To be clear: ghosting is when someone suddenly doesn’t respond to you anymore and cut off all contact with no direct explanation. It doesn’t count as ghosting if they stated that they’re not feeling it or need space, nor does a slow fade count. This is when things are suddenly unresponsive out of nowhere. Also, this is for already established relationships, not just people you barely know.
Of course ghosting isn’t illegal and it’s up to the person why they do it. For whatever reason, I feel these days, it’s happening more often than ever (yes natural reasons like apps, phones, etc.)
It isn’t direct abuse, but being on the other end can feel like it is, and I think it’s a new “risk” we grew up just getting it naturally through life and not really knowing how to heal..just move on. We feel blindsided because we don’t think it’s normal as we never really learned of it or were warned.
Especially if the relationships were close and personal. Telling them about it can lessen the “Where did they suddenly go?”
We teach kids about all kinds of dangers…and while ghosting isn’t as high up there, I think talking to them about it can make them feel less blindsided. Maybe saying it isn’t right, but it will happen a lot in your life and you have to just accept and move on.
Also, maybe teaching them not to do it can be helpful too. Like if you’re not feeling a relationship, job, friendship, even just texting a line that you’re out is decency..and if the other party keeps talking you, but you don’t want to, you don’t rly have to anymore cus you gave a reason. This opinion might be a stretch but my parents always told me to tell the other person I’m cancelling or out even when I REALLY didn’t want to as a kid and wanted them to do it for me.
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Dude “ghosting” was a thing even before phones. Remember when you’d meet a kid on a playground and he’d say “see you tmr” and you just never saw him again?
Personally I’m not opposed to it. It sends a clear message without room for rebuttals
I think just teaching kids how to handle rejection is a good way to go about it. Whether it’s not getting a toy, Asking someone out, or getting ghosted, being able to deal with rejection properly is a great skill to have. It’s a part of just baseline emotional intelligence.
Fun fact, our tech class in college states it is safer to ghost someone, as many people don’t follow proper netiquette and what you say or do can be alternated and go against you.
While ghosting is inherently a shitty thing to do, as it’s almost someone is ignoring you in your face, if someone is making you uncomfortable it is completely understandable.
They also teach proper communicated too. If it is a job or whatever it maybe in that circumstance, if you tell them and they keep persisting it is classified as stalking.
You teach a child how to dealnwith rejection/not getting what they want, etc.
But this is just something teenagers can figure out themselves like everyone else. It’s life. It’s growing up. If you do a good job raising your kids, hopefully, if or when they get ghosted they’ll come talk to you about it.
Too many things these days do people want to teach kids about when life is about growing and learning some things by yourself.