Hi all, burner account for obvious reasons. I am not sure if this topic is outside of the scope for this reddit.
TW for SA
My(18f) boyfriends sister(12) was SA’d by an older boy(16) and does not want to go to the police. I don’t believe that is her choice to make as a child this young, however her mother believes that it is the victims fault.
I am not looking for legal advice, but I am looking for if there is anything else I can do or if I should look to do more at all. I called CPS and made a detailed report, and nothing was done. I spoke to a counselor and she said generally they speak to the child at school and that is all.
I doubt that there will be repercussions, especially at this age, and I also acknowledge that it is likely that nothing will happen and this could possibly make things worse for the child. However it is likely that the perpetrator will continue to do these things and there will be no paper trail.
I considered writing mail to the boy’s parents house or showing up at the door to let them know what has happened in hopes that they will parent. This is my main idea at this time since I know the victim will not cooperate with a police report as her mother has convinced her that the SA is the victims fault. But I feel terrible doing nothing.
Similar happened to me and my biggest regret was not pressing charges. The victim felt confident to tell me everything that happened and I tried to convince her to go to someone. I don’t want her to go through this too.
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Sorry if the answer to this question is obvious from the post, but have you contacted the police department and filed a report? Whether or not the rapist wants to comply, ideally they’ll be forced to. Now I know the justice system isn’t the greatest toward sexual assault and rape, but it’s worth a try before doing anything else.
She doesn’t want to go to the police. That’s that. You can try CPS, again, make a report to her counselors. That’s it. Unless the victim is willing to come forward, unless you are a mandated reporter, you can’t do anything. You can talk to her about coming forward. But that’s it. You can’t report for her. (She might recant out of shame/fear, and other emotions/outside factors) so. Talk to her.
It’s not rape if you enjoy it
Depending on the type, maybe you should get her to seek medical attention in case there is a possibility of a sexually transmitted disease. The doctor would then be required to report.