My girlfriend and I took turns going through each others camera rolls to get insight on our experiences. We went through mine and had a few laughs and some stories told. We start going through her’s from near the top and there’s some photos of her ex.
Personally I delete everything afterwards to move on and feel like not doing so is a little indicative of holding onto the past. I understand our experiences make us who we are but I want to date my girlfriend, not a council of exes or whatever.
Is this normal, and I’m just being jealous? Potential red flag? I stopped the process when I saw that because I rlly don’t wanna see my gf happy with another man.
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It’s normal, you’re being jealous.
Your girlfriend can have good memories from the past, but still want you above all others.
I have photos of my ex in my camera roll. But I can’t say she’s like me. Me personally, I’ve never been a “burn it all” kind of person.
Usually, there’s other content in the photos that I want to keep, and I’d rather have the photo as is rather than crop him out of every single one just in case my partner sees.
But you said the pictures were near the top? As in recent? Idk about that. What kind of photos were they?
Keeping memories has nothing to do with you. She doesn’t need to delete the past because you’re insecure.
I think your answer lies in the “why” behind those photos still being in her camera roll. This may warrant a very transparent and honest conversation between the two of you (if it rlly matters to you that much) to see her reason for still having those photos. Could be sentimental value, clinging to the past, something else entirely, or nothing at all. You won’t know, though, unless you talk to her.
It’s normal. Nothing wrong with holding on to memories or a bit of nostalgia or friendship even.
She wasn’t wrapped in plastic when she met you dude. She had a past. And despite what some people think, you can have had a relationship end and still think of positive memories from it without wanting to go back to that relationship. If she isn’t in contact with them, then no worries. Don’t go digging through if it bothers you but you can’t police her past either.
No, she doesn’t have to erase her past to make you happy. Seriously think about it, she’s with YOU. She’s in a relationship with YOU. She’s there with YOU. She felt comfortable enough to let YOU look through her camera roll. Relax, stop being so insecure and look at the situation for what it is. Leave her be, she’s happy with YOU, not another man.
I’ve always deleted explicit photos immediately, burn that bridge. Other photos, the ones you could show your family, no reason to delete them. It’s OK to remember the good times in your past and still move forward. Don’t ever let your own insecurities haunt you like this. She is with you.
Dump her. She’s obviously cheating and if she hasn’t already she will the first chance she gets. You only keep photos of your ex because you still want them
You should do same thing, and lets see how she feels about it
The ONLY ex I have in my camera roll. Is my sons mom. She’s holding my toddler. Lol. But little man will be 18 at the end of the year
Yes it’s normal. If they’re old why the worry? You’re allowed feel a way in seeing her with someone of her past, that’s valid. But to ask her to do anything with them is a red flag. she doesn’t have to move on in the same way you did.
I’m old school and have been married for a long time, but I have photos of exes in my photo albums. I have some that I cut him out of the photo and then taped him back when I was done being mad, lol. In today’s world, photos are stored digitally. It’s the same thing, but it doesn’t mean anything other than he played a part in her life for a time. Photos are documentaries of our lives. You shouldn’t be worried over her keeping photos as memories.
It’s a matter of choice. It would be a cold day in hell before I’d delete any g-rated photo from my past that I valued, and current partners don’t get a vote, ever. I think deleting your past pictures is bizarre, just as some other people apparently think it’s weird not to. It’s like some sort of self-imposed amnesia to have nothing of your past relationships: that’s my life, experiences, and friends. People can keep memories no matter where life takes them later.
I’ll be honest, I don’t delete or get rid of anything from any of my exes. Not bc I still care for them, but bc I’m very sentimental and still enjoy the memories we made regardless of how things ended