As per title, I (26F) have been dating a (33M) for 2 months and he lives 2 hrs away. We have met 3 times before and usually try to meet every other weekend. However, he has canceled last moment or flat out bailed on me for his friends
First time we had a trip planned and he cancelled last minute saying his friend who had been staying over needed his car since he was visiting. Mind you, his friend was there for days already so idk why he agreed in the first place just to tell me the day before
2nd instance: he overslept after being out with his friends till 3am. He told me hed start at 9am but at 1pm he wasnt awake or responding so i just blocked him as it felt like he stood me up
Yesterday he was supposed to come to me after work at 3:30. He made this plan for weeks that he wanted to come visit me before my graduation. I see at 6pm he hadnt left his house and he kept saying he was going to start soon then last minute he said he had ‘’emergency’’ that his friend was going abroad for 2 months and that he had to stay with him that night.
He said hed come the next morning but im just so sick of getting bailed on that i dont wanna wait anymore. I feel i couldnt ever fully trust him for these reasons and havent responded to him at all just cuz im so upset and thinking about calling it quits for good. Is this the right course of action??
Should be noted: these were all pre-planned days or weeks in advance
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Um, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but these are all just lame excuses to not see you. He’s just waiting for you to break up with him because he’s too much of a wuss to have the conversation himself.
Are we sure he’s actually interested in you? I’d say move on and find someone else who actually wants to see you. Sorry op.
He’s dating other women (‘friends’) and you aren’t his top priority. He’s stringing you along in case the other options don’t work out.
Sounds like he has another relationship. Or better to say, you are another relationship, obviously you are not his priority.
It’s either that, or he’s incredibly immature for his age, and uncapable to have a serious relationship.
Either way, leave.