I (f26) am married, my husband (m31) and I have a five year old boy, we’re expecting our second baby (I’m 18 weeks now)
My older sister (f31) is also married and she’s expecting her first child (she’s about 26 weeks). They had some issues getting pregnant and it took a while, our family knew this. I think I was very supportive, which is why I find her reaction out of place
Three weeks ago we had a family gathering, I was going to announce that I’m pregnant then, but I didn’t because I met up with my sister a few days prior and she told me about the baby and that she was planning to tell everyone in that gathering. I understood that it was difficult for her since it’s something that she’s been really wanting, she waited a bit longer than I did with my first baby because she was scared of having a miscarriage, I totally supported her and I didn’t tell her about my own pregnancy because I didn’t want her to think I was stealing her spotlight (which ended up happening anyway). She announced her pregnancy during our gathering and everyone congratulated her, it was good
Fast forward, last week I was talking to our brother’s girlfriend, she noticed my pregnancy and I confirmed it. Since she was planning a family gathering (they moved recently to a house with a garden, so they wanted to host a garden party) she told me that I could announce the pregnancy to our family at their party, I said sure (I was planning to send a text in the family’s gc to share the news)
The day of the party came, my brother and his girlfriend cooked for us, it was nice. Then I told everyone that I am pregnant again, everyone of course congratulated me and started asking me the usual questions, how far along I was, how I was feeling, etc. My sister however got upset, I noticed that she was looking off, so I asked her what was up (because I thought maybe she was feeling sick). She said that I’m such an egocentric bitch, that she knew I would do something like this to “steal her spotlight”. I asked her how I could do it on purpose if I didn’t even know she was pregnant until very recently, she told me that either way I knew she was trying, but I don’t think I should have to put my life in pause just for her?
We argued, she called me a lot of names, I called her names back, I admit it. She then told me that I didn’t have to make such a big deal to announce my pregnancy since it’s my second baby, not my first. She also said that I was jealous of the attention she got before and that’s why I had to make this about myself so everyone would pay attention to me and not her. I don’t think I did anything wrong, but I clearly hurt her, so I’m wondering if maybe I am in fact an asshole and I should’ve kept the announcement low-key
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I (f26) am married, my husband (m31) and I have a five year old boy, we’re expecting our second baby (I’m 18 weeks now)
My older sister (f31) is also married and she’s expecting her first child (she’s about 26 weeks). They had some issues getting pregnant and it took a while, our family knew this. I think I was very supportive, which is why I find her reaction out of place
Three weeks ago we had a family gathering, I was going to announce that I’m pregnant then, but I didn’t because I met up with my sister a few days prior and she told me about the baby and that she was planning to tell everyone in that gathering. I understood that it was difficult for her since it’s something that she’s been really wanting, she waited a bit longer than I did with my first baby because she was scared of having a miscarriage, I totally supported her and I didn’t tell her about my own pregnancy because I didn’t want her to think I was stealing her spotlight (which ended up happening anyway). She announced her pregnancy during our gathering and everyone congratulated her, it was good
Fast forward, last week I was talking to our brother’s girlfriend, she noticed my pregnancy and I confirmed it. Since she was planning a family gathering (they moved recently to a house with a garden, so they wanted to host a garden party) she told me that I could announce the pregnancy to our family at their party, I said sure (I was planning to send a text in the family’s gc to share the news)
The day of the party came, my brother and his girlfriend cooked for us, it was nice. Then I told everyone that I am pregnant again, everyone of course congratulated me and started asking me the usual questions, how far along I was, how I was feeling, etc. My sister however got upset, I noticed that she was looking off, so I asked her what was up (because I thought maybe she was feeling sick). She said that I’m such an egocentric bitch, that she knew I would do something like this to “steal her spotlight”. I asked her how I could do it on purpose if I didn’t even know she was pregnant until very recently, she told me that either way I knew she was trying, but I don’t think I should have to put my life in pause just for her?
We argued, she called me a lot of names, I called her names back, I admit it. She then told me that I didn’t have to make such a big deal to announce my pregnancy since it’s my second baby, not my first. She also said that I was jealous of the attention she got before and that’s why I had to make this about myself so everyone would pay attention to me and not her. I don’t think I did anything wrong, but I clearly hurt her, so I’m wondering if maybe I am in fact an asshole and I should’ve kept the announcement low-key
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Oh lord we live in such a me me me world. How dare you live in the months that she does?
NTA. Does your sister also expect you to hide your bump for the next 9 months so as not to steal her thunder? I get that she’s very excited to be pregnant and that it didn’t come easily but she needs to get a grip now.
NTA for announcing when you did. And sister’s behavior sucks. But I do think you should have told your sister when you were planning on it.
NTA at 18 weeks the pregnancy was going to be announcing itself soon anyways. It was unavoidable.
NTA, you delayed telling you’re own news so that she could have the attention to herself, and her implying that your second child should be celebrated less is nonsensical and asshole territory
Was she expecting you to keep your pregnancy hidden for months, go no-contact with your family until the baby is born and then give birth in a dark corner all by yourself? On a related note, was she also expecting you to keep your newborn hidden for months, because your baby could steal the thunder of her baby? At what point would you be allowed to introduce your baby to the family?
The more good news, the merrier it is. I will never understand this stupid idea of “do not announce anything and steal my thunder” thing.
NTA.
OP is NTA in this situation and it sounds like sister has some insecurities or at the least could have communicated better.
Does she think that NO one else would be pregnant during the time she was??
NTA. She’s projecting.
This is so, so silly. ESH, but it’s no one’s fault, really.
The short answer is: it’s hormones. It’s been an emotional rollercoaster for both of you and it’s sparked a rather ridiculous argument.
Maybe you could have waited a little longer, but you couldn’t hide it forever.
Why don’t you let her cool down, reach out, say sorry (even if you don’t really mean it, or think you need to) and reframe this around how you know she’s scared, you know she’s got fears around this baby, but this way you can do it together and you’ll end up with cousins who will hopefully be super close due to their ages.
Your sister sucks. NTA. I understand she struggled to get pregnant but that doesn’t take away from your own pregnancy. She needs to not be so self centered and angry, it’s not good for the baby.
Oh god you know you’re not the asshole.
Your sister is ridiculous.
Well, you are NTA. You are allowed to enjoy your second pregnancy as you did your first and make the deal as big as you wish.
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NTA at all. Nobody gets a monopoly on being pregnant, no matter how hard it was to get there. You went above and beyond by ceding the announcement at the first gathering to her.
Just FYI foe the future, if someone’s been struggling with infertility or loss it is good to give them a heads up ahead of time in private so they can feel their feelings. Yes, this can even apply when they’re finally pregnant, because those feelings don’t disappear. However, I have a sneaking suspicion this would not have helped in this situation.
NTA, you waited 2 weeks and you having a nice announcement doesn’t take anything away from her. You should both be able to have the support of your families and it doesn’t really matter if it’s your first or second kid, either way you can both share the “spotlight”, if anything it might be nice to go through it tgth and support each other.
You shouldn’t have reacted in kind to her name calling, but even then, NTA. She’s calling YOU egocentric because she’s upset you (momentarily) took the spotlight off HER? That says it all right there. She should be thrilled you two are going through the experience together, your kids will be so close in age, etc. But, nope, all she cares about is not being the sole center of attention. You did nothing wrong. Congratulations, and I hope everything is smooth and healthy for all of you.
NTA. It isn’t unreasonable to hope family can be happy for one another.
NTA – every baby should be celebrated. When I was pregnant with my second, my older sister and younger sister both were pregnant. But, my younger sister had a false pregnancy and my older sister miscarried the week my son was born. It dimmed the joy of my new baby but neither of them reacted negatively. I felt bad for both of them but my mom said not too, that we were all happy about my son.
NTA, your family is blessed to have 2 babies on the way.
So you should’ve kept your pregnancy a sercet until the baby was born? And then kept him/her a secret as well? Because she would never think it was a good time for you to announce it and you would always steal the spotlight according to her, no matter when or how you would announce it.
NTA (possibly NAH). I completely understand your sister’s emotions right now. For your first pregnancy, you did not have to share the spotlight with anyone else. She has struggled to get pregnant, and when she finally did, will not be afforded the same attention. That being said, her reaction is coming from a place of hurt and is unwarranted. You are both adults with your own families and when you choose to have children should not revolve around her pregnancies. I empathize with her, but you are just as deserving of celebration for your child, regardless of it being your second. You didn’t even know she was pregnant. She has every right to feel the way she does, but it doesn’t justify her actions towards you or anyone else. Feelings are valid, actions are not.
NTA, how you could possibly be TA is beyond me.
Sister announced her pregnancy three weeks ago in front of everyone. It was tough for them etc etc, but she had her moment in the spotlight.
You didn’t go seeking out to announce your second in front of everyone, the host noticed and asked you outright, to which you confirmed and they find you to announce it at the more recent gathering.
Cool no issues here.
Then when you do everyone is cool bar your sister throwing a paddy. Trying to steal her thunder? What, is nobody else in the family allowed to get pregnant until she’s given birth or something? Even then, is there an period with the newborn where nobody is allowed to get pregnant? You know what I mean, your sister is being ridiculous to think she’s the only one allowed to be pregnant in perpetuity.
Definitely NTA. People do not “own” events, especially pregnancies. And it’s selfish to expect the world to stop with their own celebrations that overlap.
How narcissistic does one have to be to get mad over someone else being pregnant and “stealing the spotlight”?🙄 I will never understand this.
NTA. I don’t understand what you did was wrong? You let her have her moment at the first family gathering as you graciously told her you would not say anything, which you did not, But big surprise-it came out 2 weeks when someone else noticed, as most people do when a woman becomes pregnant. They generally can tell by the fourth or fifth month.
It honestly sounds like sis is projecting her jealousy onto you. I mean, many more months were you supposed to (literally) hold it in without announcing it, while she retained the glory of being the only pregnant person? She had two weeks of no one else knowing you were pregnant, what else does the woman want??
You dared to get pregnant at the same time she was, heaven forbid! If anything, one might have thought this would make you closer since you’re both pregnant at the same time.
Good luck, OP. Please update.
It’s more alarming that she is more concerned about getting attention than celebrating that you’re about to birth cousins that will be the same age. NTA
NTA. Apologize for your part in the fight after. This could have been a super fun experience for you both to share. It sounds like she needs some counselling to cope with her challenges conceiving.
NTA
The purpose of pregnancy is to have a child, not to get attention
You can’t hide your pregnancy and you can’t hide that you are happy. You are NTA. Your sister might be sensitive but she herself is not a child. while her pregnancy is a source of joy; other people have beautiful things happening to them too. There’s so much negativity around so tell your sister there’s plenty of love to go around. She is a bit cringe – cut her slack but don’t let her squelch your joy.
NTA
She’s 26wks and you’re 18wks. I get her wanting to wait but you’re already in the clear and pretty obvious soon too.
HOWEVER- info required – was she like this before pregnancy? Because there’s a good chance there’s some perinatal anxiety going on and she may need help navigating through it. For her sake and her baby.
And with a five year age gap, you’re starting from scratch again, I reckon that’s a pretty decent gap and to be honest, every bub is worth celebrating. It’s not like you had a full on baby shower. It was an announcement amongst friends and family.
So ridiculous. My first and my SIL’s 3rd are 2.5 weeks apart. She announced shortly after us. We were thrilled for them. My MIL tried to stir up drama by asking me if I was upset she was pregnant at the same time. 🙄
NTA
Second pregnancy at 18 weeks, its bound to start being obvious. You did not announce it at the same time as her, but waited until the next gathering. I think you did what you could.
Another day, another post about how someone’s infertility struggles are supposed to be the center of everyone’s universe. NTA.
NTA – it’s a pregnancy, not the Oscars, there’s plenty of love and congratulations to go around.
NTA. The only thing I’d say you could have done differently is give her a heads up before announcing at the party but even still you’re not wrong.
NTA you literally did everything right! Hoping it’s just the pregnancy hormones hitting her badly and she’s not actually like this because phew good luck to her baby if that’s how she normally acts.
Nta. Tread carefully. Unless this was a one off- hormone fueled reaction, she’s probably going to compare your kids for years. Also read around about all the baby name nightmare situations.
NTA. My little sister and I were pregnant at the same time. My nephew is 5 days older than my son. We really bonded during that time. We ate together, spoke about our symptoms together, everything. Not to mention that our older sister has 2 kids and they’re both older and born in March. Mine and my little sisters boys are also born in March. No one got mad. We all got excited and supported each other.
NTA.
Sounds like she is projecting so much of her own stuff onto you. The mental gymnastics she’s had to do.. You would have needed to know she was pregnant the minute she conceived and then furiously plan out also becoming pregnant on your next ovulation and actually conceive. Which, if you have magical powers maybe that’s possible LOL
The only thing you possibly could have done differently was given her a heads up you were pregnant, but given her reaction it probably was a good idea you didn’t. She might have ended up telling others herself out of spite and hurt.
I get that she’s displacing on to you all her struggles about pregnancy not working according to her dreams. She’s wrong, but that’s what she’s doing. NTA
NTA and this whole situation is crazy. You are both pregnant so both get to announce and be congratulated. How can one person “steal the spotlight” or be called “selfish” when both did the same thing at different events? It makes no sense. It’s not a competition.
NTA – besides you both being pregnant, I would be ecstatic if my sibling or someone close to me was also pregnant simply for the fact that our kiddos get to grow up together.
Updateme
You probably don’t know this, but this is your sister’s year. You should have waited until 2026 before announcing your pregnancy so as not to steal her thunder
You did abs nothing g working.
Congrats! 🤱
NTA- this what the world is coming to. Sisters jealous over each other is really sickening. I’m happy for your sister that she’s finally going to be a mother but her attitude she showing us her child is going to be raised it’s all about me because she has the same attitude.
You were kind and gave her the spotlight at the party and didn’t say anything. Now she mad and called you names because she expects no one to get pregnant when she is.
You would think she would be happy and excited thinking the cousins will be close since they will be months apart.
Baby Wars! After the babies are born, they are only going to be two months apart. You are going to have to make peace with your sister because she will forever be accusing you of one upping her and taking attention away from her.
A person has to be pretty miserly to believe other people’s joy diminishes their own.
If your sister isn’t normally this cracra, I’d give her the benefit of the doubt that it’s anxiety over the baby and hormones. I’d apologize for calling her names and say you’re very happy that her pregnancy is going well. And leave it there. Don’t expect an apology and move on as if it’s behind you both.
If she’s always main character energy, just accept that this is the way it’s going to be, seek time with people that will celebrate your baby, especially if your sister isn’t there. Apologize for calling her names and move on.
Congrats on baby #2.
NTA Based on the title, I thought you had announced it at the same event. You waited to tell people so you gave her more than enough time to have the spotlight. I think she’s just upset that it’s not 100% about her at this point.
With my first pregnancy, both my brother’s wives were pregnant. With my last, my niece and my hubby’s brother’s wife were pregnant at the same time. We were all thrilled. And I had a super hard time getting pregnant and lost one before my last. Never once did it cross my mind to resent their pregnancies. You’re NTA, she is.
NTA however it would have been nice of you to give her a heads up in advance.
Her trauma from struggling to conceive isn’t going to disappear just because she is now pregnant, and having been there, pregnancy announcements are rough. I’m not expecting anyone to hide their pregnancies but a private heads up is always appreciated.
I especially struggle with people who got pregnant accidentally or easily.
I don’t think her reaction was even necessarily malicious or anything at all to do with the way you announced yours (which was totally fine). Just general trauma/bitterness because like I said, pregnancy announcements are rough. Pregnancy announcements that blindside you are next level rough.
She’s not in the right here, but I’m not going to label someone recovering from trauma as an asshole either.
Fertility is hard.
NTA, but I do think you should have informed you that she was pregnant that you were also pregnant. From your post, it seems you hadn’t (so if I misunderstood, that’s on me).
I think she will be fine in a few days, but I think this is more about being caught off guard and assuming now it was finally her time vs sharing this with you. (At least, I hope). I don’t think you hurt her. I think life hurt her, and double that if the thing she’s wanted for a while comes easily for you.
NTA – I don’t get why she got upset? It wasn’t her spotlight to begin with? Like is she the only one that’s allowed to pregnant? Is this a one person at a time thing?
NTA. So no one was supposed to get pregnant while she was pregnant. I hope it’s just hormones. Is she normally like this or is it one off?
NTA
Calling you egocentric is exceptionally ironic when the only reason she’s mad is because she can’t get all the attention anymore
NTA
Though you do need to sit down with her probably with someone to play mediator.
If you don’t deal with this now it’s probably going to get worse. If it festers too much or is allowed to build there is no telling where her feeling that your baby is stealing her babies thunder will go. What happens if your baby happens to say their first word first? Is really truly excited by a present they got at grandparents at christmas but opened theirs after her kid so she feels like the attention was stolen? Would given how close your kids will be in age, every birthday party you throw because your kid was born second, have to be not ‘better’ then her kid’s or you’re one upping her?
NTA She announced it 3 weeks ago you didn’t announce it “right after” that was almost a month ago.
Nta. I don’t understand people that treat pregnancy as an attention seeking thing lol. Like I get it, it’s exciting to welcome a new baby, and the family is excited of course. But do you need to be the only one that’s pregnant the rest of your pregnancy and do you need everyone to put you as the center of attention throughout the entire duration and have the world revolve around you?!? Of course not. It’s not a “look at me… pay attention to me!!” thing. It’s about bringing a new baby to the family. And I’m sorry she is not treating it as such because that really sucks. Here’s an opportunity to be so excited for eachother because you’ll be basically having your babies together and they could be such close cousins, but she’s too worried about her spotlight to see that.
NTA.
I see a lot of this on reddit and I’ve never seen anything like this IRL, do people really get their knickers in a twist about when someone announces a pregnancy? I usually hear about someone’s pregnancy because they’ll make a phone call and the news will just spread through the family. I’ve only been at a couple of family events where it was formally announced and those were holiday gatherings where everyone was together anyway. I feel like I’ve only seen that twice in my life. People are getting married and having babies all the time. How long is someone supposed to wait to reveal that they’re going to have a baby or have gotten engaged or something like that??
what would the appropriate time for You to wait with your announcement after hers? Would she prefer that people start to ask instead?
NTA You deserve a pregnancy announcement as much as she does.
You intentionally waited to announce your own pregnancy to allow your sister to do it instead. You went out of your way to allow your sister to have her day, and you kindly waited for another… you’ve answered your own question, I’d tell her that
> I can see why she would think I did it to hurt her
Are you seriously telling us you can see why she’d think you’re announcing your pregnancy to hurt her??
NTA I think it was very generous of you to wait and announce yours later.
You and your baby deserve to be celebrated as much as hers. She should be happy her child will have a cousin so close in age to be friends with.
NTA but your sister is the AH
Did she seriously expect you to stop yourself from getting pregnant whilst she was trying to? Is she pregnant because she actually wants a baby or just because it gets her some attention for a few months?
Plus she doesn’t really seem that happy that she’ll be getting another niece or nephew in the future does she?
This probably is about more than the announcements from her, kinda seems like this was her tipping point for small grievances that have festered perhaps?
Updateme
NTA.
I don’t understand why some people with fertility issues think that when they finally get pregnant everyone has to put them in the forefront of their minds until the baby is born… like that is NOT a realistic expectation of anyone.
You’re allowed to live your life and announce your life news whenever tf you want. Just because she’s also dealing with a big life experience rn you do not have to put your life on the back burner for her. Sister or not that’s bs.
NTA, that said, if you and your sister had a good relationship before this then I would suggest you facilitate repairing the bridge. Hormones with the added fears may be influencing your sister’s bad behavior and your sister is probably freaking out over everything. She has real fears and concerns about her pregnancy not going to term; she needs you. Try to focus on the positives; you will be going through this together, she is not alone, you could help her with first time mom things due to your previous experience with pregnancy, and your babies will have built in friends due to their close age. Now, if this is typical of her, focus on yourself but be willing to talk if she calms down. Good luck.
A normal reaction would have been that she was excited that your kids would be so close in age and how fun it will be raising them!
And then planning to do all kinds of fun activities together!
NTA
But WOW! Your sister sure is!
Has she been in a competition with you your entire life?
Has she always been this jealous of you?
If this is something new with her behavior, then maybe sit down just the 2 of you and talk.
But if this has been a lifetime of her exhibiting toxic behavior, and you constantly have to tiptoe around so you don’t set her off and you have to always apologize constantly for her “perceived injustices”, then it might be time to distance yourself from her.
Congratulations and enjoy your 2nd pregnancy!
I think the best course of action would have been when she told you she was pregnant to be shocked and say “oh shit I came to tell you that I was pregnant! Omg we can be pregnant together yay celebration happy!!!” (Or whatever it is you do. I think reproduction in 2025 is morally wrong, but you do you.) that way if it came out she already knew and you wouldn’t have had to worry quite so much about this scenario
NTA. You were going to show pretty soon, and just because she is trying for a baby does not mean nobody else can‘t as well. Name-calling is not cool, though.
NTA I can understand that if she has had conceiving that she would want her pregnancy to be celebrated, you announcing your pregnancy does not make hers any less important or special. She may have a lot of anxiety about her pregnancy and it coming to term and as you have already successfully had a pregnancy, this may have triggered her.
This does not mean that she can dictate your joy / excitement over your own pregnancy. This does not mean that she is allowed to measure other people’s joy / excitement over your pregnancy.
If you want to mitigate some of the irrational thoughts that she’s having, maybe reach out explain the situation that you knew that you were pregnant prior to her initial announcement but didn’t want to still have thunder and that you are overjoyed that she is pregnant and the cousins will be growing up close in age. Also assert that you are allowed to be excited about your own pregnancy and that does not take away the joy you feel for hers.
If she is 36 weeks it should be a bit obvious by now!!
NTA… How you stole the spotlight when it was in a different time and place and also, dont matter if is second child, deserves the same as a first, she is the AH.
With second pregnancies it’s super common to start showing significantly earlier. I started showing at 9weeks with my second and was obviously pregnant looking at 14weeks where strangers would comment with confidence. I’d be shocked if the decision wasn’t taken out of your hand at the second party at 17 weeks by other people asking you regardless of you announcing it yourself.
Every baby – whether it’s the first or fifth, deserves to be celebrated by the family it will become part of.
Your sister wants the spotlight and instead of being happy her baby will have a cousin to play with, she focuses on her own self.
You couldn’t and shouldn’t have had to avoid telling people you are pregnant.
NTA
NTA. It could be she’s comparing the two announcements. Where it sounds like one was at a standard family gathering and another at a family garden party. It might be the optics of the scenery and everything. Not that you could control that or anything. Just my $.02.
NTA It’s is hard to have compassion for people who as insecure and attention starved as your sister but you will have to try. Her behavior toward you is harsh and completely illogical. She is the one who owes an apology but she won’t be able to see that so if you can just ignore her until she calms down that would probably be best.
NTA
Pregnancy hormones sucks!
She called you an egocentric bitch?
Maybe you should tell her she didn’t use the correct insult.
NTA really hate the idea about stealing thunder… in my family we have multiple sets of cousins who were born on the same year etc… and all of them became like their own little groups and would run off and play together.. I didn’t get that… my cousin who was a month younger passed away while she was a toddler.. but my siblings had their own niche. For a couple of years we had multiples graduating at the same time so the parties were in grand.. your sister should be happy that you’re both experiencing your pregnancies together.. you could share advice etc. I did that with my eldest cousin who’s 3 yrs older than me.. now her daughter and my son are the best friends when we get together. But I know I can come to my cousin for advice when things go wrong since this is my first one and this her third one
Given she has had trouble conceiving and she thought finally it was her turn I do think a little heads up from you wouldn’t have gone amiss. However you are absolutely not the asshole
No, the rest of you do NOT need to put your lives on hold for your sister. Instead, you and she should be excited and looking forward to having cousins born so close together.
updateme
NTA You two are living the dream for many; yet, she’s upset?! My sister is pregnant, and I think it would be super neat if we had a baby at the same time so the cousins could grow up close like we are. My cousin and I are 3 months apart, and we were besties growing up and beyond. Your sister is in her feels. I don’t know. She still needs to snap out of it.
NTA, but she’s all up in her feelings and general freakout about her long-awaited pregnancy, so unless you want to go NC with her, I’d make peace and talk about how thrilled you are that the cousins will be growing up together, how you’re so excited for her, etc. You’re totally in the right, but sometimes you have to decide if you want to hold on to that or if if you can move past it for longer term benefits.
That said, if she’s always a pain and this is not a function of a highly emotional time for her, feel free to cut her off. You are NTA, but sometimes we have to suck it up even when it’s infuriating.
NTA. Your sister is the one that is egocentric!
NTA. You don’t have children so you get attention. A second child is not a lump of nothingness… it is a LIFE. It is no less important than the 1st born. Tell your sister to do something worthy of attention, if that’s what she wants
I don’t understand people like this. When I was pregnant with my first, two of my sisters AND two of my sister-in-laws were also pregnant. We were all excited for each other and loved going through it together. Fast forward a decade and my little sisters (twins) were pregnant and due 4 days apart (one with her 3rd and one with her first). They announced a few days apart but were so excited for each other and their little babies are going to grow up being bestie.