No matter how much my husband and I set our boundaries, my MIL insists that our two year old be ahead of the game on everything academic. She’s constantly comparing our child to my husband and her other kids at my child’s age and how she raised them.
My husband knew how to write his name and read before he was three and she’s freaking out that we aren’t taking the “appropriate measures” to get our child on the same path. She believes that it was all her doing that my husband is in the career position he’s in (her other three kids barely graduated high school…) and that without making him learn to write and do Hooked on Phonics, he wouldn’t be where he is today. Essentially, we are failing our child. Meanwhile, my “failing” child knows the basic shapes, can count past twenty on her own and associates it with quantities, and LOVES to read. All of this wasn’t forced on her, she took an interest and we went with it. She is also emotionally intelligent, has shown she can be empathetic towards others, and is learning to manage her emotions in a healthy way (obviously she’s two and we has tantrums 😅), but none of this matters to MIL…
Anyway, at this point, whenever MIL sends links to toys or devices (like the most recent one being a Lakeshore Learning Trace & Write Alphabet Center), I ignore her because she doesn’t listen. I just wish she would just be a grandma instead of forcing her way to raise another child.
Mainly a rant, but if you want to send advice, it’s appreciated, but not necessary. Thanks for listening 😌
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