That’s as much of a thing as reverse racism or any shit like that.
I’ve been underweight most of my life, and of course I get unsolicited advice and comments on my body like I’m sure 99% of people do regardless of what they look like. But “skinny shaming” is still not a thing, for most of society skinny is still “the standard to be achieved”.
I’m not that skinny, and weigh 190-200 lbs at a height of 5’4″. However, I seem to carry my weight in a way that people assume I weigh a lot less than I do. I’m grateful for that, but it gets frustrating when people dismiss my attempts at establishing healthy behaviors as not being necessary.
For example, I’ll talk about working out at the gym or starting to cut back on carbs, and other people (mostly women) will comment about how I “don’t need to do that”, or act impressed by saying things like “that’s why you’re so thin!”. When in reality, I do need to work out and eat healthy just to maintain my above average weight. But it feels awkward to interject with “actually, I am overweight” and have to prove needing a reason to be healthy. Honestly, every person regardless of weight should be exercising and eating well, but it seems like “skinny” people get scoffed at for trying. Why should people hide the fact they are doing healthy habits to make others feel better? Shouldn’t we all just be equally excited and encouraging of each other for being our healthiest?
after my last child was born, I posted a postpartum photo of myself to the fb mom ‘birth month’ group I was part of.
I was wearing a cute dress, two weeks postpartum, and was back to my original size (0-2), because I was so sick I didn’t gain any weight during pregnancy. I looked cute and was headed to nicu to visit my baby.
admins removed it and said I gave women false hope about what it looked like after having a baby.
When i went to get a dress tailored, the store owner said “I’m going to take you in the back and force feed you pizzas” 🙄🙄🙄 I’m 5’3 and 105 lbs.. but my build is literally tiny my bones are tiny as well.. and i get it.. I’m not curvy but F* off lady! I eat plenty! U go force feed yourself 🤦🏻♀️ needless to say i went to another tailor for alterations.
Every time I tell people I work out and am on a bulk, without fail, people will comment something along the lines of they wish they had that problem/it isn’t hard/I should just eat more.
As if dry heaving over food every day is any easier than doing a diet. Imo it’s just as hard, it’s only the reverse
I’ve always been pretty skinny and my own mom used to tell me “whoa, you look sick” when I’d come back from college (which I genuinely wasn’t, when I think about it now I think it was the combination of some mild gauntness from not having a lot of money for food combined with lack of sleep and lack of sun from being indoors literally all the time).
I’m 5’6″ 95lbs. Have been for years. I have a chronic illness, so I’ll likely always be thin. The amount of snide comments about eating that are “meant as a joke” or people asking how I got so thin make me want to dress like Billie Eilish. I’m an entertainer and model, and all of my photos make me feel like a skeleton, but everyone is always complimenting.
I am genetically a small person. I’m 5’2 – taller than my mom and almost as tall as my dad. We are all on the thin side as well. As I kid, I weighed 90-100lbs. As an adult, I’m 100-110lbs. The most my mom ever weighed was 120lbs, and that was when she was pregnant. The most I have ever weighed was 125lbs, and that was after a 2 year weightlifting bulk. We are just small people, it’s our genetics.
My entire life, I’ve been harassed by obese girls and women. Once in my life by an obese guy, but primarily women. Why do I even mention that they are obese? Because folks who were of healthy weight never once bullied me for my size.
I’ve been regularly called “Skeletor”, been told I have an eating disorder, been told “I thought you were anorexic”, been told that I look sick, or disgustingly thin (I don’t), been genuinely told I need to “eat a burger” or “put some meat on those bones”. Even by my friend groups growing up, I was made fun of for my size.
Until people see how much I can eat in a sitting… then they shut up about my size.
I never commented on the size of my friends. I never commented on what they ate, what they were shaped like, etc. I don’t know why I wasn’t afforded the same.
As an adult in my 30s now, I simply don’t tolerate those types of comments anymore. I will shut the person down if they comment on my size.
have had doctors and random people accuse me of having bulimia or anorexia and ignoring my actual concerns; have had mostly middle-aged women comment on my body a million times either saying they wish they could be like me or some type of insult (once, a woman told me a man would never be attracted to me because of how skinny i was and that real women have curves; my uncle once also was like “women without curves are disgusting”); made fun of a lot in middle school for small boobs even though they were obviously proportionate to my body; …. and yeah…. it sucks. ive gained more weight finally and its nice to not hear it as much.
After I lost a lot of weight and entered the ‘healthy’ range a few years ago. I felt fantastic but some people said they were ‘concerned’. Funny how they never said that when I was ballooning due to poor mental health in the years previous…
Honestly it’s nothing compared to fat shaming but there is this weird bitterness that other girls will project onto you.
In work I’d be eating a gluten free granola bar and these girls were like “come on, live and little and eat something fun for once”
I do eat fun things, I just happened to be eating something basic right then. And I’m gluten intolerant so that limits what I can have.
Also I remember I offered a girl in work some chocolate I’d brought in to share and she said “no I’m not having sugar right now. We can’t all be natural skinny minis like you”
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That’s as much of a thing as reverse racism or any shit like that.
I’ve been underweight most of my life, and of course I get unsolicited advice and comments on my body like I’m sure 99% of people do regardless of what they look like. But “skinny shaming” is still not a thing, for most of society skinny is still “the standard to be achieved”.
Usually just comments from people who are jealous. I try not to pay too much mind even though they can be very hurtful.
I’m not that skinny, and weigh 190-200 lbs at a height of 5’4″. However, I seem to carry my weight in a way that people assume I weigh a lot less than I do. I’m grateful for that, but it gets frustrating when people dismiss my attempts at establishing healthy behaviors as not being necessary.
For example, I’ll talk about working out at the gym or starting to cut back on carbs, and other people (mostly women) will comment about how I “don’t need to do that”, or act impressed by saying things like “that’s why you’re so thin!”. When in reality, I do need to work out and eat healthy just to maintain my above average weight. But it feels awkward to interject with “actually, I am overweight” and have to prove needing a reason to be healthy. Honestly, every person regardless of weight should be exercising and eating well, but it seems like “skinny” people get scoffed at for trying. Why should people hide the fact they are doing healthy habits to make others feel better? Shouldn’t we all just be equally excited and encouraging of each other for being our healthiest?
“Eat a Hamburger” was a common thing people said to me.
after my last child was born, I posted a postpartum photo of myself to the fb mom ‘birth month’ group I was part of.
I was wearing a cute dress, two weeks postpartum, and was back to my original size (0-2), because I was so sick I didn’t gain any weight during pregnancy. I looked cute and was headed to nicu to visit my baby.
admins removed it and said I gave women false hope about what it looked like after having a baby.
People taking pictures of me eating to prove that I do in fact eat. Can you imagine someone doing that to a fat person?
When i went to get a dress tailored, the store owner said “I’m going to take you in the back and force feed you pizzas” 🙄🙄🙄 I’m 5’3 and 105 lbs.. but my build is literally tiny my bones are tiny as well.. and i get it.. I’m not curvy but F* off lady! I eat plenty! U go force feed yourself 🤦🏻♀️ needless to say i went to another tailor for alterations.
Every time I tell people I work out and am on a bulk, without fail, people will comment something along the lines of they wish they had that problem/it isn’t hard/I should just eat more.
As if dry heaving over food every day is any easier than doing a diet. Imo it’s just as hard, it’s only the reverse
I’ve always been pretty skinny and my own mom used to tell me “whoa, you look sick” when I’d come back from college (which I genuinely wasn’t, when I think about it now I think it was the combination of some mild gauntness from not having a lot of money for food combined with lack of sleep and lack of sun from being indoors literally all the time).
I’m 5’6″ 95lbs. Have been for years. I have a chronic illness, so I’ll likely always be thin. The amount of snide comments about eating that are “meant as a joke” or people asking how I got so thin make me want to dress like Billie Eilish. I’m an entertainer and model, and all of my photos make me feel like a skeleton, but everyone is always complimenting.
My mother told me she hates me. Yes because I’m skinny.
Edit: she said it in a flippant way were to her it was mist funny but I was 15 and didn’t fully understand. I carried guilt for a long time about it.
For some reason I’ve found women think it is okay to say things like that to other skinny women, because I hear some version of it often.
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Oh god it’s been happening my entire life.
I am genetically a small person. I’m 5’2 – taller than my mom and almost as tall as my dad. We are all on the thin side as well. As I kid, I weighed 90-100lbs. As an adult, I’m 100-110lbs. The most my mom ever weighed was 120lbs, and that was when she was pregnant. The most I have ever weighed was 125lbs, and that was after a 2 year weightlifting bulk. We are just small people, it’s our genetics.
My entire life, I’ve been harassed by obese girls and women. Once in my life by an obese guy, but primarily women. Why do I even mention that they are obese? Because folks who were of healthy weight never once bullied me for my size.
I’ve been regularly called “Skeletor”, been told I have an eating disorder, been told “I thought you were anorexic”, been told that I look sick, or disgustingly thin (I don’t), been genuinely told I need to “eat a burger” or “put some meat on those bones”. Even by my friend groups growing up, I was made fun of for my size.
Until people see how much I can eat in a sitting… then they shut up about my size.
I never commented on the size of my friends. I never commented on what they ate, what they were shaped like, etc. I don’t know why I wasn’t afforded the same.
As an adult in my 30s now, I simply don’t tolerate those types of comments anymore. I will shut the person down if they comment on my size.
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have had doctors and random people accuse me of having bulimia or anorexia and ignoring my actual concerns; have had mostly middle-aged women comment on my body a million times either saying they wish they could be like me or some type of insult (once, a woman told me a man would never be attracted to me because of how skinny i was and that real women have curves; my uncle once also was like “women without curves are disgusting”); made fun of a lot in middle school for small boobs even though they were obviously proportionate to my body; …. and yeah…. it sucks. ive gained more weight finally and its nice to not hear it as much.
After I lost a lot of weight and entered the ‘healthy’ range a few years ago. I felt fantastic but some people said they were ‘concerned’. Funny how they never said that when I was ballooning due to poor mental health in the years previous…
I recently lost 75 pounds. I noticed now men are nicer to me and women are less nice.
Honestly it’s nothing compared to fat shaming but there is this weird bitterness that other girls will project onto you.
In work I’d be eating a gluten free granola bar and these girls were like “come on, live and little and eat something fun for once”
I do eat fun things, I just happened to be eating something basic right then. And I’m gluten intolerant so that limits what I can have.
Also I remember I offered a girl in work some chocolate I’d brought in to share and she said “no I’m not having sugar right now. We can’t all be natural skinny minis like you”
Like sis, it’s not a competition.