Me 28m put my gf 28f phone on charge and I saw a message from a girl called Hannah say ( how is everyone xx ) so I just asked my girlfriend who’s Hannah? She’s never mentioned her before at all not even anyone close to this name it wasn’t meant to be me interrogating her it was literally just a question
And she went off and one told me it wasn’t a message and I didn’t see it when I clearly did and now she stormed off with the phone shouting at me saying how she wants to break up with me and she hates me all because I asked who’s Hannah
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While I would have easily assumed Hannah was a bot, your girlfriend’s reaction has created more questions than answers. Anything I can give would be just speculation.
Very strange behavior. Especially for a 28 year old.
A person who has nothing to hide would not react defensively to a simple question.
Only recently did my husband ask the same question about a random Instagram notification that popped up while he was using my phone, and saying “This is X girl I chat with sometimes about X thing” took about three minutes of my day.
He had exactly zero follow up questions.
Had he asked me to see the conversation, I would have had zero reason not to show it. It would’ve taken a further four minutes of my day at the most.
There’s privacy, which we are all entitled to, and there’s concealment. This sounds like the latter.
That said, there is also being controlling. As someone that has dated a person that insisted to see every single message I send in the space of a day, that’s not okay either.
Break up with her and let her her figure herself out
I have a feeling Hannah is not just simply a girl, probably might also not just be a friend..
But hard to say without more info, I don’t like to assume too much
We’re missing some info here, could be from her, could be from you. Do you have a history of being overly nosey and controlling about who and how your GF interacts with others? Are you a surveillance BF? Or is she a sneaky GF?
Could have been a pop up from the twitter thing Instagram has (forgot the name). I get those all the time and not from people I follow
Maybe she’s using a girls name Hannah when it’s really like “Hunter” texting her?
She’s cheating man. Let her break up with you
Yeah, her reaction is volatile and definitely indicatory of infidelity, maybe not adulterous, but some infidelity somewhere. I would honestly not press her about it. If you value the relationship literally let her break up with you and don’t say a word Im 90% sure she will come crawling back and the behavior will either persist (most likely) or she could correct the behavior. Either way this type of behavior is usually shown by narcissists. I would suggest running if I were in your shoes lol. Also she could have nicknamed this person Hannah and it could be a whole ass dude. I would suggest getting rid of social media, grounding your self in reality and eventually finding someone like minded. I recently got rid of everything social media wise besides this app and I feel way happier than I was being controlled by agendas and trends forced upon us by social media and propaganda. Idk just a suggestion much love and I hope you figure this out buddy!
Well … did you actually see it was an authentic message and no scam mail or scam push notification … there is a lot shit online and when you are registered with porn pages or stuff you can get those pseudo texts … Hi ‘your name’ wanna come over and f*. Difficult to explain. How did you ask her? The response was kind of … very extreme! Hates you … break up … did you ask rude or add something you forgot to mention here? Let her calm down and ask her to talk. Then talk … no other option. She might have assumed you are going through her phone, spying on her, not trusting her, interrogating her. Asked many ex’es who is xy … a message just popped up. Or … taking the bins out a message dropped from the paper bin … Roger Friday 2pm address … I had to ask what Roger she plans to meet on Friday … she burst out in laughter … it was Dr Roger her gynaecologist … 😳 … yeah … I remember she mentioned the appointment with her doc. She kept winding me up with this for years … or when too slow … where have you been checking the bin again 😳😳 … means … your girl took it pretty serious … like you asked her ‘who are you cheating with b**’ …
She just called herself out with that reaction. Definitely sus and I would look into it. Updateme
Hannah is a name to throw you off so you won’t know it’s a man.You caught her off guard, and she couldn’t lie fast enough and lost her shit.
Yeah. Definitely hiding something.
Hannah is actually a dude?
Interesting. It could have been a bot and she’s getting annoyed with you by you not letting it go. There’s not enough information here to know who is the issue honestly. Go down her following list and see who Hannah is. If she’s there then not a bot