Found out that my stepdad (M40) slept with my sister (F n/a just put a random age so I can post let’s just say that she was young when this happened) we tried talking to her about taking it to the authorities but for some unknown reason she has chosen to stay involved with stepdad. Our mom has been made aware and has also chosen to stay with the pos and take his side even though he was in a sexual relationship with the step daughter while he was with our mom. Our mom knows all this and did nothing and is still in a relationship with stepdad. We tried talking to law enforcement they said they can’t do anything without stepdaughter coming forward herself. Stepdaughter doesn’t want to press charges and has chosen to go against those who are trying to help her. He is a messed up pos. Anyone who has met him would say the same. Any advice? Should we go public with this information? We don’t want anyone to get involved with stepdad and something bad ends up happening to them.
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>should we go public?
No – this would be revictimising his victim
Was she underage when this happened? If so why does she needs to come forward? If she is 18+ what can they even do?
Is there any actual evidence of it happening?
It doesn’t make sense to put this all on your sister to fix it by going to the police. She’s the most traumatized. I can’t imagine how I’d react if my own mother knew and ignored it, and stayed with him. You’d tell yourself anything to avoid that pain, even that you wanted your disgusting predatory stepdad somehow, some way.
I don’t have advice for how to help, but what your sister is doing right now makes total sense in a way. What’s the statute of limitations/ how long would she have to report in theory? Maybe start there and don’t put so much pressure on right now.
Unfortunately your mother isn’t any better than him. I’d straight up dump the guy and call authorities. But she’s actually choosing to stay with him.
Your sister was manipulated and likely still is being manipulated to keep him out of jail.
Leave them all behind. Sis will have to learn the hard way and so does mom.
If it were me i would expose then all with proof, block, and leave
Hope he trips and falls into a woodchipper
You could try contacting a DV agency in your area and they would be able to point you in the right direction if there’s anything to be done.
However, I fear that the police are right and there’s nothing you can do. I’m so sorry this happened to your sister and your family.
Call CPS. They have to investigate if she is a minor
I wish you’d both just block the two of those revolting excuses for humans.
I’m sorry to be crude, but I’m just gonna say this — and I wish to Christ I could look your mother in the eye and ask her, because trust and believe I would: How the fuck does she wrap her lips around a man’s dick that’s been inside of her daughter? YUCK. 🤮 How the hell can she stay with him? So disgusting.
Your mother is a horrible person. You know that right?