Backstory, myself (24) and my ex-girlfriend (23) broke up 3 years ago when we were 21 and 20. We met through mutual friends and were both just out of relationships with our teenage “first love”. Anyway, we hadn’t healed, decided to seperate after 9 months and grow as people, but from time to time communicated briefly about how we both were doing.
We got back into contact properly after bumping in to eachother in a bar a few months ago and spent the whole night together. We said now or never, let’s give it another shot. I havent loved anybody the same since her and genuinely believe i could happily spend my life with her.
Anyway, we kept it quiet for the first while and then decided to come clean. My family and friends basically said do whatever you want, we support you. Her family on the other hand said I would never be allowed into the house or at any family events forever. This really hurt me because although i understand their concern, I think it’s unfair to start off like this without even giving us a chance.
If you’re wondering for a reason as to why they might be feeling like this, I honestly don’t have one. Our relationship was fine, minimal arguing until the breakup and no cheating, lying or anything of the sort. She understandably was very upset when we separated as was I, but i still don’t think their worry should develop into actions like these.
We both still live with our parents, I’m still studying as is she so it would be a while before we could move out together – so i’m worried this is already setting us up disaster. She has tried to speak to them, and they just shut her down or walk out of the room.
I’m quite an anxious person, I love her so much and want to be with her and part of me doesn’t care what other people think, but the other part of me doesn’t want to be excluded or feel unwanted by such a huge part of her life.
And i understand that because it’s her side it’s essentially her problem to sort out, but I don’t want to be the reason for them fighting.
My friends have told me to just forget it because it’s not worth it, but I can’t.
any advice is appreciated.
TL;DR; : my ex and i want to rekindle, but her parents have said i will never be accepted.