What do I do?? My best friend knows and is trying to help me but I’m scared. My mother told me she hates me and doesn’t care if I die.
My mother is going to kick me out once I graduate.
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What do I do?? My best friend knows and is trying to help me but I’m scared. My mother told me she hates me and doesn’t care if I die.
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guessing your Mexican?
High school? College? Rehab?
I mean, you’re supposed to move out when you graduate.
Plus it doesn’t sound like an environment you’d want to stay in anyway
Dumb.
Best option, go sign up for job corp. ASAP. It will give you a landing spot. Job skills and resources
save money
Join the military. They will give you a place to live and a career.
Get a job. Save. Sell crap you that you aren’t using anymore. Save that money. Try to find someone go be a roommate with. Ask family if you can crash with them until you get though saved. If they say has, work and save.
Trades are in demand rn. The training is much short than college. They will help you with financials.
I moved out 6 days after graduation, age 17, by choice . It was hard at times. But you figure it out as you go along.
Stack as much cash as humanly possible and build your credit score. Make connections with people and friends for help. When the time comes apply for any and all assistance programs. Both local and national. When spending money be extremely frugal and buy lots of canned goods for long term value. Try and get a good job ahead of time. Make sure you have reliable transportation like a car or bike. Do not be fearful or be sad because it’s out of your control. Control what you can control given the situation. Be mentally tough.
Two biggest factors to help you out of this situation at the end of the day though will be
Stacking cash
Making connections with as many people as possible to get help in multiple ways when needed. Places to stay, job offers, etc.
Ask her if you can get a job and pay part of the rent to stay.
Wow, that’s not very nice 😕
First of all, I’m so incredibly sorry. Your Mom is horrific! Get a job asap and check out various websites to see if someone is looking for a roommate.
Look into office jobs where they are looking for a front office person through http://www.indeed.com. Those are great starter jobs and can be really rewarding. Also, check government jobs. Look up your state + jobs. The benefits and career you can have with this type of job is fantastic. You don’t need a degree. Additionally, post office jobs are a great resource too with great benefits too. They are a separate site: https://about.usps.com/careers/ Government jobs, and the post office, can take a while so start applying like crazy.
Talk to your current High School counselor. She might be able to provide you with some temporary housing and possibly job recommendations.
If you are wanting to go to college, speak to a college guidance counselor for advice on housing. Maybe they can help you with something on campus and some scholarships that can pay for it.
If you are not going to college, a lot of off college campuses housing will have roommates where it’s two to a room and you can save some money that way too.
Hope it works out for you.💗
Whatever you do do not join the military. Ill tell you exactly what to do.
Go online and look for Sea Food Professing. I recommend Silver Bay.
They give you free food and housing and a plan ticket to get to Alaska to work.
Work for 2 months. Its going to suck. But you will get 10k
If you have money to do the following SKIP 1-3
Go to coolworks dot com and look for a job with housing. I recommend national parks.
Get a plane ticket and fly out.
Work and save up money until you can afford 4 months rent then look for a normal job in a normal city. Do not get stuck doing seasonal work for longer than you need too or you will be stuck there forever.
After that your on your own feet. Should take about a year of working but after that as long as you saved, didnt drink or do to much weed you should be okay
You have to get away from this person; in a way be thankful that they want you out rather than keep you close and destroy you further, get out and get help for yourself, not for her; it’s all about you now.
This is the greatest time of your life you live here in LA
Start looking for jobs to make more money, see if you can get a place secured if she tries to put u out earlier before graduation .Try friends, family or someone you trust that can allow you to stay at them.
Sorry you’re going through this, your mother hating you, something in her life is eating her up alive. I’m sorry, but get away from her as soon as you can before she takes you down with her.
Join the Air Force! They’ll give you a path and set you up for the future. I joined when I was 19 and did 8 years in. I lived in Texas for four years and Washington state for another four years. During that time I traveled the world and grew as an individual through teamwork. If not for the military I wouldn’t be as comfortable as I am now. Don’t just go to college and rack up student loans the military will pay for your school and give you great work experience. Do yourself a favor if you feel lost. Message me if you have questions.