We’ve been friends for 3 years, but we’re completely different people. She’s been in multiple relationships and once had a crush on a guy while both of them were already in relationships. Later, she broke up, got into another relationship, but still liked the same guy. Eventually, she ended that too and became best friends with him.
The guy was still dating someone, and his girlfriend felt insecure—which I think was valid. My best friend ended up manipulating him into breaking up, even helping him figure out how to dump his girlfriend. That girl truly loved him. When she confronted my best friend, she got blocked. She then messaged me.
Meanwhile, my best friend had stopped talking to me over something petty (I didn’t ask about her result). I gave her my ID hoping she’d forgive me—but she just used it to support her own side in the drama. I felt awful for that girl and now don’t feel like being her best friend anymore.
She blocked me now because I didn’t try hard to convince her to make up. Should I talk to her about all this, or just let it go?
Tldr; my bsf manipulated her own friend’s boyf to breakup with his girlfriend just because she had a crush on him.
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The older you get, the more you’ll learn that people like that, high conflict people, will only ever drain energy from your life. They may be fun and interesting, but keep them at arms length. Your inner peace is valuable—not to mention she’s training you to be manipulated easily. You are what you practice. Get out now and be glad that you listened to your gut. Someone like her might sabotage things in YOUR life too.
Why would you even want to be her friend?
Why are you friends with this person?