TL:DR – my fiancé cheated once, told me immediately, and wants to reconcile
my (F26) fiancé (M26) told me he cheated on me the day after it happened.
my fiancé is my best friend, and yesterday he sat me down and opened up to me about a porn addiction, questioning his sexuality, and that the day before he had met up with a man anonymously. they only did hand stuff, he felt horrible, told me it confirmed he was not gay, immediately got tested for every disease possible, and of course told me it was the worst thing he’s ever done and it would never happen again.
i have been cheated on in the past and always said it was a dealbreaker. but now im here, 5 years in, planning a wedding with the love of my life and i feel so confused.
mismatched libidos have always been a challenge in our relationship, but always something that has been able to be discussed and brought up anytime one of us was having big feelings about it.
i feel horrible that he was having such conflicting thoughts and didn’t feel like he could bring it to me (neither of us are homophobic and have both talked about how we questioned our sexuality one time or another). he is willing to go to therapy (separately and together) and do what it takes to try to reconcile.
i think i am still in quite a bit of shock. i want to be with him, but i also don’t know where to go from here.
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I’m bisexual but I’ve made it 10.5 years without cheating on or wanting to cheat on my husband. Hope this helps
Hell no baby hellll no
Why would he get tested if he only did hand things?
That’s got to be a deal breaker or you are in denial… Sorry that happened to you 😢
He was questioning his sexuality, and so the way he thought best to solve that problem was go cheat on you? At the minimum that gives red flags that he is not attracted to you. Run.