I’m not even sure where to begin. I’m 30, work full time, and my husband and I just bought our first home. It’s small, but it’s ours. I was so proud setting up the kitchen, everything had a place. It’s my favorite space.
MIL offered to “help” us unpack. I asked her not to touch the kitchen. Specifically said it was my space.
I came home from work to find the entire kitchen redone. Spices moved. Appliances rearranged. Even the garbage can was in a different spot.
I was stunned. I asked her why. She goes, “It was so cluttered! I just made it better. You should be grateful.”
I told her, calmly, that this was a massive overstep and she had no right. She laughed and said, “You’ll thank me later.”
Husband was horrified when he got home. He apologized profusely and told her she had to put everything back. She refused. She said, “If this is how you treat your mother, then I’m not helping anymore.”
We said, “Good.” She left in a huff. I spent the next two hours putting everything back.
She hasn’t been invited back since. She still texts saying “you two need to learn some gratitude.” I say she needs to learn boundaries.
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Yes . Boundaries. Not allowed in house alone !
Go to her house and rearrange everything. See how she likes it.
Do the same to her whole she’s out. It’s clearly not a problem.
She needs to learn some gratitude.
OMG, I would absolutely lose my shit.
My kitchen flow relies on me being able to grab what I need immediately. Having to scavenger hunt for everything is just . . .
And yes, thank you MIL. I am now completely justified in never letting you darken my door again.