I’ve been with my gf for about 8 months now and for like 3 months she’s been so dry and i don’t want to say anything cause i don’t want her to feel bad! but then me not saying anything makes me feel bad! but i guess to spare her feelings ill risk mine! do yall have any advice how to approach this conversation? any advice on how to feel better about it this? literally any advice i’ll take it
edit 1: thank you all for the support but i should mention i mean our conversations are dry
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Simply communicate, efficient communication shouldn’t cause offense to her. Just go about it with the back thought that you dont want to upset her.
A relationship won’t work without communication bro.. Say what you gotta say. If not, what’s the point in being in one?
3 months? You’ve put your own feelings aside for hers for THREE MONTHS. Speak up, have a serious conversation with her. I’ve noticed you’ve been acting like this for a while, it’s been making me feel this way. I was wondering if there was a reason? Is everything okay, have you been having doubts / dealing with something personal?
This is just speculation on my part, but she might want to break up and is being dry on purpose, hoping you’ll be the one to end things so she doesn’t have to. Again, that’s just my take. You’ll really just have to ask her. Say something like “I’ve noticed you’ve been pretty dry recently”
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Like her vagana or what?
Like…her conversation…or her?
It is ok to ask for what you want and what you need.
You know, maybe it’s just time to move on. Some times relationships just run their course ya know. She may agree with you. The spark you had in the beginning just fizzled out somewhere along the line. And it’s doing make either of you bad people. It just means it’s time to take a different path. Maybe you can be friends.
Sounds like she checked out.
When I was younger I dated a guy for 6 months and was too scared to say I love you. I loved him a lot and was terrified of saying or doing the wrong thing. I think I became pretty dry because I wasn’t relaxed around him and I think he became bored by me and ended up breaking up with me. I was devastated. So when I met the love of my life two years later, I wasted no time in telling him I loved him. We only knew each other for a month. We’ve been together for 22 years.
Wait – are you talking about her vagina being dry? Like you need to use lube? Or are you talking about dry conversations?
Coconut oil
When you’re both totally comfortable with running out of stuff to talk about that’s when you see if the relationship is actually serious. Some days my wife and I have no conversations at all except for deciding when to eat meals and what to watch on TV.
Position the conversation caring for her. “Are you comfortable when we are making love?” You could use lube, as well. Though, just be caring towards her, that it’s not about your needs. This way she will not become self conscious.
Ask her about her work or if she wants to go out walking this weekend or a dinner.
By doing these you’ll be alone with her and you guys can talk.
You just gotta communicate bro! I know everyone else is saying the same thing but it really is the key! Be straight up about it but not just super blunt if she’s sensitive you know? You definitely don’t want to put your feelings to the aside about for too long and then mostly likely hit a breaking point
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It sounds like y’all just aren’t compatible