My birth mother tried to abort me, and I was born 4 months premature instead. Then the whole family was told I was a miscarriage. AMA.

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I was adopted almost immediately after birth, so I learned this information after getting in contact with my birth father, B.

Long story short, my birth mother, K, got pregnant, found out that I was a girl, freaked out, and tried to abort me with a coat hanger in the middle of winter in Alaska. Obviously, she failed, but induced premature labour instead. I was born at 1 lb, 5oz if I recall correctly.
Edit: My (real, adoptive) mom said I was estimated to be 21 weeks’ gestation.

Because I survived, and no one knew that besides B and K at this time, K threatened my dad into giving me up for adoption and claiming that I was miscarried. She said that if he didn’t, that she’d run away with both myself and their son (my brother), A.

So, yeah! Feel free to ask me anything you want! 😀 I’ll answer what I can! 🙂

Edit: here’s the proof that I could gather on short notice. Note that B is my birth dad 🙂 the other pics were me in the NICU

Edit 2: here are my scars from where I had to get medicine administered, since some of you still think that I’m lying.

Comments

  1. BabaSarah Avatar

    How old are you now?

    Do you forgive them?

  2. fadedf0x Avatar

    Do you have any health problems from being born so premature?
    I’m glad you’re here and alive!

  3. lovely_Mom__ Avatar

    howd you find your birth father ?

  4. Comfort_Not_Speed_50 Avatar

    Is that version of what happened all come from your birth father?

  5. Great_Blackberry_476 Avatar

    How do you feel about abortion? Are you against or agree?

  6. sprnana Avatar

    I have few!
    How was your adoption process like? Did your parents and your birth father had contact?

  7. BrownPeach143 Avatar

    May I get your time, date and place of birth? I’d like to draw up an astrological birth chart for you.

  8. Crafty_Addition_7342 Avatar

    Why didn’t your mother want a girl?

  9. DreamingofRlyeh Avatar

    Have you ever met other abortion survivors?

  10. [deleted] Avatar

    So you were 20 weeks gestation? Nope, not buying it.

    Edit: Now she says 21 weeks, which has a less than 1% survival rate. She also says she had her IV in her hand and side, but I know for an absolute fact that IVs in preemies are only placed in the hand, foot, or scalp.

    Go ahead and downvote me, but I’m still not buying this person’s story.

  11. my2centsalways Avatar

    Were you and your brother adopted by the same family?

  12. Danger_Bay_Baby Avatar

    Do you believe this version of events? Have you heard the birth mother’s side of the story? I personally would be cautious of taking such a one sided story as fact. Best of luck to you!

  13. ThinkFirstPls Avatar

    She tried to abort you because you are a girl / now woman? Or would she abort a son too anyway?

  14. Pleasant_Formal_7791 Avatar

    I’m sorry but do you have any proof of this story? A 21 week preemie (as you’re claiming you were) has a 1% chance of survival in 2025, and is with massive risk of future health problems.

    If according to your age you were born in 1998, the chance of that is a solid zero.

  15. Glamma-2-3 Avatar

    I can tell you that it is possible her story is true. I mean, look at the Dionne quintuplets that were born in 1934 prematurely. Miracles happen. They all survived to adulthood. The smallest being just 1lb and some ounces. Largest 2lb 4 oz. Again…1934.

  16. Low_Attempt_1022 Avatar

    Are you pro life or choice??

  17. Dizzy_Ice5307 Avatar

    i pmed you 🙂

  18. Personal_Signal_6151 Avatar

    Please know you are loved.

  19. Main_Laugh_1679 Avatar

    Glad your alive