So I 21F work at a gas station close to the high school I went to. A lot of students come to buy snacks during lunch and after school, most of them are pretty annoying, loud, rowdy, messy, and rude. One of them is super respectful and well behaved, he (18M) often asks about my day and makes chit chat with me. He came across my insta and told me it came up in his suggested, which I believe because we have a lot of mutual connections on it since I went to the same school he does. He’s made it very clear he’s interested in me, but I told him I might be a little too old for him. He argues back that he’s an adult too who can make his own decisions. I guess the biggest odd thing for me is that he’s still in high school, graduating in less than a month. But I’m still on the fence because my last relationship we started dating when I was 19 and my ex was 22, so same age gap. This guy from the school is actually very nice, he’s pretty funny when we chat at my work and I’m not even sure if this is weird to say but he’s good looking. I told him maybe come back when HES 19 and i might feel different about things. BUT I DONT KNOW I DONT WANT TO BE A WEIRDO. Help 🥲
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You’re both adults and it’s a 3 year age difference. This isn’t weirdo territory. If you were 31 this would be different.
Never hurts to try!!
no it’s not. you’re both adults. there’s a lot of people that have been in this same age range relationship at your age.
I was 18 and dating a 22 year old girl. It wasn’t weird. If you’re that worried about it, just date him after he gets out of school. It’s not that long.
3 years isn’t really that bad. It’s my gap with my bf right now (he recently turned 22 and I’ll be 25 in a few months). Technically he is legally an adult. I understand what you’re saying tho lol. Personally, I would maybe just wait until he’s out of high school at minimum, bc who wants to pick up their bf from HS ☠️. I don’t think the gap itself is that strange tho. If you were like 25+ then it would be weird haha
This is so inappropriate. If this was the other way around , everyone would call the guy a creep and say “if he could go younger , he would”
Women mature faster than men, I don’t think you would want an 18 year old boy. This even sounds weird too