Hi,
I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for two and a half years. Like any couple, we’ve had our ups and downs, but things have generally been good. Our relationship is somewhat long-distance due to cultural and traditional reasons—we live in different cities, though not far apart.
She used to share everything with me: stories from work, her colleagues, daily events, even the small jokes. It made me feel connected despite the distance.
Two months ago, her workplace hired a new head manager. As usual, she shared stories involving him, and from what I could gather, he seemed like a typical smooth-talker—overly nice in a way that didn’t feel genuine. Over time, their interactions became the centerpiece of her stories. Their jokes and conversations became more personal—not sexual, but intimate enough to make me uncomfortable.
I eventually told her that I didn’t like how close they had become and that there should be boundaries in workplace relationships. She responded by saying I needed to accept that he’s part of her work life. I insisted that professionalism still requires limits.
About a week ago, she was fired from her job. She became withdrawn, stopped answering my calls, and only responded through text. I offered to visit her and take her out to help her feel better—not for my sake, but hers. She refused, saying she was too depressed.
I kept trying for four days, but she wouldn’t agree to see me. Then, she casually told me she was going out with her colleagues—including that same manager—because he was traveling soon and “they” wanted to see him off. That hit me hard.
When I expressed my disappointment, she said they pressured her into going. I pointed out that I had been trying to convince her to go out too, and she didn’t accept and I told her that I always put you first. Her response was that I was accusing her of not prioritizing me.
Since then, I’ve been communicating with her less. I’m confused and hurt, and I honestly don’t know what to do next.
I want to know how should I react now and what I should do?
TL;DR: My girlfriend recently prefers the company of her colleagues and manager than going out with me.
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It doesnt sound like she wants to be your girlfriend anymore 🙁
ok… reading this objectively, she had an affair with her manager, got fired, and is really really depressed and beating herself up over it. her work friends and AP are getting her to go out because this is the validation she needs for her return to normalcy.
what’s her story for why she got fired? or she just ghosted you on that?