MIL Visit, Not My Problem

My MIL is the fake type of woman she’ll smile to my face while being passive aggressive at the same time. She sneak disses me and gossips about me a lot to others. She’s done things during very vulnerable times in my life that I haven’t forgiven her for.

She lives in another state, and the last time she came to visit, I was extremely kind to her despite her fakeness. I was a great host I honestly gave her a five star hotel experience. Even she couldn’t stop talking about it. But once she went back to her state, she started her drama. I was shocked that a grown woman could behave like a high school girl with all the gossip and unnecessary drama.

I’m a grown woman I’m not about that life, so I cut her off. I told my husband he could continue his relationship with her, but I don’t want to be involved. She’s not the kind of woman I want to be close with.

Normally, I’m a forgiving person, but the way she treated me while I was going through a miscarriage affected me so deeply that I still haven’t been able to forgive her. Maybe one day I will, but right now, I’m still struggling. I guess it’s true what they say a woman never forgets how she was treated during pregnancy. I wasn’t treated well by my MIL and the saddest part is that the pregnancy ended in a miscarriage.

Now I hold resentment toward her. It’s been a year since I cut her off, and she’s been looking for a reason to visit. She finally found one her friend’s son is having a graduation party in my state. She told my husband months ago that she planned to come for a few days starting May 17, which is today. When my husband told me, I asked if she was staying at a hotel. He said she was expecting to stay here. I told him I’d be going to my sister’s house when she comes.

So today, as I was packing to leave, I noticed my husband hadn’t done anything to prepare the guest room no clean sheets, nothing stocked, not even water. He spent the day fixing his car. She only eats home cooked food from her culture, and he didn’t prepare any of that either. Normally, I’m the one who handles all of this, but not when I’m being disrespected. So I just left for my sister’s like I didn’t notice anything.

I know my MIL is going to be pissed when she arrives in 2 hours because she’s expecting the queen treatment like last time. But this time, she’s going to learn my husband is just a man 🤷‍♀️. He cares about his cars and tools, not hospitality. I don’t even know what he’s planning to feed her. Last time, I felt like her maid. Maybe this time, she’ll realize you should respect your daughter in law.

I’m relaxing and enjoying my day at my sister’s because it’s not my responsibility to take care of MIL.