My in laws visited baby in the hospital the weekend she was born. I asked my husband for 2 weeks without visits from them so I could feel more grounded emotionally before another visit. So today was the visit and MIL pushed every boundary she could.
Baby was sleeping and she started bouncing the baby on her knee intensely and touching her trying to get her to wake up. Both my husband and I told her to stop and let the baby sleep. She kept on saying “I don’t how to care for a baby. Don’t tell me what to do”. FIL stepped in and said “you need to stop. They’re the parents” and she finally did.
Then she demanded to feed the baby and I said no. She’s only 2 weeks, you’ve held her for half an hour. I need her back to feed her. And she’s like “really? Wow. Ok” and once my husband brought me the baby’s bottle she was like “can I feed her just a little bit?” And I stood firm and said no.
I made sure to take plenty of photos of her and FIL with the baby and I sent them to the group chat immediately so they wouldn’t have an excuse to ask us to take more photos. She treats my baby like a doll. She made the comment “she’s your little doll” and I said “no she’s our miracle. A living breathing miracle. A baby. Not a doll”
Well right as the visit is ending she says she wants photos. And I say no, you already have plenty. My husband decides to be a smartass and says “fine! We will take a few with you, baby, and baby’s mom” The look of annoyance on her face was hilarious. I thought it was over and done with. As they were leaving she asked to hold the baby one last time to say goodbye. And she immediately turned away from me and said “FIL quick take the photo” and then they left.
I hate this woman. So much. I feel so disrespected. I don’t know where to go from here. Do I have a right to be angry about her tricking me into giving her what she wanted?
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She doesn’t get to hold her anymore.
Actions have consequences. She needs some.