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MIL, FIL and SILs let my toddler sit in a soaked diaper for hours — while fawning over the golden grandchild

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This is the final nail for me.

We’re moving abroad next week (a move my in-laws have barely acknowledged — no goodbye dinner, no real effort with the kids, nothing). Yesterday, my MIL, FIL, SIL (the golden child), and another adult family member “watched” my 2-year-old son Owen for several hours. He’s hard of hearing, super active, and still in diapers.

When he finally came downstairs, his diaper was sagging, soaked, and visibly hanging off of him. His shorts were wet. He had clearly been sitting in it for hours.

FOUR ADULTS were present. No one changed him. No one checked on him. No one noticed or cared. They were all too busy doting on SIL’s son — the obvious favorite grandchild — while mine was ignored. Again.

My husband confronted them. Their excuse? “We were just about to change him.” Sure. After hours. After we walked in. Right.

I’m beyond devastated. Not just angry — heartbroken. Because this wasn’t an accident. It was part of a pattern. These are the same people who:

Dropped everything to care for SIL postpartum, but offered nothing when I was grieving the death of my only living parent while 13 days postpartum myself.

Have consistently ignored birthdays, milestones, and even our upcoming international move.

Only show up for their daughter and her child, and act like ours are invisible.

The truth is: they neglected my son. And I’ll never leave him with them again. Ever.

We’re leaving, and they’re pretending like we’re overreacting — as if we’re the ones creating distance. But I’m done. My silence is over.

Thanks for letting me vent. I needed to say this out loud.

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