if you don’t, things are gonna get messier in the future when she gets a bf, when she talks about her love interests, etc. You will be crushed everytime she talks about those. Not a good way to live life
if you do, if she says no, at least you have your answer and you can move on. You can try to repair the awkwardness and still be friends. Or you can skip wasting time and chase another girl. If she says yes, congrats!!
You may as well tell her. If you don’t or you do and she says she don’t like you back or if she does and you end up dating. The friendship will eventually end and it will feel like a break.
The only way thos break up doesn’t happen is if you tell her , she reciprocates and you end up getting married and you die before she does.
Any other course of action will lead to an eventuall ending that will have the same emotionsal impact as a romantic relationship ending
I told my best friend, i said I really like you and spending time with you. I would like to maybe go on a date to see if it would work out. I really enjoy seeing you laugh and smile , i’d like to be around you more often to see you happy and maybe be able to contribute to that happiness. Once i realized how much time i wanted to spend with them, thats when i knew i had to tell them.
They told me they needed time to think but they did like me a lot and were happy I expressed an interest in them , i said thats alright! I just like spending time with you the most, however that looks
We stayed friends for a few months, we visited a few trade shows together, i took them to cedar point for their birthday. We had a lot of tension by then and a month later they texted me back to pursue something more.
Ultimately, dating is just being given the privilege to spend more time around someone and contribute to positively impacting their life. IMO
Its not weird or rude, just be gracious if rejected. Its important she realizes that you are doing this purely bc you enjoy their presence and even if dating wasnt an option you care more about their happiness than the status of your relationship.
The possibility of rejection;;
Ultimately I wasn’t invested in the romance part as much as the “this person is INCREDIBLE to spend time with I wish I could be with them everyday”, so i didn’t delve too deep into what could be and left it ambiguous for myself and them to see what it grew into. I started exploring more romantic feelings i had for them after they confirmed they were interested in my advances.
Its the practice of non-attachment. I did like him but i also was aware it might not work out. So I didnt treat it like something I wanted to have, i treated it like something that would make me happy to experience so if it didnt work out I could still enjoy his joy no matter what he ended up doing.
[We have been dating for 8 yrs now, he was persistently generous, kind. He cared about my safety, dignity, and autonomy as a person. That’s invaluable in a partner]
Extras:::
one thing he did that caught my attention early was offer ways to help independently. The first time we met happened bc he heard i broke my friends phone and bc he was in repair he offered to come fix it. So we hung out while he granted me this kindness and then by the end of the summer I was enamoured. I came onto him bc I thoroughly enjoyed his presence and he was a safe person who wanted to bring kindness forward to others
if your reasons is that shes hot and cute you’re not in love with her. you’re just horny. first, go hook up with somebody else then see if you feel the same way so you dont make yourself look stupid and ruin a good friendship.
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No way out, just confess.
if you don’t, things are gonna get messier in the future when she gets a bf, when she talks about her love interests, etc. You will be crushed everytime she talks about those. Not a good way to live life
if you do, if she says no, at least you have your answer and you can move on. You can try to repair the awkwardness and still be friends. Or you can skip wasting time and chase another girl. If she says yes, congrats!!
Confess and deal with the aftermath. Thats just how it is. But be very thoughtful about what you say cuz it’s a one shot thing
You may as well tell her. If you don’t or you do and she says she don’t like you back or if she does and you end up dating. The friendship will eventually end and it will feel like a break.
The only way thos break up doesn’t happen is if you tell her , she reciprocates and you end up getting married and you die before she does.
Any other course of action will lead to an eventuall ending that will have the same emotionsal impact as a romantic relationship ending
Tell her, but please be respectful if she says no thank you and wants to stay friends.
Tell her, her reaction may surprise you.
Be confident in your feelings but don’t assume hers when you tell her. Also don’t be upset if she doesn’t reciprocate
I told my best friend, i said I really like you and spending time with you. I would like to maybe go on a date to see if it would work out. I really enjoy seeing you laugh and smile , i’d like to be around you more often to see you happy and maybe be able to contribute to that happiness. Once i realized how much time i wanted to spend with them, thats when i knew i had to tell them.
They told me they needed time to think but they did like me a lot and were happy I expressed an interest in them , i said thats alright! I just like spending time with you the most, however that looks
We stayed friends for a few months, we visited a few trade shows together, i took them to cedar point for their birthday. We had a lot of tension by then and a month later they texted me back to pursue something more.
Ultimately, dating is just being given the privilege to spend more time around someone and contribute to positively impacting their life. IMO
Its not weird or rude, just be gracious if rejected. Its important she realizes that you are doing this purely bc you enjoy their presence and even if dating wasnt an option you care more about their happiness than the status of your relationship.
The possibility of rejection;;
Ultimately I wasn’t invested in the romance part as much as the “this person is INCREDIBLE to spend time with I wish I could be with them everyday”, so i didn’t delve too deep into what could be and left it ambiguous for myself and them to see what it grew into. I started exploring more romantic feelings i had for them after they confirmed they were interested in my advances.
Its the practice of non-attachment. I did like him but i also was aware it might not work out. So I didnt treat it like something I wanted to have, i treated it like something that would make me happy to experience so if it didnt work out I could still enjoy his joy no matter what he ended up doing.
[We have been dating for 8 yrs now, he was persistently generous, kind. He cared about my safety, dignity, and autonomy as a person. That’s invaluable in a partner]
Extras:::
one thing he did that caught my attention early was offer ways to help independently. The first time we met happened bc he heard i broke my friends phone and bc he was in repair he offered to come fix it. So we hung out while he granted me this kindness and then by the end of the summer I was enamoured. I came onto him bc I thoroughly enjoyed his presence and he was a safe person who wanted to bring kindness forward to others
“Confess” is such a dumb word and it makes it sound like you’ve done something horrible.
Ask her out on a date. And be clear that it’s a date
if your reasons is that shes hot and cute you’re not in love with her. you’re just horny. first, go hook up with somebody else then see if you feel the same way so you dont make yourself look stupid and ruin a good friendship.
Don’t mistake physical attraction with emotional attraction.
The worst they can say is I don’t see you in that way