Am I too controlling?

So me F27 and my girlfriend F26 have been together almost 2 years now.

She works as a DJ and this is more than a job for her, it’s her life’s passion because she says that music saved her ever since she was a child and she wants to do something related to music all her life. Now me, I grew up in a house where all I ever wanted since I was a kid was to have a stable job, a wife that loved me and a peaceful life together because my house while growing up was full of chaos and all I have energy for right now is peace and quiet. So her passion aligned pretty well with mine most of the time, especially at the beginning of our relationship as she was able to have semi-regular gigs and I managed to find a stable job so we made do pretty well for both us and a couple cats and a dog.

My problem with this is that she keeps telling me she will come home in the mornings after her gigs but she doesn’t. For a little bit of context: She had a drug problem at the beginning of our relationship and it got to the point where I had to give her an ultimatum, either drugs or me, because I couldn’t keep waking up and not finding her in the house, nor could I suffer half-assed replies and lies that she was coming home soon only for her to stumble back home three days afterwards. Thankfully she chose me but ever since I’ve had pretty big trust issues about her behaviors in our relationship.

It also didn’t help that she emotionally cheated on me at one point, I’ve tried to pick my trust up little by little ever since. So because of all of that she knows that I need at least a message to let me know what’s up with her or if she’s gonna be late or whatever’s happening. But lately she keeps on telling me she’s coming home and then she doesn’t and I’m scared that she started using again… She recently found a pretty regular gig that gives her a regular paycheck, but every morning after she plays music she tells me that she has to go to the club owners’ house (both M and in their late 30s, gay couple) to get her money and then after an hour passes she tells me she’s talking with them about strategies on how to make more people come to the club (they’re new club owners and acquaintances of hers and to be honest she’s always had problems with being too friendly and too helpful with people that ultimately take advantage of her). And then nothing. No message, no call, no reply even after I text her a couple of times. Right now I’m still waiting for her to come home and it’s literally 1PM, she’s been gone for over 16hrs !!! and we’ve had minimal contact.

I don’t know..and I too controlling? Is it normal to feel like this or am I overthinking and exaggerating? I mean yeah I have trust issues but I’m being very open with her about when my triggers appear and when I feel like my trust is low, but she keeps doing this even though she knows it bothers me a lot. What else can I do? I’m in therapy and I’m trying to work on things but I feel like I’m the only one that’s trying to resolve things. Also whenever we talk it seems that we don’t understand each other well, like our ways of communicating are different and the information just doesn’t reach the other.

I’m sorry if this is jumbled together and incoherent but I’m very distressed and I don’t know what I should do. Also I’m on mobile and my english is not the best so I’m sorry for any sort of confusion, I’ll do my best to answer any questions.

TL;DR: My gf (26F) and I (27F) have been together almost 2 years. She’s a DJ and very passionate about her work, while I really value peace and stability. She had a drug problem and emotionally cheated early in the relationship, which left me with trust issues, though she chose to stay and get clean. Lately, she disappears after gigs, says she’ll come home but doesn’t, and barely communicates, which triggers a lot of anxiety for me. I’m in therapy and trying to work through my stuff, but I feel like I’m the only one putting in the effort, and I don’t know if I’m overreacting or if my concerns are valid.