I’m a 30F in a loving relationship with my boyfriend of 3 years. He is my first real sexual partner. We’re having trouble with PIV intercourse, where his penis can’t enter my vagina (penis feels too big). He thinks my vagina might be too tight, because while he’s able to insert one finger while fingering me, he can’t put two.
We both have limited sexual experience, me moreso than him, but we do want to have and enjoy sex with each other. I don’t have any known medical problems, maybe a retroverted uterus.
Has anyone else has this issue before, or does anyone have advice?
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You probably need to be relaxing your pelvic floor muscles more. They can hold a lot of tension. Seeing a pelvic floor physiotherapist helped me soooo much with this. (Also, lube if you’re not already using it!)
Look up vaginismus and hypertonic pelvic floor, and please seek a pelvic floor physical therapist. In the meantime don’t try to have penetrative sex and focus on other things, don’t try fingering with two fingers either if it hurts. Painful sex can often be cured in a few months with physical therapy! r/vaginismus is helpful and supportive
Are you on birth control? You might make sure it’s not atrophy due to BC.
My sister had a similar issue in her 20s where penetration was difficult and things felt “ tighter and more shallow” than they should. It resolved after she came off the BC and used a prescription cream for a while.
Have you been checked by an OBGYN?
You should see a gynecologist to address this. The problem could be mental, vaginal, hymen, or pelvic floor related
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