I have been told over and over it’s my job in fast for to make sure I get a reply to my communication. They sent me home and reprimanded me for the lack of communication. I’ve also been told I’m too quiet. I spoke louder today and out of the blue my manager tells me I’m being sent home for having an aggressive tone and creating a “hostile” work environment. I asked my coworker who was with me the whole time and she laughed at the idea I was being hostile. To add insult to injury he asked if I was “ignoring him” when I didn’t immediately respond. I have ptsd and had a panic attack so bad I lost the rest of my day. What should I do?
Manager didn’t like my tone
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I physically am unable to eat because of the stress. This job is the only thing standing between me and going back to abuse or homelessness. I’m honestly debating going to HR. This was beyond ridiculous some guy who just got finished training to be manager gets to literally steal money from my wallet and slander me to my boss with credibility.
Is leaving/transferring an option? I know many times it’s not but sounds like your work place is pretty toxic and sometimes the best thing to do is just find a new place. Outside of that I have found that I frequently get frustrated because I assume the worst in people. “Oh he must have said that because he doesn’t like me” but then sometimes there is a good reason. I think the best thing to do is to take a day to cool off then contact your manager to see if you can meet and discuss your work. Assure them you want to work well with the rest of the team and swallow your pride and apologize. Again maybe not the best course if your boss is completely insane and just a bad person, but I have found this works for me. Often if I apologize I realize the other person is just as stressed (or more) than I am.
Sounds like a toxic work environment, I would find a new job. That said, I would ask myself why/if my communication style is misunderstood. This may be a good question for your manager too “I understand my communication style hasn’t been well received, can you give me some guidance to how I can improve?”
Regardless this is a good learning opportunity. You’re either learning what a bad manager looks like, in which case you find another job and will be able to identify those red flags faster in the future. Or if there is poor communication on your end, you learn how to communicate more effectively which is a good life skill regardless of occupation. Or some combination of the both of these.
If it was me I would tell him to show me the correct way to communicate in order to be able to achieve his approval. If he doesn’t show you then you should refuse to be sent home because there is no guidelines to be right or wrong. If your company policy gives them the right to reprimand personal without having set boundaries and rules for the employees to follow. I would suggest you start looking for a respectful employer that is fair to the employees and treats them with respect. Good luck
Have you considered you might be autistic?