My FMIL wants to book a suite for my fiancé and I, herself and my FFIL, and my fiancés brother & wife (and their child). As grateful as I am that they want to pay for our room, this means we’ll be sharing our suite with his family the night of our wedding, which sounds like a nightmare. I also don’t really want to share a room with a 1 year old… on our wedding night. Should my fiancé be putting his foot down and say no? Should we suck it up cause it’s a “free room”? I just can’t imagine enjoying sharing our space with his whole family during our wedding night. I wouldn’t mind being in the same hotel but at least give us a separate room on another floor so we can have some privacy! HELP!!!
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Put your foot down and get your own room. Y9ur wedding night is just for the 2 of you, and that isn’t happening when sharing a suite.
Obviously don’t agree to this. Six adults and an infant in one room is ridiculous. If your fiancé is in favor of it because it’s a free room, cancel the wedding and seek counseling.
This is absolutely a hill to die on! Everyone knows the wedding night is sacred. Your FMIL is out of her mind if she thinks this is ok, and if your future husband agrees, he’s not ready for marriage.
Can you think of anything else about your FMIL that struck you as odd, but you brushed off? Please don’t ignore glaring red flags.
Even if you’re too tired for sex the night of the wedding, you need space to relax, decompress and have a really good sleep. This is never going to happen with 6 adults and a baby in one space. Don’t do it.
What the fuck? How is that even a question? How creepy and icky is that? Do you want to have sex on your wedding night with your MIL and FIL next door listening? Like who could get in the mood? Absolutely you should not be subjected to that, super weird she would offer, and your husband should absolutely say thanks but NO thanks!
Ewwwwww.
Don’t marry this man. If he wasn’t immediately revolted and offended and outright refused their offer, he’s not ready to go home with a wife, he needs to go back home to mommy.
tell them you insist on a honeymoon salad: LETTUCE ALONE.
Get your own room!!!
I would not go through the wedding if this is even on the table. This suggestion must be some kind of a ridiculous joke.
No no no hell no
What in the hillbilly hell? What does your fiance say? If he thinks this is even SOMEWHAT normal, I’d be rethinking my choices.
Absolutely not! This is NOT normal. And if your fiance can’t see how this isn’t normal and even worse won’t put his foot down and put a stop to it I wouldn’t be moving forward with the wedding. If they can’t afford to get you your own room then they shouldn’t be paying. Sounds like she’s trying to manipulate the situation into getting her way by paying for it. Who in their right mind would think it’s no big deal to share a room with a newly married couple on their wedding night?!
You want your MIL and a baby on the other slide of the door when you’re going to want to boink and then sleep forever? Good luck