do just to avoid a fight. You deserve better.
HE WAS SO UPSET ABOUT IT THAT HE CALLED OUT OF WORK??? thats not normal behavior. Make him your ex-boyfriend.
You’re better off without him babe. 1. concerts are always a fun date if he didn’t know the artist its a great opportunity to discover their music. 2. buying tickets for him was a lovely gesture and his reply was why would I go? rude, selfish and ungrateful, especially if you say you’ve got no friends. 3. Claiming that you’re dickriding for tagging the artist is not only an outlandish comment but plain dumb. You’re most certainly NTA just a girly trying to enjoy life.
See ya bye gone 👋
So upset you went to the concert and he called off of work? I cannot imagine entertaining a man who is that embarrassing in juvenile
He sounds scary. I would run.
No no no no no. NTA but your boyfriend is very insecure and is exhibiting controlling behavior.
Are you dating Eustass from Courage the Cowardly Dog
Your boyfriend is a loser. Get out of there!
Bro he is jealous in the most toxic way. More red flags than a communist country
The fact that he wasn’t willing to go to a concert with you and is behaving this antagonistically should be like the reddest flag imaginable. Run, don’t walk, to the nearest exit.
GTFO now, he’s not worth being with if he’s this upset over a concert.
That dude is not safe for women. Stamp him toxic and play the music loudly as you leave.
leave him seriously, this will only get worse
NTA. Dump the insecure controlling knob.
Can you pull the fucking band-aid off already and end it?
Tell him a lady on the internet (me) thinks he’s a 13 year old boy in a 24 year old man’s body.
Major red flag. He told you he has issues, believe him.
I got to concerts all the time with my friends or boyfriend and see artists that I don’t know. I then tag the artist. It’s NORMAL and not a big deal. You BF is, at the least, weird, and more likely than not, insecure and controlling. Good luck with that chap.
Dear God’s, dump this immature, controlling, jealous man-child. If you end up with him you will be absolutely miserable. Please. Run far and fast. 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Oh, he needs to go right in the dumpster.
“Dick riding?” It’s over, at that moment.
He called out of work to pout? That’s psychotic. He’s either so entirely unhinged in his insecurity that he was really too frazzled to work, or he did that to make you feel bad, which is equally controlling and disgusting behavior. Please don’t put up with this.
If you had like… backstage photos sitting on the artists lap that’d be the only way he had even an inch of ground to stand on.
So he’s not interested in the artist and didn’t want to go? That’s a red flag right there. Relationships are give and take. He may not like some of the things you do, but he could’ve still gone to an event that interests you. It’s called being supportive. I think you need to rethink all of it
Isn’t it amazing how many threads there are of women doing absolutely nothing wrong and they have a complete douchebag of a boyfriend/husband. Ladies, you don’t need validation for dumping these clowns. They’re treating you like shit, stop putting up with any of it.
Oo I remember when this happened with my ex! Man, it was upsetting.
Oh, I was 14.
Definitely not the asshole… HE is… you invited him and he said no bc he’s a jealous controlling freak.
Ooophhh, if you don’t leave now, it will get worse.
You deserve better. Leave him so he can learn thats no way to treat anyone. Also, he will make your life miserable.
Dickriding? What the fuck is his problem. He should see a therapist and you probably should too
Your relationship SHOULD end!!
He is showing signs of being controlling and irrationally jealous. Those things are behaviors that abusers do.
You mentioned you don’t have friends. Did you have friends before you got together with your BF? If so, then he is already isolating you.
I am not gonna call him controlling but i will call him immature and not in control of his emotions. If this is how he conducts himself you may want to rethink anything long term. Based on his reaction its clear he doesn’t know what those terms mean and has something else he doesn’t want to communicate going on. He may need to take a solo journey and work through that.
leave ASAP. Men like this are a physical risk as time goes on.
How many hours a day does this dickbag spend playing video games? I’m guessing a SHIT TON.
He was a jerk as soon as he said he wouldn’t go with you! I happily have gone to concerts I don’t enjoy because it’s an experience with my person! He does the same for me. Run, he’s a jerk
Get out..
Oh absolutely not. When my fav band announced a tour a couple months ago, my partner who couldn’t care less about them offered to go. Figured we’d make a trip out of it sense the show is about an hour away. He’s projecting his own insecurities onto you. Post what you want friend 🙏
NTA. 🚩 he’s deeply insecure
Your relationship should end
This behaviour is completely unhinged
Sounds like he has MAJOR insecurity issues and is controlling. My strong advice to you, based on this alone, is to run away from this one. It is only going to get worse the longer you wait.
Good christ. If tagging the artist is dick riding, my friends are gonna be big mad I never put out🤣
Let him go if he’s this big a crybaby over you going somewhere he didn’t want to go.
Oh this relationship SHOULD end.
Definitely end it. That dude is a waste of your time. How he gonna get mad you went to a concert he refused to attend, then get pissy over your posts? He’s a loser.
This is very concerning behavior that will only get worse. I hope you will listen to all these very wise people commenting here. Get out now.
Leave lol
You let a guy talk to you like that and you’re questioning whether YOU’RE the asshole?
Come on, girl. Love yourself more than that.
And yes, “it was only one time” is a good enough reason to break this off.
Him & I
No
He’s a controlling dickhead. Your life will be horrible if you stay with him. Btw why don’t you have any friends? Is it because he doesn’t want you to and/or he chased them all away?
He’s a child and insecure. This is only the start when you date a little boy. I would run
Leave like now. Should of when it started but you still can now!!! Run!!!!
You’re dating a child
No
NTA at all, a bit concerned that you even had to ask!! he sounds like an insecure douche. get out girl… as a 23f myself, my new motto i’ve been living by is “if you’re gonna stress me out and/or not add joy to my life, you’re no longer welcomed or tolerated”
Girl you have no friends because this man isolated you and is toxic and controlling. You are 23 and have PLENTY of time to make friends. I’m telling you this as someone who did exactly this at 32.
Get away from this loser ASAP. You will be so much happier and the end of this relationship is a breath of fresh air and a chance to feel free, not controlled and stifled.
He’s a beta male and way to emotional. Where are they making these overly emotional dudes at?
Wow, that’s a lot of little dick energy! I’d tell him to kick rocks, that insecurity is only going to get worse.
What is he, 12? He needs to get a grip. How controlling. OP, dont let your bf keep you from finding your husband. I also have no friends and my husband takes me to concerts for artists i love and he couldnt care less about. He is my hype man the whole time and goes to buy merch for me while i sing and dance so i dont miss anything. Go find a real man. Hell, marry that artist! Lol
He’s an absolute dick and I would love if my wife bought tickets to a concert. You’re with the wrong partner and you need to find a guy that would love going to concerts with you
DUMP HIM IMIDIATLY
Your BF is an insecure jerk
Your boyfriend is controlling and abusive. Stop prioritizing this crappy man. Dump him. Move out. Make new friends.
Every moment you waste with this man is preventing the man you should be with from entering your life.
Ick. You know enough, leave.
This dude is insecure af and will spend all the time you give him trying to bring you down to his sad little level.
My boyfriend surprised me with flights to Atlanta and tickets to see SAINt JHN for our anniversary because “I know you love him baby❤️.” It’s just music. Run and never look back girl.
Leave. I was 23 when I left my ex and I was so stressed about “starting over”. It was the best decision I could have made.
What a dickhead
What a fun-sucker. Who wants to date someone like that, ew.
It’s ok if this relationship ends. He’s too insecure and too toxic. You deserve better!
You’re 23 and use Facebook?
You need to hit the road fast
Get out now. He took off work because of some facebook posts you made? He had major insecurity issues and they will only get worse.
I am curious – do you say you do not have friends because of him? Did you have some before you met him?
You need to leave him. He is crazy controlling and he will only get worse. The fact you have no friends concerns me a lot because that is what controlling boyfriends do – they separate you from all the people you care about and make it too difficult to do anything without him. he is isolating you as well as controlling you. RUN AWAY NOW
Let it end. He’s icky for you
Dude,had my chick invited me on a date to check out live music I’d be stoked. Like “someone’s coming home with a tramp stamp tonight” kinda night and she already has one. Woop woop!!!
He is that insecure?
You even invited him!
Enjoy the concert and if he gets mad beforehand, let him know that you’ll certainly be dick riding if you can get backstage. “Thanks for the idea.”
Your bf is controlling, and you should leave him.
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Immature and disrespectful
Does he rabidly watch sports and follow teams of people he doesn’t know? What a hypocrite.
He is not giving. Or considerate. He could’ve just said thanks, but it wasn’t his cup of tea and asked you to go with a friend that would enjoy it more. But no. He said no and then got jealous because you had a good time without him.
Like, tell him thanks, you are flattered that he thinks that the band will be interested in you when you @ them… shows that you do deserve more than a whining boy at home, and toodeloo! Then ‘dick ride’ those bands telling them thanks for indirectly getting you out of a loser relationship!
You made a poor choice for a boyfriend.
Try again.
He’s an emotional toddler and doesn’t have the capacity to grow into anything else. Dump him, block him everywhere and delete him from your life. What a waste of human life.
your “boyfriend” is a fucking weirdo, lmao
Where do you ladies find these turds? It’s just mind boggling…….🙄
The fact that this interaction with him (you’re boyfriend, the person you chose to love and who is supposed to love you) has you asking an insane question like the one above should be enough for you to see that this relationship is unhealthy and possibly one sided (you seem active…he seems…passive if even that) If I were you, I’m not but if I were…I’d be out the door so fast you’d think I was Barry Allen. You’re literally only 23 and this will be your life as long as you’re with him. Do what you know is right. Leave. You’ll be asking yourself if you’re overreacting over putting his favorite cereal behind yours. Or if you’re overreacting by not putting his socks by the clothes that you ironed for him when he gets mad. That will be your future. The fact that you came to the internet to ask strangers about this…that you FEEL that unsure…(it’s normal but not with people who display toxic behaviors) is that not proof that this relationship is doomed?? He’s immature. And hedonistically insecure and controlling.
He definitely a lame. Who is the artist? Lol I wanna know who he hatin on.
Nta dump him he’s still a little boy
Do you really need to even ask?
What a child.
Making love to him is like making love to a kid.
Break up with him.
He might be 24 but his brain is 8…yes dump his ass
He couldn’t even let you be happy for a few hours? He sounds absolutely volatile in every way. Leave before things escalate — I know from past experience that people don’t stay at this level of control and assholery for long.
red flag what a jerk leave him and get some friends he needs to grow up
This is a massive red flag. You paid so he could go with you but was a child about it. Now he is being possessive because you went and had fun.
He isn’t mature enough to be in a relationship.
You deserve someone who respects you.
People tag the bands they see, it’s a fairly normal thing to do. It’s one small way to show support especially if smaller bands to get their names out.
Do you not have enough self awareness to know this guy is terrible? I mean, do you really need to ask a bunch of strangers? This seemsike a slam dunk.
end it.
i love going to shows. absolutely love it.
my ex was similar to your bf and i missed so so many shows because of him. i wish every single day i left sooner because those are experiences i’ll never get back.
one of my last straws was actually last year exactly around this time when my FAVOURITE band was coming to my city to headline for the first time. i wasn’t missing it. i didn’t care what fit my ex threw i was going and i was going without him. i took my dad so obviously as i was with my DAD nothing inappropriate was going to be going on that night but he still got salty about it. for the first time i stood my ground and then i had a good long think after about the fact that i didn’t want my literal partner of years to come see my favourite band with me.
a few more incidents later and i finally left him june of last year. let me tell you that first show i went to after ending the relationship was the BEST thing i’d felt in years.
i’m in a new relationship now with someone who’s driving me all the way from canada to kentucky in the fall to see my aforementioned favourite band again lol.
NTA
He sounds like such a nice guy. Now breakup with him.
you know the answers NTA. find someone who won’t get mad over nothing.
Your boyfriend is a moron.
No friends? 🚩 BF upset you went out without him? 🚩 BF sulking after you posted having fun without him? 🚩🚩🚩. Time to cut him loose – it’s only going to get worse.
If you’re smart, you will end this relationship today. Life is too short to spend it with a mean man.
Sounds like an absolutely nightmare of a partner. If he’s like this at 24 I can’t even imagine him at 44.
He sucks
NTA. He sounds super insecure. Run for the hills girl!
Dump him, move on, meet someone better.
I went to a concert 3 states away with a woman my wife had never and probably will never meet and I caught way less shit than this. This relationship isn’t worth saving with this level of insecurity.
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This cant be the Only time he is trying to control you..
Where did your friends go?
Who is insane enough to Call in sick from work, because girlfriend went to a concert
good riddance honestly. this type of jealousy over an (assumably) unattainable celebrity is such a red flag and this guy needs to grow up.
He sounds like an insecure loser who is no fun. Dump him.
Leave quietly, then break up.
How is this even an argument? This guy refuses to go to the concert with you, then gets mad that you enjoyed it without him I guess? I’m so lost because of course you’re going to tag the artists it’s their concert.
Your relationship NEEDS to end! Not only bc of his immature attitude about you tagging the artist, but also bc he doesn’t support your interests/wanna participate in life the way that you enjoy. This was a paid event, keep living your life the way you want and let NO partner be comfortable putting you down for experiencing life. 🚩🚩🚩🚩
Maybe he needs a nap?
Not at all, tagging artists at a concert is super normal it’s part of the fun! It sounds like there’s something deeper going on with his reaction though. Has he always been this insecure or reactive?
From experience… LEAVEEEE HIS ASS
Leave!!! If your partner doesn’t want to share an experience with you, well ok. But biiiiiiiiig red flag to make drama about it later and try to destroy your nice experience. Don’t walk, run! You deserve better!!!
Leave. He’s insecure beyond help.
Leave. Strong insecurity and small-dick-energy.
RUN!!! Only an insane person would be against someone they care about having interests and being entertained by them.
This ain’t it, please leave him for your own safety, staying with him leads to a path of hurt abuse and disaster, don’t walk away, RUN RUN AS FAST AS THE WIND AWAY FROM HIM!!!
Leave him. Sounds like a child.
This is the most insecure I’ve heard in a while. If you tagging artists while at their concert is dick riding then idk what to tell him. He’s jealous over nothing. Honestly probably better that he didn’t go with you, he would’ve made your night at the concert so miserable.
Why would you put up with that kind of behavior? It’s time to find someone better.
He sounds like a fucking immature douchebag. Who cares what kind of concert it is? He should just want to spend time with you.
just leave, why would you want to stay with someone who is like this?
Not the AH. It’s time to make an exit plan and end this toxic relationship. Your bf has serious issues and you should stop wasting time with him before things get worse.
Ex-boyfriend material. Send him on his way.
Get out, he sounds like a twat!
Get out asap. He’s showing you exactly who he is. Believe him.