For context I (25F) live with my boyfriend (29 M) in a shared apartment. I work 7 days on 7 days off, which means I’m not home for those 7 days ( I stay at work because I work 18 hour shifts and it’s impossible to go home to sleep) . When I was headed to work for the week I guess I forgot I was charging my vibrator on the end table in our living room. Two days later my boyfriend had a work friend over to have some brews having no idea my vibrator was on the end table right next to where his friend was sitting. His friend goes to charge his phone and sees my vibrator. I guess he picked it up and was laughing and joking that it was my boyfriend’s pink vibrator. My bf put it away and ended up telling me this story later that night. I feel so embarrassed that I left it out.
I also do see this friend of his occasionally and I am not sure if I should say anything about it, what should I say if I do? I just feel so awkward now. I get that everyone has sex toys but especially knowing he was touching it kinda weirded me out
Idk what to do when I see my bfs friend again
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Not a big deal OP. Buy a new vibrator if u r feeling awkward with that one.
it’s very weird that the friend just picked it up
Argh, I can see how that would make you cringe! But you can’t do anything about it, it’s done now, people know many of us have sex toys and the chances of him mentioning it must be very near zero. Just act normal around him and things will soon move on.
Not everyone has sex toys.
Don’t say anything
Charge it in the bedroom from now on. Problem solved. And I seriously doubt the friend will ever mention it to you or try to bust your chops about it
BUT
If he does say anything or try to make even the slightest off-color comment about your toy, look him dead in the eye and say “frankly, I find it troubling you tried to give my dildo a hand-job.” Do not break eye contact. Guarantee there will be no further disrespect from that direction.
Honestly, guys don’t care that much about this stuff. If you don’t make it weird, it won’t be weird.
Me and my ex once accidentally left a large dildo out in the bathroom, forgot it was there. Had friends (who were also a couple) over for games night. Few days later we found the dildo and put it away. Next time we had those friends over I got to thinking and asked if there was anything in the toilet they saw that perhaps shouldn’t have been there and my friend (m) admitted he had seen it, taken a picture and shown my other friend (f), we laughed about it, joked about it after that day. Sex is natural, it doesn’t matter