i hate being comforted

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i dont know why. i dont want my friends and family to know that im not okay and try to help me feel better. if i’m crying i would genuinely rather have my friends/family go away rather than comforting me and trying to make me feel better

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  2. effortissues Avatar

    Saaammmmeeee, don’t look at me, don’t touch me, don’t fucking talk to me or about me. Let me get thru my shit, I’ll be fine.

  3. Thoughts-AndPrayers Avatar

    Wow I don’t feel so alone now

  4. Dense-Effective-1362 Avatar

    Same. But mostly because I don’t know how to comfort people, so I don’t like it when they comfort me as well.

  5. O_C_Demon Avatar

    This was/is me. Unfortunately I have severe OCD so I’m an extreme case but the need to seem independent and “hard” has led to total self isolation and crippling depression over a 40 year period.

    I’m now a middle aged man living in misery and this is a huge reason why.

  6. coocoointhehead Avatar

    Have you ever told them the same?

  7. Lacey_The_Doll Avatar

    I like being comforted only by two people, my partner and my sister, however with everyone else I just get so much anxiety to “get better” quicker or in their presence. It just irritates me.

  8. Mathalamus2 Avatar

    but… that completely destroys the point of crying. you may as well never cry again for all the use you give it.

    i wouldnt leave someone who is crying alone….. bad idea.

  9. LeafyCandy Avatar

    I’m the same way. Especially if you’re the person who made me mad. Give me a little bit. I’ll come to you if I need you.